hurt and upset.

angel26 · June 2011

So I am very hurt and upset. My mom called me earlier this afternoon and asked me what would cause her mouth to go numb. I told her that she needed to be seen by a dr. That its eaither her heart or brain. She has a very bad heart and history of mini strokes. I told her to go to hospital. And like always she told me no and that she was fine. Well the numbness went to the whole right side of her face and she got a headache with it. She seen my brother after this and he said she looked bad. He also wanted her to go to hospital. Then I tried to get my sister to come watch my boys so that I could take her to the hospital. Well she called my mom. And my mom convinced her she was fine and told her if she didn't feel better tomorrow she would go. Well my mom called me after talking to my sis and told me what she said. I told her no, that I don't agree and that she needs to go. We sat there arguing about it for a while. I finally told her that if she doesn't want to listen to me and if she doesn't want to live long enough to see her new grandchild then fine. I'm done fighting with her. I have spent half my life trying to "care" for her and look out for her. I have let her control my life and guilt trip me for everything. And she can't do this for me. I can't do it anymore. I told her I'm done and that my brother and sister can deal with her. I am so hurt and upset. I want to cry. I don't know anymore.
I'm sorry this is so long. I just had to tell someone. I am so emotionally exausted. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm sorry.

dadof2n1togo · June 2011

Sorry to hear that. In australia we can get paramedics to issue an impairment notice which gives them the right to treata person like this. I dont know if it its the same where you are though sorry

momof22be · June 2011

Call the hospital and explain what is happening and ask for advice then when they tell u she needs to ho in tell her either she goes willingly or u will be calling her an ambulance

momof22be · June 2011

Im sure its the same here if someone is ha ing that happen its like suicide and treated as such but she had better watch it she could get charges for it

momof22be · June 2011

Im so sorry your going through this Hun my mom and my husbands parents are the same way its insanity to think they would rather die than pay a damn bill my uncle did this but instead of going to the er he went to a instacare that was about to close they sent him home with cough meds and he died that night all for an effen bill sorry from the bottom of my heart

sweetsurprise · June 2011

I know exactly how you feel. I've always felt like the parent to my stubborn mother with the guilt trips and everything. As upset as you are she's still your mom and you'll be there for her. I hope she goes to the hospital and everything is ok.

angel26 · June 2011

The thing with calling an ambulance for her is that she will refuse them to take her and she won't go. She's done it before. She had an episode at her job a while back and a coustomer (sp) called one for her. She told them that she didn't need to go and refused treatment. Against their opinion. And they told her that she had the right to refuse treatment. So they couldn't take her. I just don't understand why she would ask me about it then ignor my attempt to help her. I can't express how upset it makes me. And how hurt I am.

momof22be · June 2011

I hope she listens she could lose her brain function if shes having a stroke witch she probably is most likely good luck Hun and ill pray that shes here for you in the morning I don't know what I would do if it was my mom id probably tell her she would have absolutely no contact with my kids or something but I'm a mean bitch for sure good luck Hun prayers

angel26 · June 2011

Well like always she didn't listen. She claims she is doing ok this morning. But I'm still upset with her. @momof22be I almost told her that. But then I thought of how guilty I would have felt if she did pass away after I said it.

momof22be · June 2011

Well I'm glad u didn't listen to me because I would have felt just as guilty and taken it back but at least she would have known how deep it was for me. I'm so happy shes ok I was so scared for u last night hopefully she goes to the doctors next time hugs.

angel26 · June 2011

I'm just so frustrated and confused. So I seen her today. I guess she looked ok. Her jaw line kinda looked a bit "saggy" but on both sides. She was complaining that her legs were really sore. But she was doing community service when this happened and it was pulling weeds on the side of the road. She was also saying she felt really weak. Now she is at home and just texted that she has a fever. I am so lost on what to do. I am the most stuborn out of her children and sometimes even more so then her. The only problem is I need someone to watch my kids. They have been at the hospital enough lately. Please. Can someone help?

hurt and upset.

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