religion ??? baptism question

stormyparadisestormyparadise
edited May 2011 in Just for Fun
i'm an atheist and i didn't baptize my first son but my hubby is catholic and wants to baptize our son ... i don't really care either way... i want my children to be able to decide for themselves after they have learned enough about all different types of religion and science i really don't want to force religion upon them. my hubby is really all about the baptism and i will oblige him but i don't want my first son to feel out of place, should i baptize him as well? confused (ps i am not baptized but my hubby is)
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  • hiannaaahiannaaa
    How old is he?
  • mrs_wainrightmrs_wainright
    I'm Catholic and one thing I don't like is that they baptize Tue baby when baby can't decide. but I love my religion. I just think it should be their choice.
    I however was baptized when I was a baby and I appreciate it from my mom.. she thought that much of me to try and save my soul early on (sounds weird lol) bit I can see both sides of it!
  • yayyay
    Question? Why do u get baptized
  • texasbeauty2787texasbeauty2787
    Im with you on letting your child make that decision (my daughters ears aren't even pierced). But if you are going to baptize one you should baptize the other it would be nice to have them done together my brother and sister were.
  • ckazfirstckazfirst
    @stormyparadise I was raised catholic was baptised and kinda forced to grow up in the church ways and tradition. Here's helpful advise just so you both are happy. The baby can be baptised and the decision to follow religion can be made up from the child if they so choose. Hard part is finding god parents because they both have to be baptised as well. If its in the catholic church. I no longer go to church but I do plan on baptism for our baby. It's important to me and both families. @yay the reason in the catholic side is to wash away sins and to cleanse baby and to welcome it into the church. Best thing to do is ask around though. Too many views. Good luck all
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  • ckazfirstckazfirst
    @stormyparadise I was raised catholic was baptised and kinda forced to grow up in the church ways and tradition. Here's helpful advise just so you both are happy. The baby can be baptised and the decision to follow religion can be made up from the child if they so choose. Hard part is finding god parents because they both have to be baptised as well. If its in the catholic church. I no longer go to church but I do plan on baptism for our baby. It's important to me and both families. @yay the reason in the catholic side is to wash away sins and to cleanse baby and to welcome it into the church. Best thing to do is ask around though. Too many views. Good luck all
  • awhaley28540awhaley28540
    I'm catholic born and raised lol. My son is baptized and my daughter will be baptized. As their mother it is my job to protect them, including getting them baptized. What if my son died tomorrow and he wasn't baptized. I would feel horrible. But that's my opinion. Do what u think is right, or do as u wish.
  • stormyparadisestormyparadise
    @yay its the process of washing ones sins away or a rebirth of sorts saving ones soul incase of death not really 100% sure. i suppose it depends on the religion.

    @hiannaaa he's four.

    @mrs_wainright i have five sisters and they were all baptized i was not because we have a different dad and my father believes in religion but that i should have the opportunity to decide for myself. when i was a kid i believed in god but over the years i have sat on a fence about it then finally came to my final resting place so to speak. thank you for your insight.

    @texasbeauty2787 i think you're right if i do one i should do the other i certainly don't want one to think i favor one over the other and if they do believe in turn thinks he will end up in hell but not his brother because mommy neglected him. thank you
  • mrs_wainrightmrs_wainright
    @stormyparadise you are most definitely welcome(: I Luke the thought if our parents trying but i thunk the kid should have the freedom!
  • Summergirl22Summergirl22
    edited May 2011
    My parents christened me as a small baby, I was raised christian but only went to church on holidays, as an adult I do not go to church but I still consider my self christan/catholic and believe in god and jesus, I just am not a strong follower (i dont go to church) I didnt christen my son because the priest wouldn't christen a baby if the god parents didnt attend church every week! I feel bad because I wanted him christened but he couldn't be

  • Summergirl22Summergirl22
    edited May 2011
    Technically you are not baptized until you chose to be as an adult, christening is done as a baby, there is a difference....

    http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Difference-Between-a-Baptism-and-Christening&id=1488019
  • mrs_rodneymrs_rodney
    Ok my opinion, all children are born under a grace of God because they cannot make the decision. Baptism is not right when they are a child because they can't choose, but dedication is which means you plan to bring your child up to know God. It is still your choice just remember whether you believe in him or not until a child reaches the age of understanding (which is different for everyone) they will go to heaven if they die. God bless.
  • sduboissdubois
    None of my kids are and my moms family is catholic and think I'm crazy for not doing it...why does a baby or child need to be "saved" I don't get it,I'm not religious but have no problem with my kids choosing to be when they are old enough to make that choice. But really I don't get it as babys or children if there is a heaven then I would hope kids would automaticly get in :)
  • Summergirl22Summergirl22
    edited May 2011
    Its not that a baby needs to be saved, it more of a ceramony were the god parents promise to raise the child as christian/catholic if something shall happen to the parents, its where the importance of "god parents" come from..hence the name...god...parents
  • Summergirl22Summergirl22
    @sdubois
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    Im glad you raised this question because we array odds over it also. I recently had a huge falling out with the catholic church and annoy happy with the way my family was treated. I wrote a letter to our bishop about it because it was so bad.... and haven't heard anything and it was totally swept under the rug.

