What would you do, (tmi) !

ChevygirlChevygirl
edited June 2011 in Pregnant
Well my hubby usually deleates the history on the computer...he must have forgot! Found out he is looking at porn. But to make it worse for a week he hasn't been able to ejaculate tmi! We've had sex 5 times and nothing! I haven't given it to him in a few days now... Then found the porn yesterday, he was looking while I'm working my ass off to support this family akl by myself! I haven't confronted him, but he knows I know. Is it just me our would that really hurt? Not only cant Isatisfy him, he is supposed to be a man of god!
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  • heyitsmeheyitsme
    I had this problem. Even had a few times where he got out of bed (with me) to go look at it. We talked and he promised not to look anymore but he just couldnt stop. So I put a block on the internet. You should check it out. www.opendns.com Really helped me get some peace of mind. You can block all "adult themed" sites or just porn and its free.
  • ChevygirlChevygirl
    edited June 2011
    Thank you... Ya I just broke down and cried.lastnight he tried being feely in bed, I said dont, he says wtf why are you acting like this? I was to tired for a disscousion! But as soon as he noticed I was upset he deleates the history just like that! Said I saw it, meaning he was acknowledging he fucked up but doesn't care it bothers me I guess
  • ChevygirlChevygirl
    @heyitsme, omg thank you! I will check it out!
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  • martinmommi3martinmommi3
    I gave my husband a choice me or porn. Luckily he chose me cuz he's an awesome husband an father. But my other boy's bd was a cheating bastard an it started with porn. I left him finally after ten yrs an two babies later. The smartest decision I ever made. I tell my husband that u r dreaming an thinking about the other women an not ur woman! That's soo wrong. I'm sorry I hope he stops
  • raceylaceyraceylacey
    i've been having that problem too. apparantly, i don't give him enough... but he hasn't even tried anything in forever! and usually when he tries i give in. i just haven't been in the mood since being pregnant to initiate anything. i found it on his phone and it was just some girls back end moving up and down in slow motion... i deleted it. it really makes me sad and i feel like i'm not attractive enough for him or something..
  • ExcitedForOctoberExcitedForOctober
    I dont think porn in bad, if my bf watches it I wouldnt mind. And maybe he just cant finish because of the whole pregnancy thing, my bf tells me he feels weird cuz of the baby.
  • pregoagainYAYpregoagainYAY
    Its definitly wrong and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this......find strength within yourself and go with your gut feeling hon that's all you can do......Always follow your instinct......Good Luck hon!
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    @Mommy2isaiahngiselle im so proud of u momma....

    @chevygirl id be upset at the fact that he even eraces the comps history....as for porn and ur situation u have the right to be upset. My hubby dsent watch it and the two times he did we watched it together and tried positions we saw on there...tmi jiji....it kinda botherd him so he said hed rather get sme sex games n position book and play wth me then watch em...i hope it dsent get outta control wth u... id be cncernd if he kant ejaculate also. U shld have a talk...

  • havin_a_girlhavin_a_girl
    I agree with @exciitedforoctober I don't think its bad.. although hiding it would be upsetting... my bf watches porn all the time because I don't give it to him all the time since I'm 36 weeks it hurts so I don't mind. Good luck hun just talk to him an tell him how you feel
  • havin_a_girlhavin_a_girl
    Probably... mabye its different for us since we watch it with our men and on our own but like you said its not lusting over the other men or women its just the action of what they are doing that is sometimes a turn on.=) @praying4our3rd
  • havin_a_girlhavin_a_girl
    Lol @prayin4our3rd mabye they should watch it together... it always gets us more horny and worked up... to each there own lol=)
  • StepherbellStepherbell
    @prayin4our3rd @havin_a_girl my boyfriend and I watch it together as well or when I'm not in the mood I tell him to. I don't think porn should be a problem ... its not like they will ever meet that girl or actually screw her...its all about being opened and keepin things exciting and it works great with us! We love it ;)
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  • pregoagainYAYpregoagainYAY
    @mommy2isaiahngiselle amen you hit the nail right on the head! I agree with you 100%!
  • grissy_barriagrissy_barria
    @Chevygirl the same thing just happened to me :( I noticed every time he would go take a shower he would take his laptop and be in there for a while and when I would use it I would notice that the history would always be erased well the other day he went to shower and the bathroom window was open I looked inside and noticed what he was looking at he wasn't masturbating he was just looking at it and i broke down crying and confronted him I told him it makes me feel like I am not doing a good job as a wife it made us argue for a good while
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  • StepherbellStepherbell
    I would have to agree with @praying4our3rd...the only thing I got from earlier posts was to leave and to be mad. Personally I would talk to him. Maybe he doesn't know she doesn't like it and is why he hides it? But I don't think she isn't satisfying him because like she said they have had sex five times..she obviously turns him on or he wouldn't be able to get up. Sometimes when. My bf and I go at it and sometimes he doesn't get off but I always tell him I will take care of him later that I can't go any more. If you have sex a lot or he masterbates a lot his stamina is going to go up and it will take longer to reach climax..the same with us ladies. Try asking him not to masterbate for a day or two because your feeling really hot and watch him climax quickly
  • pregoagainYAYpregoagainYAY
    Some women just don't like it and there is nothig wrong with that, its a matter of what we are all comfortable with and some are comfortable with it and that's great for the ones that are, and the ones that are not that's ok too.....I saw @mommy2isaiahngiselle letting her know she's not alone and that in my opinion was helpful sometimes we just need to know were not alone......
  • StepherbellStepherbell
    I agree @pregoagainYAY - sometimes its a great deal to know we are not alone =)
  • pregoagainYAYpregoagainYAY
    @mommy2isaiahngiselle lol I hear ya girl!
  • pregoagainYAYpregoagainYAY
    edited June 2011
    @stepherbell it sure is.....:)
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  • pregoagainYAYpregoagainYAY
    @grissy_barria I would be devastated too....I hope it gets better for you!
  • StepherbellStepherbell
    Agreed again because she doesn't like it she should be upset...she needs to talk with him and just let him know how she feels...I wouldn't start packing my bags unless I had confronted him about it already and he still does it...then I might consider it but if that's the only problem the relationship is having I wouldn't throw it away just because of porn
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  • ChevygirlChevygirl
    @everyone... LOL. Ok we have watched before. And if he would come to me and talk with me about it, it wouldn't be such a big issue. But a few weeks ago my computer crashed because of all the crap he is downloading. I had to ask my mom for help, my geek squad, and she had to whipe it clean and start over again. I told him, this is my computer. Don't download anything! If he want's to put that crap on his computer, then go get one!!!
    Secondly, I haven't had sex with him in about 3 days now, but there where 5 days straight before that where he never ejaculated. I'm not mad at him that he didn't and I've made sure it wasn't because of me either.
    Our sex life is thru the roof!! So I am really dumb founded. It just pisses me off because he is doing it while I am at work, and he should be looking for a J O B!!!!!!!
    But being pregnant has also made me more sensitive. I'll talk with him about it when we get a chance. Thanks everyone for your comments.
    But another reason this is so hard, he is this changed man. he was a drug user, and after spending some time in jail, decided he chose me and our daughter than that life. Now he is a Christian, and if he is truelly a believer, he knows that is adultry. Some of you may not get it and not view it like that, and that is ok. So that is why it hurts so bad.
    Thanks for listening to my vent! :)
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