Ohkay.. very off topic.. im venting.. maybe tmi..

MyMiracleBaby100111MyMiracleBaby100111
edited June 2011 in October 2011
Ohkay.. Ive been with my fiance a little over 2 years now.. he says our sex is boring. So, he wants to do a three-sum. Im not comfortable doing a three-sum, or just even thinking about another girl touching him.. and he knows that.. to the point where he had not brought it up for almost 3 months.. So yesterday.. I asked him what he wanted for his birthday (june 19th) and he said he didnt want to tell me because it would hurt my feelings. So, i automatically knew what he was talking about, and just responded to him with "whatever ill just find you two sluts to fuck, that way i dont have to be involved and you can have your fucking three-sum!!!" while saying this i was crying, he got all happy and said ohkay baby! Ive been very depressed, grumpy, emotional, and barely responding to him without crying since last night when this happened.. he wont stop yelling at me cause for some reason he doesnt know whats wrong with me.. I know he knows whats wrong.. he always does when its about this kinda stuff.. I just need all this stress on my little girl to go away so it doesnt effect her.. he stresses me to the max, daily.. And when i ask him to calm down, he gets mad :'( he says he never wants to hurt me or Amara, i try to tell him that he does everyday with his actions but he doesnt listen.. I always get the, oh baby im sorry ill change ! but, he just doesnt.. What do i do :'( Please help me :'(

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  • hiannaaahiannaaa
    That's very dickly of him. Try finding other ways to make sex less boring and is comfortable for both of you. Maybe he'll like it so much he'll forget about the 3some.
  • MyMiracleBaby100111MyMiracleBaby100111
    I have tried everything in my power to try to fix things, but nothing is good enough for him..
  • My_Tiny_BlessingMy_Tiny_Blessing
    Definitely don't give in. I would never let my guy have a 3some, and if he couldn't get over that, then our relationship isn't really what I thought it was. Have you talked to him about what his sexual desires might be? Some guys always want more with their girl but are too afraid to talk about it. Be strong! Don't let him make you feel bad.
  • momtobmomtob
    I'm sorry he makes you feel that way :( he's an ass! Maybe if wants all those other girls he should have though about that before he got you pregnant! Enough fooling around boy, become a man! Try not to stress, like you said your little angel doesn't need that. Sorry I don't really have any advise :( if you need to talk tho..I can listen. Your not alone and your pregly ladies will have your back!
  • Mommyof4girlsMommyof4girls
    Tell him if he wants a threesome it has to be 2 guys and you. Tell him you feel he's the reason things are "boring" that you're sick of faking orgasms and that if another guy was in the picture maybe he could pick up a few pointers. But if wants another girl than he should pack his bags cause he'll just disappoint another female and you don't want to be around when he does.
  • lae3lae3
    sorry girll.. but i think thats something alot of guys want.. i think you just need to tell him.. you dont share.. lol.. and that he needs to drop it cause its leading you to feel like he doesnt want you .. and thats just wrong.. my man made jokes here and there and i was like no!!!! if you want a woman that wants to do that kind of thing you can go be with her slutty ass and leave me alone.. cause its never going to happen..
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  • vlynn15vlynn15
    I agree with @Mommyof4girls lol see what he says to that
  • mom60511mom60511
    Your boyfriend is being ridiculous and needs to grow up.

    @Mommyof4girls that is hilarious. That is exactly what I was thinking.
  • Jaime77Jaime77
    @mommyof4girls
    That's priceless! She should say this too him, he yells at her anyways!
  • Bebita86Bebita86
    @mommyof4girls u can tell her situation hit a nerve lol.. tell him wut she said so he could stfu about his stupid 3some
  • MyMiracleBaby100111MyMiracleBaby100111
    Well, he just told me hes only staying with me so i dont go after him for child support, and he doesnt think i will let him see her after shes born, i said i guess you dont know me too well do you ? Cause im all about, money isnt happiness, i dont want his damn money.. And of course he would see her, i grew up without a father, he died when i was 5, do you think i want my daughter raised that way ?
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  • Mommyof4girlsMommyof4girls
    My ex constantly asked for one. It was gross and very funny, cause that man is still madly in love w me. Haha... I never gave in and I think he's a pathetic soul. If your dependant on him and he knows it, the mental abuse will just get worse. Leave now while you can prepare yourself to raise your baby on your own. You don't need someone who will abuse you that way.
  • pregoagainYAYpregoagainYAY
    Oh honey you deserve better....i'm sorry but no one especially pregnant should hear something so nasty....you should be enough for him and if he doesn't feel that way then remind him of where the door is....tell him this "we can do a 3 some I will go out and find another MAN to join" (even if you would never want that) and watch how fast his tune changes.......
  • valentinasmommyvalentinasmommy
    I would have said another dude can be in it.I would have made it where he never brought it up again.
  • valentinasmommyvalentinasmommy
    But that's messed up.I'm sorry.
  • lalalorreelalalorree
    @MyMiracleBaby100111
    Im sorry your boyfriend can be a douche bag. Ill tell you my story about my ex, and ill admit i had a threesome cause we were together for 3 years and he asked and asked for one and i was kinda curious to be with another girl. However after everything happened. It seemed like he was expecting it ALL the time, and it kinda changed our sex life. So even if it.does happen to you its not gonna change your relationship on any level. My new bf now (Whom im having my child with) didnt want one, until he brought it up to me few months ago. But since i found messages on his phone from another girl and him talking bout cheating on me, ive been debating wheather or not hed even Apperciate me. In a way i dont trust his needs if that makes sense. I kinda think hes selfish when it comes to that.
    But anyways, he'll survive with out you and anothr women. Perhaps dress up in sexy lingerie for him, youll feel powerful in your hot outfit, even with a pregnant belly. Trust me :) try making love in different areas besides the bedroom like in the shower or in your car. Those are just some ideas to keep it spicy :)
  • bexbex
    OMG kick.him in the dick. I doubt he'll want anything for awhile after that!
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    Wow this is going to sound weird but is he into porn? Men who are too into porn get a ridiculous idea about how sex should be. Also he has serious issues about trying to make it look like its your fault. My experience is that when they are to the point of blaming you or acting like the relationship problems are caused by you they have already done something that you don't know about. Good luck hun you def deserve better and so does your daughter.
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  • VictoriaBVictoriaB
    I like @mommyof4girls answer. I say dump him and only get child support if you need it, not out of spite. I've had two exs who wanted to have 3somes. They're exs because they didn't appreciate me. I never did it even tho I've always wanted to have sex with another girl. I wanted sex with another woman to be just me and her so we could comfortably enjoy each other and not have some dude in the background going, "Oh that's so hot. Now kiss her some more!" No thanks buddy, I don't need a director when I get down. Point is, leave his worthless ass and have a happy pregnancy. There's a skank who will have a 3some with him and a man who will never suggest it to you (my husband never suggested it to me but he's already been there done that).
  • jerricabjerricab
    I'm sorry. He sounds like a real douche bag. But my bf has mentioned doing that and I told him I couldn't handle seeing another girl touch him. Then I asked him if he could handle another guy touching me. He said no so I told him to drop it and he did. I would leave him for saying hes only with you so you don't get him for child support. That's awful. You don't deserve that.
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