Uuugh INLAWS!!!!longg.
Okay I know Im SUPOSED to respect my hubbys family...but holy cow!!!!
Well I am 21. I am 7 weeks pregnant with my second baby. I gave birth to a slerping baby girl on feb 23 this year. Beyond the worst day of my life. my hubby is 23 and he moved here last year after a year of dating. Basically his mother and sister LOATH me. Back in Jan. My hubby and I had a HUGE fight about how flirrty he can get with girls. I had kicked him out....well my mother did becuz we were at her guest house at the time. However, as mad as I was at him, I paid for a hottel room for a week. Anyways...his nosey and bitchy mother had texted me some very cruel things. Mind you I am 7 mo. Pregnant at this time. She texts me with tge NERVE to say tge only reason I kicked my hubby out was because our daughter wasnt his and that I was a cold hearted two timing slut. HIS MOTHER said this. I was so mad. I cried to my motger because my feelings were so hurt ...not knowing how mad my mom would become. She called his nom and rippes her a new one...the only response.....i was a vidictive bitch tgat didnt deserve her son. Rude!!!
Well we had our daughter 2 weeks later....it was tge hardest day of my life. A 20 yr old should NEVER go thru such tragedy. myself and hubby were needless to say crushed. I was in alot of pain both emotionaly and physcally throughouut my labor. We had his mom come into town for support for my hubby. Well the ENTIRE time she was complainibg HER back hurt...news flash I WAS IN LABOR(including back labor) for THREE damn days. I did NOT need her shit. EVERYTINE my hubby would come hold my hand during a contraction or when I just needed him by my side shed thro a tantrum...stomping feet and pouty attitudes the whole shabang. Well I understand this wasnt the time for grudges...but I was still hurt by the comment of my daughter being someone elses than her sons 2 weeks before...and not ONCE did she say sorry...especially with what was happening.....well she asked my mom to take her to my moms house and lend her some makeup n yada yada...my mom said not until yu be a woman, go say srry to ny daughter, and b a damn mother to yur son whose CLEARLY hurting. His motger FREAKED she went and told my hubby tgat "these ppl" were savages(mind u we ARE native) and that she wanted to leave becuz nobody would be nice to her...ok tgere I am...in a bed havibg a baby who I KNW ive lost...in severe pain...wanting nothing other than my hubby by my side thru OUR hard tine and shes makung about her!!!
Well I had my baby girl....and my family and I and hubby coverred all of her serive arrangements and head stone. No, I did not expect ANYTHING from his fam but only his dad n stepmom came to the service....and I foubd it insulting.
None the less hubby and I grieved and we are getting thru it all. But before I started work again his mother and sister kept saying I was worthless and sickenubg for taking tine off when it was MY fault there was no baby at home. The cord caught my angeks arm and beliece me if there was something I couldve done I would have. For them to be so heartless I was grieving...healing...hurting...ugggh!
Anyways once we foubd out bout this pregnancy his sister said I was stupid and immature for jumping into this...as did his mom.
I am TRYING to bite my tongue and just ignore it but how many cold hearted comments can a person with such a tragedy in tgeir recent past take?!?!?
Any advise on what I should do?
Well I am 21. I am 7 weeks pregnant with my second baby. I gave birth to a slerping baby girl on feb 23 this year. Beyond the worst day of my life. my hubby is 23 and he moved here last year after a year of dating. Basically his mother and sister LOATH me. Back in Jan. My hubby and I had a HUGE fight about how flirrty he can get with girls. I had kicked him out....well my mother did becuz we were at her guest house at the time. However, as mad as I was at him, I paid for a hottel room for a week. Anyways...his nosey and bitchy mother had texted me some very cruel things. Mind you I am 7 mo. Pregnant at this time. She texts me with tge NERVE to say tge only reason I kicked my hubby out was because our daughter wasnt his and that I was a cold hearted two timing slut. HIS MOTHER said this. I was so mad. I cried to my motger because my feelings were so hurt ...not knowing how mad my mom would become. She called his nom and rippes her a new one...the only response.....i was a vidictive bitch tgat didnt deserve her son. Rude!!!
Well we had our daughter 2 weeks later....it was tge hardest day of my life. A 20 yr old should NEVER go thru such tragedy. myself and hubby were needless to say crushed. I was in alot of pain both emotionaly and physcally throughouut my labor. We had his mom come into town for support for my hubby. Well the ENTIRE time she was complainibg HER back hurt...news flash I WAS IN LABOR(including back labor) for THREE damn days. I did NOT need her shit. EVERYTINE my hubby would come hold my hand during a contraction or when I just needed him by my side shed thro a tantrum...stomping feet and pouty attitudes the whole shabang. Well I understand this wasnt the time for grudges...but I was still hurt by the comment of my daughter being someone elses than her sons 2 weeks before...and not ONCE did she say sorry...especially with what was happening.....well she asked my mom to take her to my moms house and lend her some makeup n yada yada...my mom said not until yu be a woman, go say srry to ny daughter, and b a damn mother to yur son whose CLEARLY hurting. His motger FREAKED she went and told my hubby tgat "these ppl" were savages(mind u we ARE native) and that she wanted to leave becuz nobody would be nice to her...ok tgere I am...in a bed havibg a baby who I KNW ive lost...in severe pain...wanting nothing other than my hubby by my side thru OUR hard tine and shes makung about her!!!
Well I had my baby girl....and my family and I and hubby coverred all of her serive arrangements and head stone. No, I did not expect ANYTHING from his fam but only his dad n stepmom came to the service....and I foubd it insulting.
None the less hubby and I grieved and we are getting thru it all. But before I started work again his mother and sister kept saying I was worthless and sickenubg for taking tine off when it was MY fault there was no baby at home. The cord caught my angeks arm and beliece me if there was something I couldve done I would have. For them to be so heartless I was grieving...healing...hurting...ugggh!
Anyways once we foubd out bout this pregnancy his sister said I was stupid and immature for jumping into this...as did his mom.
I am TRYING to bite my tongue and just ignore it but how many cold hearted comments can a person with such a tragedy in tgeir recent past take?!?!?
Any advise on what I should do?
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Thank you I know I need to stand up for myself and I told my man today that one more thing and Im putting them both in check. I am a good gf and a total sweety to them...i buy them dinner when we or they visit. I send them money if tgry need it... I ttuely make surr her son is healthy and safe....and rather she likes it or not im the mother of my hubbys chikdren. She needs to get used to cuz im not going nrmewhere!
I already my hubby shes not allowed around my child inless im there he got mad at first but I simply said shes mean and dislikes me and I will NOT tolerate her bashing me around my chikd. He sure lightened up to thst idea once he saw how serious I was