May I please have your opinion?

SheentahleaSheentahlea
edited February 2011 in Trying to conceive
My hubby and I are ttc and waiting to see if I am actually pregnant right now. So, I brought up the subject of a midwife. I want to do it the old fashioned way. Lol... well, sort of. I want a midwife, but I want to deliver at the hospital. Make sense? My hubby's response, "We are not hippies and we are having our kids at the hospital like it was meant to be." (Am I the only one who finds his statement ironic? Lol). What does everyone think, midwife or OB? I would love to hear of experiences with midwives, too. Thanks!

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  • soon2b3soon2b3
    unfortunately, i believe obs are safer. the whole midwife idea is nice but doesnt seem as favorable when it comes to my life and the life of my child.
    perhaps you should research for an ob that specializes in traditional, no drug or inducment birth and possibly water birth at a hospital etc
  • somastarsomastar
    Im delivering at a birthing center with a midwife. After seeing the documentary "the business of being born" I wanted to give it a shot. If u are healthy I say go for it. Its whatever u are comfortable with. Tell your husband midwives arent just for hippies lol.
  • LillieBugLillieBug
    I had a midwife until I became at risk for blood clots and then had to switch to an OB in the same office. Midwives have to go to school for 5-6 years at least. They are slightly cheaper to see but they do deliver at hospitals. The midwife I was seeing actually had more experience than the OB
  • cheekyerincheekyerin
    I'm in aus n unless u have n pay private we have midwife del all our babies iv never bad a problem with them
  • SheentahleaSheentahlea
    @somastar He is hilarious. We watched some weird movie about a midwife and he had all of the wrong ideas. He thought he wouldn't be involved and she would take his place. Lol I have a lot of explaining to do.
    @LillieBug I would definitely go to an OB if there were serious medical risks, but I really want to go the midwife route.

    Have both of you had good experiences as far as bedside manner, etc. with your midwives?

    @Momofsoontobe3 I appreciate your opinion. (My mother agrees with you and hubby. Lol)
  • LillieBugLillieBug
    My actual OB was out of town the day I delivered. Her brother-In-law, another OB at the office actually did the delivery. I hardly remember him in the room bc I went from 6 to 10 cm in no time. I had the nurses pretty nervous bc it was pushing and he wasnt there yet. He made it in the room in thelast five min. My husband really liked him. I would have a problem going to a male ob for visit...especially when they do checks but having him deliver was actually something I would do again if I still lived there.
  • SheentahleaSheentahlea
    @cheekyerin that's what I have heard. My bestfriend and I have really been discussing the topic and she has done tons of research. A lot of different countries use midwives and they also have a lower c-section percentage than America.
  • br3ndamousebr3ndamouse
    watch that movie the business of being born with yur husband !!!!!
  • SheentahleaSheentahlea
    @br3ndamouse Will do. I haven't seen it myself, but I will make a point of it.
  • somastarsomastar
    I havent yet, I met him in a week. But several of my friends have delivered at the BC and swear by them! They cant say enough good things about their experiences. Plus they have lactation consultants on staff for all your questions amytime... Not just a few hrs at the hospital... From what I heard from several friends. From what I gather u get more personal attention and care. They stay with u through out the entire process, which is nice.
  • cheekyerincheekyerin
    Yeah we only see the Dr here once if everythings ok then midwife do all care n delivery there only been 1 midwife problem that was with bubs No 2 I told her my fears she told me it fat squishes seen her after I had him he didnt he was suck I told her yeah fat does squish but bones don't
  • SheentahleaSheentahlea
    How rude! Good for you for saying something to her. Healthy babies from your midwives?
  • Kmose77Kmose77
    I have had both my babys at a birthing inn with midwifes. They are certified nurse mid wifes. So they are fully trained in all areas of birthing and medicin. They can write persciptions, give shots, and a lot of medical procedures. Unlike a dr they only do womens medicin and births. Thats their whole focus and specialty. Where as a dr is super busy and often pulled in diff directions. Also spending a lot of time in other medical fields. So basicly my midwife herself had done over 400 births.. I'd say thats in the best interests of my child. People have all these miss conceptions thinking they are some incence burning mantra chanting hippies who don't really know anything. They go to med school!! You can have them deliver in a hospital or at a birthing inn. You can choose to use drugs or not. I didnt. I had mine natural. I didn't feel comfortable having them in my home. But I'm not a fan of hospitals. So the birthing inn was perfect. And they only allow you to have them there if there are no risks in your preg. My womens center is through franciscan health, and is headed by a Dr who specializes in high risk pregnancys. They do all womens care there as well. So i think its a great idea. I have dozens of friends who have gone through hospitals, and through the birthing inn. The one thing I notice through out is with most dr's they are very uninformed, and usually feel rushed through their apt. Not getting answers they want, or just not getting half the informations I recieved. Obviousely you can see my opinion. That said, everwhere is different. Look into who your seeing no matter if its a dr or a mid wife. There can be some crazy midwifes, and some careless dr's who are only in it for the money, and don't really care what you want. Midwifes do tend to help you learn about your body, what its made to do, how to deal with things naturaly and allow your body to do its best. MY OPINION, due to much much much research!! Good luck!!
  • katiemcmillan12katiemcmillan12
    Here in the uk midwifes always deliver our babies and docs only get involved if theres a problem.they do a great job. :-)
  • Babyluv_3Babyluv_3
    I had a midwive but i delieverd at a midwife clinic but there was also a doc n paramitics there jus in case something went wrong n had to be rushed to a hospital..but everything with smooth
  • cheekyerincheekyerin
    Yes 3 happy babies in July will b 4 @ the hossy has a great program I'm sure Ur Ull do what right 4 u
  • cheekyerincheekyerin
    all my births iv had a training midwife there as well figure every1 needs to learn
  • angiefaceangieface
    I want a midwife or doula but im highrisk so I cant :(
  • SheridanLM1991SheridanLM1991
    In the UK it is the norm for you to see a midwife throughout your pregnancy and have them deliver your baby. This can be at a hospital or home or birthing centre. We normally only see a doctor if there's a need to since obs are technically for the baby, not the pregnant woman but obviously they can still care for you during your pregnancy. :-) you should do what ever makes you feel comfortable. Midwives are completely competent and doctors will still be available if they're needed won't they lol
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    I had my third child at home with a midwife. Best thing ever. Nobody to bug you, comfort of your own home, your rules& you don't have to deal with germs. My midwife went to thru E.M.T. training, did bloodwork, etc it is a wonderful thing, as long as you don't have any medical problems.
  • Mom2McKennaMom2McKenna
    I'm pregnant with my first and I chose the midwives and I love them! I chose them so I could have a more one on one experience and not be treated like just another patient. Also I know that on the day I deliver (at the hospital) one of my two midwives will be the one delivering my baby. With the obgyn its not a for sure they will be the doctor to deliver the baby. So for sure meet and atleast talk with a midwife. Oh and I'm not a hippy ;-)
  • JwigsJwigs
    My first appointment is on Tuesday and I chose to go with midwives. I was birthed by a midwife, as was my brother and my friend's daughter.

    My midwives deliver in the hospital, so I don't even have to worry about being sent to a different location if an emergency happens.
  • SheentahleaSheentahlea
    Thank you sooooo much everyone for your opinions. Everyone in my family looks at me like I have lost my mind when I talk about having a midwife. I just think it will me more personal experience than with an OB...and I really want to know for sure who will be delivering our child.
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