    Baby daddy would like to baptize catholic... but i have a bitter taste in my mouth for them right now. I want me daughter to make her own decisions.
  • Summergirl22Summergirl22
    Obviously as an adult you are free to choose what you believe in and which religion you choose to follow (if any at all) but as a parent I choose to teach my kids my religion and raise them that way, when there older, if they decide they want to convert or not be religious I will stand behind them and support thier decision. However I think it is important to teach your kids your religion because it allows them to "believe" in general. I think being able to believe in things you might not be able to physically see is important. ex: you teach your child to trust, although you cannot see it, its there if you believe it. Also religion provides your child with structure and guidance.
  • Summergirl22Summergirl22
    @stormyparadise just wondering where you raised atheist or is that something you chose on your own once you where old enough?
  • gemini_babiesgemini_babies
    My hubby and I are catholics. We don't want to force our children either. Our friend was baptized when he was a baby. But when he was of age to go to catholic school his parents gave him the choice to decide. I think we are planning to do that.
  • stormyparadisestormyparadise
    edited May 2011
    @Summergirl22 nope i was raised with religion but i was also allowed the freedom to make up my own mind about all the information given to me. i learned all kinds of religion my mom is catholic and my father pentecostal, my uncle is a jahovah witness so i've also attended his temple... i have over the years learned and read a lot about religion but in the end came to my own conclusion and made my choice based on gathered information including scientific information. the way i see it was best said by benjamin franklin "to follow by faith alone is to follow blindly".

    @mrs_rodney well if i am wrong and there is a heaven and a god then its good to know that my children will be admitted in through the pearly gates. i will certainly not push religion on any of my children, i just don't think its right and is a form of brain washing. my husband and i were talking about it last night and he said to me that he was forced and had to go to church and religion classes so on and so forth. he also said he hated it, but that if he had to do it with no choice his kids shouldn't have a choice either. i completely disagree but i try to choose my battles wisely.

    @maggie i feel you i have always had a bad taste in my mouth when it comes to the catholic religion, i mean i have researched it quite a bit and there is a lot of risky business that goes on and gets swept under a rug that is becoming a massive mountain. good luck all i know is i will never leave my children unsupervised with any priest. even if michael jackson wasn't guilty i still wouldn't send my boys to never never land for a play date.
  • preggointxpreggointx
    I'm not knocking anyone's decisions but I was raised Baptist and I did not get baptized till I was like 9 and I didn't ujnderstand it but I know that it was my moms job to do what she thought was best for me until I could decide. I am baptizing my son as a baby and when he is older he can decide what he wants but until them I am going to to do what I think is best and I think so should u if u want ur children to be baptized then do it if not then don't I get the conflict though my dad is cathloic and mom is baptist and I went to the catholic church until I was 9 but I never understood it even now when I go with my uncles to the catholic church I'm not understanding because they speak in latin or something but when my dad goes to the baptist church he gets all nervous and antsy because he doesn't under the screaming and shouting. I wish u the best of luck with ur decision but a person is never too old to get baptized and I think if he is old enough u should talk to him and see how he feels since ur household is not the same with religion much like mine
  • stormyparadisestormyparadise
    @2ndbutfirst isn't it said that children are born without sin??? what's the point of it all? baptism may not be forcing the religion upon them but catechism, communion, and conformation isn't forced? what kid genuinely likes to do all that or wants to? shouldn't they not have to worry about it and enjoy getting all muddied up? they should be children and carefree.
  • islandgirlislandgirl
    Im catholic. I want my baby to b baptize just like me. Im proud to b catholic!
  • xFirstTimeMomxxFirstTimeMomx
    I feel that it should wait til the baby is older in my opinion. So he/she is old enough to decide on its own. My husband is atheist but his moms strict catholic and tried raising him catholic and baptized him. His adoptive sister was adopted at 7 or 8 and was baptized at 14 by her own choice. Eventhough his mom wants our son baptized its not what we want. I think it should be your child's choice.
  • preggointxpreggointx
    well I was told that children are born with the sins of the parents and their parents and so on over their heads...it all depends okn what u believe and I love taking communion There are kids at my church who would amaze u a little girl praised dance at our youth explosion and there was not a dry eye in sight and I felt like if God can work on a child that young to reach people in the way she did then it has to be hope for me
  • stormyparadisestormyparadise
    @xFirstTimeMomx i completely agree, no matter what my son decided i would support him 100% but dad feels he had to suffer through it so they should too ugh what a pain this is. i'm a spaz i don't want my children left alone with anyone but me
  • DiverwfeDiverwfe
    Im not religious but I thought they baptized babies b/c if they weren't and they died they would go to pergutory
  • stormyparadisestormyparadise
    @preggointx i have attended the baptist church and i must say i've enjoyed it so i can see why, the liveliness of it all but have you been to a catholic church???? Zzz snore!!! my hubby is catholic so thats what we would be baptizing them.
  • preggointxpreggointx
    yes my dad is cathloic and they speak in latin and I don't understand it but he is a proud catholic and he loves mass
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