Whoooohoooo you told that ass.lol good.I couldn't handle that.family or not. I think she wants someone to feel sorry for her.and she's dropping out because?
@angieahrens Exactly! Every time I go out there she is like looking at me like why are you in a swim suit like shes never seen a pregnant lady before. But I am all baby so F her and I don't care, its my house if I want to walk around butt ass naked I will (which I don't do lol) and if you dont want to look then dont! I have half a mind to get a big ass painting of my pregnant self painted and put in the bedroom shes in lmao. Right! The golden rule goes further than people think!!
@excitedforbaby She does she always wants people to feel bad for her. I do feel bad, but I am not stupid so I will not let her outstay her welcome much longer. She keeps dropping out and shit cause she says she gets board or doesnt like it. But in reality she does not have the type of personality that you need to be a nurse, she is cold and not caring or anything. So she quits to pioneer so she doesnt have to work or anything. Shes a lazy piece of shit.
My mil just moveed in cus she has nowhere to go and i hate it...!!! She lived w/ us b4 too...just like your sil...always hitting rock bottom ...but she 40 something! And she has everything given to her..like her car here furniture a place to stay...food..and were trying to get a house and shes coming along!! I really do hate it! And like you i feel like i wont be able to enjoy my own home...and the staring is ANNOYING!! She stares all the time for everything ..my husband says something to me, she stares...im on the phone, she stares! I wanna say something but i dont. Oh and shes been on the internet since this morning!! Its not unlimited! And when we go grocery shopping she doesn't help bring stuff in or put it away she just STARES!! Sorry that your goin through that...and i hope everything turns out for the BEST for anyone who has to go threw this!
@Beatrice1436 OMG 40!!!!!!!!!? I thought 25 is bad, either way they are grown ass women and need to act like it, its pathetic when your a parent and depending on your children for everything. SMH...Well I try to enjoy mine the best I can but its not easy, and it makes me so mad, because I have wanted to live in a really nice place like this my whole life and its such a gorgeous house and I cant I was in the yard the other day planting flowers and there she goes staring at me. I was like look, stop staring at me or i'm going to throw this damn pot at your face. That is my biggest pet peeve!! I would ask her if she wants a book of you doing all sorts of things so she can stare at that all day instead of you! ugh ppl make me mad. OMG tell her she is paying for that shit! I would unhook it so she couldnt use it!!! Im sorry we are going through the same thing, if you ever need to talk of vent im here It always feels good to complain lol I hope everything turns out the best for you.
@angieahrens That is a good idea I would block that shit! put a psword on the computer on the internet on everything lol here you have to enter it before you can get on and when she wants to use it I put the passsword in her computer so she doesnt know it and when shes used it enough, since all she does is sit around youtubing shit, I turn the internet thing off.
@angieshrens shes trying to get a job...but shes has no money cus she was living n a hight rent apt($900/2brm) and shoulda moved out like i said to a 1 brdrm and half the amount of rent ..but didnt wanna listen and now has no money...i dont even think shes ever bought herself a car or a couch ..you would think she would be by now but shes not!
Then why the hell does she keep enrolling? That doesn't make any sense.she should get like a retail job somewhere.damn....that's messed up.and she is a grown ass woman expecting hand outs and to ride for free?? Hell naw.
Thanks!! Yes the staring is so effin annoying ...yea my pet peeve too...if u were here and you had to scratch your nose she would be staring at you! It sucks cus im home all day and now she will be here...:( i feel like were gonna have to take care of her for the rest of our lives..and my husbands knows how i feel and my mom sees her starting at me the time. Oh and she laughs at everything ...i say oh im hot,she giggles ..oh mad im so hungry, she giggles...???
Some people feel like EVERYONE owes them something. For whatever reason. It sounds like shes a spoiled brat, to put it bluntly. She is living free in your home, and you were gracious enough to allow her to do so. To be honest? Id give her a month. And say you got to go. Because she is not gonna change her ways, or learn to appreciate what youve done or her until she learns what personal responsibility is. She has to hit bottom and realize that you need to rely on only yourself at that age. Noone owes her and she is not entitled to anything unless she earns it. CNA's make decent enough money for her to have a lil apartment till she finishes school. She doesnt know how lucky she has had it!
Hahaha I would've been an asshole and cut off stuff until I,my bf,or my baby got ready to use it.like turn the internet connection off,put a lock on the tv,unhook the phone(especially if I had a cell phone),etc.....total asshole.lol but hope she will understand now.
