Needing advice on what to tell my boyfriend...

16andSoontoBeMommy16andSoontoBeMommy
edited February 2011 in Trying to conceive
My boyfriend really wants a baby. But just having a miscarriage and raising my God kids with him, I'm not really sure if I'm ready for kids of my own & I'm only 16 & he's 17 about to turn 18. What should I do.?

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  • barbiebarbie
    Just say no. Enjoy your time now there's always time later down the road!
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  • Proud_mami7Proud_mami7
    Tell him ur not ready and if he loved u he should understand :X
  • Kmose77Kmose77
    Take some time. You are still super young. You have all the time in the world. Unless your already preg just relax. He should understand. Just let him know you want some time with just him for a bit. So you can be selfish with your time together, do what you want, go where you want. Not so much of that with kiddo's around..
  • ashesashes
    Ok wow you are 16...you have so much ahead of you. There's SO, SO, SOOOO much to do WITHOUT children, why are you trying to get pregnant? I'm 23 and I think I'm even young for this.

    Children will change everything, I'm only 7 weeks and already can't do as much as I want. Take the time to be with your boyfriend, just you and him. Live your lives as much as possible before considering a baby, go to school, go take a trip/vacation, save up money and build a life together before you build your life for a third+.

    It's my opinion but really... there's just so much to do before you consider having a child. I've seen way too many kids in my high school have kids at 16, 17, 18...and every one that I know that has, is basically dependent on someone else. Please— birth control is your best friend at that age :)
  • bettybetty
    Live Life to the fullest and have No Regrets!!
  • SweetMamaSweetMama
    I agree with @ashes I'm 23 and was on birth control (nuva ring) but still got pregnant. Please be careful and live your life to the fullest. I feel like I'm too young for this but o well its too late now. You can still go to college... go and live for yourself.
  • CrumbledCookieCrumbledCookie
    I agree with @ashes to the fullest. I'm going to be 23 in 2 weeks and a mother in 7. I just graduated from college but since I got pregnant moving forward got complicated, not only do I have to consider what to do for my baby but my husband as well. It easy for a guy to say he wants a baby but its a woman decision, its not something that can be easily walked away from or managed at any age, especially at 16. I hope you wait and given the fact that you said you just had a miscarriage you need time to deal with that first. Let him know you both need time.
  • AND83AND83
    Just say no.
  • Teen_Mommy_of_TwinsTeen_Mommy_of_Twins
    Explain to Brian that ur not ready for kids of your own. & thank-you for recommending me to pregly. I love it
  • MáthairMáthair
    I agree with everyone else. I know there are plenty of teen moms out there who are good loving mothers but why scarafice your own childhood? If he loves you he will respect your desision to wait. I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 when I had my son, his father pressured me into it and I assumed that it would take years to concieve so it was sort of unplanned for me. I was a child still, What did I know.

    Well we were married and living on our own and instead of being with me and the baby at the hospital he was "hanging out" with a ex girlfriend. I was "being to much of a downer by complaining about the pain"

    Our marriage failed shortly after that and I felt like my life was over. I was on my own, I watched friends going out to bars and parties last minute not having to find or pay for sitters. It was horrible. Life did get better for me and I love my son but I know my life would of been alot different. Not nessarly better but I would of been able to do all of the things I dreamed of at a young age, now I have to wait until I retire, or win the lotto. :)

    I'm not saying this will be the same story for you, but seriously think about what you want to do with your life. If you decide that being a mom is your goal in life atleast wait until you both have a place to live and are either graduated from high-school or have GEDs. It will make everything so much easier. Adopt a puppy or kitten if you can not contain your parental instincts.
  • ashesashes
    @sweetmama & @crumbledcookie thank you! I'm not alone in this, not a day goes by where I think about how much my life is going to change, how I wish I could have finished college first to be able to buy a house on my own for this. I was on birth control for the past 5 years...don't get low-dose hormone pills, they don't work -___-
  • jcmommyjcmommy
    P.s. if you aren't ready, please get on birth control because if he wants one, he might "accidently" get you pregnant.
  • allie8955allie8955
    u pretty much got no life after that...ur kid is your 24/7 job!! kids change a lot for u! have fun and enjoy life first! greatest luck sweeetie :)
  • 16andSoontoBeMommy16andSoontoBeMommy
    @ashes I'm not trying to get pregnant.
    But I did tell him I'm not ready. & he respects that I'm not ready and he agreed to wait until we were older.
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