plz need advice .. kinda long

adriels_mommy · May 2011

I absolutely love and adore my bf/bd and he was talking to me about getting married which im excited about. We are both 21 and I know we are young but we love each other. The situation is that he us illegal but has been here since he was a little kid. He spoke with his lawyer and he told him it's going to be more years till he can get his papers. He can't get a job or a license because he has no papers so its hard for him to try and help me. So I we talked about getting married because we love eachother, we're having a baby, and it'd help with his paper process. So my best friend I wanted to share the good news about what we we're thinking and she was mad and said im making a big mistake. She wasn't happy when she found out I was pregnant and she's not happy now. So she's done this twice she texts me after and tells me hope you have a nice life, things go good like basically not wanting to talk to me when I did nothing but share good news with her. yearhave been bestfriends for 9 years, so im at a lost because I thought she would be supportive and happy. Not "break up with me" that's what it feels like.
I know what I want and am truly happy with my bd in every way. But I don't see why she don't approve.. plz any advice..

ethansmommy122 · May 2011

Maybe she feels ur getting married for the wrong reasons (not saying u are but maybe that's it) ...Or maybe she's jealous? Maybe she feels he's "stealing" you...Have u asked what her deal is?

aalamillo · May 2011

Could she be jealous of your happiness? If you have been friends for 9yrs I would think she would support you. I would ask her why shes being so negative and let her know that her abondonment hurts you. Good luck I hope things work out

adriels_mommy · May 2011

@ethansmommy122 @aalamillo Thank you ladies .. I did talk to her but she never gives me a reason, idk she's supposed to be happy for me.. she's always been like this. . But if it was her in my shoes it would be a different situation.

ethansmommy122 · May 2011

Then mayb she's not a true friend after all...one who would truly be there for u through it all! U realize who ur "true" friends are once u have a child...keep ur head up ma it'll work out in the end like it should, sounds like u have a good man at ur side!

kay_la_la · May 2011

If she was your true friend she would have nicely told you her feelings, that she didnt agree and why, and then would have said 'whens the date? I best be maid of honor?' Lol true friendship is unconditional..because that is what friends are supposed to b for. Not to make you feel like shit because they dont agree with you. If you are positive this is what you want and you are happy, it should be no question of whether shes there for you.

2lilblessings · May 2011

I think u should talk to her and if she doesn't want to support u its her loss if u love ur bf u should marry him and give the baby a happy family, it seems like she's jealous of u

gemini_babies · May 2011

There have been times when I didn't approve or support my friend's actions. But I always gave her a reason and just shared my feelings. I still stood by her nonetheless. I would give her time to cool off and try to talk things out. I feel if your friend continues to be stubborn then she isn't being a good friend to you. Good luck! Congrats on your bundle of joy!

VictoriaB · May 2011

My two best friends ditched me when I told them I was getting married. One of them texted me "have a nice life with Shane (hubby) because I'm not going to be a part of it" and the other girl blew up my phone until I finally answered and she wouldn't let me try to get a word in at all and told me, "I don't think we can be friends anymore". I hung up on her and cried.

I got pregnant 2 months after my wedding and didn't get back in contact with them until I was about 4 1/2 months. Once we started talking again, everything instantly went back to normal and that's how I know we're good friends.

plz need advice .. kinda long

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