@excitedforbaby I have no damn idea, she is a idiot. She is the type of person that needs a office job or something where she doesnt have to interact with people because she is so ignorant with people. I just ignore it though, she could have already had a masters in something and been going after a PHD now with all the years of her life she has wasted i mean its been 8 years since shes graduated high school and she hasnt accomplished a god damn thing! I know and then she gets mad when you tell her your not about to sponsor her forever and shes always like look little girl, ummmmm no your the little girl considering im having to act like your mama.
@Beatrice1436 Oh hell no i would have put a stop to that awhile ago!! When I was growing up we had an uncle that lived with us that was kinda crazy and he always stared at me it was creepy and ugh i cant stand it. Why do you guys have to bring her to your new house? Is your hubby happy that she is there or is he annoyed to? My hubby was annoyed the first night his sister was here lol he wanted her to leave then! Why does she laugh at everything? I would start doing it back to her whenever she says anything just laugh and start staring her down lol
@Kay_la_la She is def. one of those people, well she feels like my husband owes her everything but no one else really. Shes not even spoiled she grew up with a crazy psychotic mom who beat her and hardly gave her anything, and she blames all her issues on her dad though, saying he was never there for her even though he only lived away from her for like 2 years and that's cause her mom moved them from TX to Detroit. Ok I understand she had a hard childhood, and your mother hurt you, but there is a point where you have to take responsibility for your life and stop blaming others. My husband came from 2 drug addict parents, bounced from foster home to foster home was tortured, tied up, beat, humiliated, until her dad adopted him and now he is a fully functional father and adult. He doesn't sit around crying about stuff that happened 14 years ago....I'm not trying to be insensitive to her ordeal, but you can't blame others forever, you have to accept what happened, and move on. I try to tell her Ricky(my hubby) doesnt owe her jack shit, she didnt adopt him or provide anything for him so she needs to let go of that idea. She also bashes me because we had our son when I was 16, yet at 16 I was doing more than she was, I had a child I had a job I finished school and I didn't depend on anyone for anything, I payed rent at my parents house not because they made me but because I thought it was only fair, I am living in there home with my child- I needed to pay my way. I payed for everything my son had, and she can sit there and bash me when she still cant provide for her own self SMH!! She is lucky a lot of people dont have anyone to help them or depend on.
@excitedforbaby Im not sure if you were talking to me or Beatrice lol but at our house it's gotten to that point lol she has no tv in the room she is in, I haven't unpacked the big screen for the living room and I wont until she is gone, because all she will do is sit on her ass. We have no land line so she cant use the phone. She asks to borrow my phone and I make her block my number cause I don't want all kinds of freaks calling my phone lol I had to turn to total bitch mode to let her know she really is not welcome right now we are just tolerating her.
I kinda give dirty looks sometimes or wont laugh or smile. My husband always helps her..I guess when he was younger like 17 his sis had an apt and his mom and him lived there..and his sis kick him out and his being his own thing since..when I meet him I was 20(25 now) well he gave his moma car and had to take it back cus his engine exploded ..well he paid for her to move to WI w/his sis..but she didn't like it and when i 22 he paid for her ticket to come back..moved n w/us and took of my sons rm. And he gave her the car she has now. He's definitely not annoyed but I know if it were my family that had to move in it even happen. Oh and we moved out of our old place for a cheaper place and she stayed the..stupid! And now she couldn't afford it she moved n here and took over my sons rm AGAIN! My husband will always help her no matter what! Even though she wasn't always there for him.
