should i b mad???

jazzi89jazzi89
edited May 2011 in Pregnant
Every Sunday morning my bf goes to the bar after work at 6a.m. and he's usually home by 9 at the latest. Well today he didn't get home until 11 and he was completly plastered. I just ignored him but then he wanted to to cometo the bedroom to, you know. And I did without hving second thoughts. For somereason I feel like I should b pissed but idk I'm not. He's going to sleep all day until he has to go to work for 18 hrs at 6pm. Hmm. Am I just dumb?
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  • Jess510Jess510
    I'm sorry if this offends you by is he drinking so early?
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  • one5oneone5one
    Every Sunday you deal with that. He mite gotta a problem. Drinking more & more. But if it don't bother you. Then so what. Its your marriage & if you're happy you're happy!
  • momamarmomamar
    what kind of bar is open at 6am on a sunday morning? lol.
    My husband works night sometimes but he never drinks while hes working.
  • VousêtesbelleVousêtesbelle
    no sometimes there's just ni need to get upset even if u feel u should be dont let it bother u im starting to get like that too like if my bf says something really stupid im just like eh who cares no need to waste my energy nd get into an arguement... less stress for us!(:
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @Jess510 he just does it on sundays after work with his boss. He works third shift. @lil_buggie_3 ya I hate fighting. Idk I wasn't even really pissed which is weird. @one5one it usually does bother me but I guess I go used to it. I just have a lot of ppl saying that I'm blind and dumb for letting him do that. Am I?
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @momamar around here there's quite a few open for third shiters when they get off work
  • paganmompaganmom
    I always say that everyone has our faults and some you can deal with some you can't. If it bothers you enough then it should be addressed. I know as a pregnant woman a lot of shit bugs me but then the way i am I know its mostly me. Id say you will know when it is a major issue.
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @paganmom ya that's y I'm starting to wonder if I'm just stupid. It usually bothers me and it did a little when I started getting lter but idk I just got over it when he got home. Idk y
  • BabyKixALotBabyKixALot
    Unless you had plans that he's blowing off, keep that laid back mentality. Right? If it doesn't bug you, don't make it an issue. Crisis averted ;-) and you got some lovin!
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @BabyKixALot lol no I had no plans. And I've been pretty laid back since he started this little routine. But my friends are making a huge deal of it so I was wondering if I'm blind n dumb or something
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    The lovin was great too lol tmi but he lsts longer and is more kinky whn he's drunk or on something lol
  • one5oneone5one
    Listen other don't matter. I've been there. My hub drinks & sometimes I don't mind. Usually I do. I tried talking to my hub bout it. But at times he'll drink & act soo very ignorant. Othertimes he's ok. Long story but I have issues with mine drinking. But if you don't then no one else matters. I quit tellung people bout my problems with his drinking. They already have their negative thought on him. On that. Try talking to your man & how it makes you feel. I've never gotton used to my man drinking & never will. I've just learned to deal. But know what..... I wouldn't want my children living with the feelings I do. But I don't tell peo anymore. Its not worth listening to them tellng me things I already know. If all else fails talk to a professional.
  • BabyKixALotBabyKixALot
    Aren't we all?? Lol lol lol I'm the same way. My hubby rarely goes out after work, but when he does, he always lets me know. The only time I get mad is when he says he'll be home at a certain time and he's way late. And then it's not the issue that I'm mad he went out--I'm pissed he's late and made me worry.
  • one5oneone5one
    Is he only having sex with u while drunk? What happens after baby comes?
  • BabyKixALotBabyKixALot
    ^^^^ @jazzi89
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @one5one ya I think I'm fine with him drinkin with his boss its not like he does it everyday afte work. I think that would get to me. I think I'm going to talk to him though about maybe cutting back on hrs on his Sunday nights because that's when he works 18 hrs and sleeps a ton so I won't bable to spnd time with him til Tuesday aftrnoon grr
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @one5one no he doesn't only do it when he drinks. Its been over a week tho so idk if that's a bad thing that it happened today. I'm not sure if he's going to keep hi routine after babies here? :\
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @BabyKixALot ya I think that upset me the most the fact that he didn't get home til 11 and was drinking at the bar for 5 hrs
  • kissflokissflo
    edited May 2011
    Sometimes keeping ur mouth shut. Makes them feel stupid n look like a ass. So just sit back n look as long as he don't put his hands on u. I wouldn't say nothing until he comes around. Then tell his ass off.
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    Oh and this was the first time I had ever seen him drunk, not just buzzed but drunk really drunk
  • one5oneone5one
    Ok with liquor people build tolerance. So he'll be drinking morw & more & getting drunker & drunker. Maybe he can cut it to once a month. Because when baby comes trust me it'll start really pissing u off. Plus its not good for baby to get used to & grow up thinking its ok & normal.
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @one5one he only drinks beer nothing hard or strong. I'm assuming hell cut down when she comes. He's already got a month of vacation plannd. I hope he's just doing it while he still can kind of thing
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    I really dk
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    I think u should just have a peaceful Sunday and not be mad at him. Let him get his rest bc it sounds like he's a hard working man. Remember this is your relationship not anyone elses so don't let it get to you when people say you're blind or dumb for letting him do that.
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @Tootie08 ya I'm letting him sleep til 530 and I'm fine with spending time alone. I do it often. I don't know y I'm letting other peopleget to me but theyr making me feel like he's doing something awful. Thanks for the advice :) he is very hard working. He works 12 to 18 hr shifts everyday while I stay at home. He provides everything pretty much
  • TrisharoseTrisharose
    I agree.. Dont let what they say to you make you feel like your doing something wrong by not blowing this up. I think you probably start feeling upset because they keep saying you should be. If your not, thats a good thing (not dumb or blind) You realize he want to let loose after all them hours.. And he comes home to you drunk. Its once a week lol. Some men do that EVERYDAY DONT COME HOME AT ALL AND LOSE THEIR JOB BECAUSE OF IT. If its ok with you it should be ok with your friends. Its your man
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @trisharose thank u! Ya idk y they're making this into a huge deal. He still calls or txts me at the bar he always comes straight home he never passes out. Idk I'm just reallynot upset about it. I think its good for him because he's wound up so tight to begin with. He evn offered to pick me up to go with him but that's too early to socialize for me lol. He is my man! Lol they need to chill I think
  • TrisharoseTrisharose
    Sometimes ppl want to hear drama (not saying) thats why they feed the issue. But one way you will know is... If you stop telling them about it and they ask "so how are things with him going out after work" thats a sure sign. Or other comments without you even mentioning it. I know you the one that told them to bein with but they should be happy your not stressing over something so minor. He answer your calls.. Ask if you want to come along its obvious he want you to feel comfortable about him enjoyin himself. Atleast he cares about how you feel or what you think. Do they ever comment on the good?
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    Ya I think he's a good guy. No they are always negative comments. Me and my bf got preg a week into dating. So they always bring that up. And me and andy have come a long way to get where we are. We are proud parents now we have righted all our wrongs but they nvr let us forget about the wrongs grr they just make me so mad. Its not good for a relatonship hearing so many negative things about ur other half
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