i don't blame you at all I would be giving her the stank eye all damn day lol. Seriously...I would have been like who gives a shit if you don't like it there, get over it you should be happy you have a place to stay-beggars can't be choosers. And if he could be on his own and make it why can't she? It seems like she has been mooching for at least the past 5 years. I wouldn't give her anything at this point, and I def would not let her have my child's room. I mean kids need a routine and its bad enough shes there and now he doesn't even have his room, poor baby! I can see giving up your room for a guest, but not a permanent nuisance. Ugh it pisses me off and makes me want to yell at your MIL lol So how long does she expect to stay with you?!! You should explain to your husband that you are uncomfortable and that you both need to put your foot down and give her a date where she has to be out and she has to leave the car behind, there is no reason why a grown ass women shouldn't be having a job and living in her own apt. Even if it is a shitty one at first oh well its a place to call your own. I would rather live in a box on the street that is all my own than beg and mooch off of family. I love to help people but I am not one to ask for help-sounds kinda dumb but I can't be content with living in someone elses house hehe. I think your hubby needs a reality check though..Im going to think of a plan so you can get your creepy staring mil on the move
Yea we get along when she doesn't live w/us..oh and she's coming w/us when we get a house cus she has nowhere ..and none of her family like bro n sisters help her and never had..even her own daughter..I've talk to my husband about how I feel and I said she can on stay a month because where I live is public housing and she cant lived w/us and if they find we get quick out..and she can keep the car it old and doesn't have ac! It doesn't matter unless she gets a job asap so she can save a get a 1 brdrm for around $500 now she's sitting in the living rm watching tv..I wish she can watch it n my sons rm!! So im leaving for the day so I wont be soo annoyed
@Beatrice1436 Well there are such things as shelters, I know it sounds means but damn shes taking over your life. She is putting your guys' living situation in jeopardy by being there and that is not right. So if you guys get kicked out what will your husband say? I mean he needs to stand up to her before you guys are all homeless, there comes a point where you have to worry about your family as in wife kids husband and take care of your well being first. Idk how it works where you are, but I have friends that have gotten kicked out of their homes for having guys stay with them while on section 8 and they cant get it back its like they are on probation and they have been homeless..Im not trying to sound mean at all, but you and your hubby have to think about yourselves and your kids and focus on how you are going to survive, you can't sponsor forever..
@excitedforbaby hahahaha Girl she won't be using it anymore I had to kick her out this weekend, I have finally washed my hands of her and I am loving enjoying my home free of her!! YAY!
Yea i know what you mean...where not on section 8 she would be able to live if she were on the lease(when we applyed) but it would have to be a 3 brdrm which we cant get cus there never available ..but the fact if we get kick it looks bad on us..
@Beatrice1436 oh my bad. yeah, I say just try talking to your hubby again, deep down he has to know he can't do this forever and that it isn't going to be easy on your family if it continues. I wish you the best though and I hope it all works out!
Your welcome! Do you guys have temp agencies where you live? I know my dad was having a hard time finding a permanent job one time and he went to one of those and they always had work for him, even if its something different everyday and sometimes they will offer you a full time job if they like you, its worth a try for her?
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@excitedforbaby She does she always wants people to feel bad for her. I do feel bad, but I am not stupid so I will not let her outstay her welcome much longer. She keeps dropping out and shit cause she says she gets board or doesnt like it. But in reality she does not have the type of personality that you need to be a nurse, she is cold and not caring or anything. So she quits to pioneer so she doesnt have to work or anything. Shes a lazy piece of shit.
@Kay_la_la She is def. one of those people, well she feels like my husband owes her everything but no one else really. Shes not even spoiled she grew up with a crazy psychotic mom who beat her and hardly gave her anything, and she blames all her issues on her dad though, saying he was never there for her even though he only lived away from her for like 2 years and that's cause her mom moved them from TX to Detroit. Ok I understand she had a hard childhood, and your mother hurt you, but there is a point where you have to take responsibility for your life and stop blaming others. My husband came from 2 drug addict parents, bounced from foster home to foster home was tortured, tied up, beat, humiliated, until her dad adopted him and now he is a fully functional father and adult. He doesn't sit around crying about stuff that happened 14 years ago....I'm not trying to be insensitive to her ordeal, but you can't blame others forever, you have to accept what happened, and move on. I try to tell her Ricky(my hubby) doesnt owe her jack shit, she didnt adopt him or provide anything for him so she needs to let go of that idea. She also bashes me because we had our son when I was 16, yet at 16 I was doing more than she was, I had a child I had a job I finished school and I didn't depend on anyone for anything, I payed rent at my parents house not because they made me but because I thought it was only fair, I am living in there home with my child- I needed to pay my way. I payed for everything my son had, and she can sit there and bash me when she still cant provide for her own self SMH!! She is lucky a lot of people dont have anyone to help them or depend on.
@excitedforbaby Im not sure if you were talking to me or Beatrice lol but at our house it's gotten to that point lol she has no tv in the room she is in, I haven't unpacked the big screen for the living room and I wont until she is gone, because all she will do is sit on her ass. We have no land line so she cant use the phone. She asks to borrow my phone and I make her block my number cause I don't want all kinds of freaks calling my phone lol I had to turn to total bitch mode to let her know she really is not welcome right now we are just tolerating her.
now she's sitting in the living rm watching tv..I wish she can watch it n my sons rm!! So im leaving for the day so I wont be soo annoyed
@excitedforbaby hahahaha Girl she won't be using it anymore I had to kick her out this weekend, I have finally washed my hands of her and I am loving enjoying my home free of her!! YAY!
@excitedforbaby thanks!