so hurt. advice not pregnancy related

edited June 2011 in Pregnant
My boyfriend and I have been having a few problems lately. In the past couple weeks I've gotten really depressed and stressed over this pregnancy, while just the opposite for him; he's been in a mood to do whatever he wants whenever he wants.
Long story short. He knew my jerk ex, and knows how much I hated being with him and why. Well, today my current bf treated me EXACTLY how my ex would. He said some rude things, called me a b!tch countless times, and even proceeded to crack jokes about me and the situation when I gave him the silent treatment. (I was too hurt/verge of crying to say anything.)
Now I guess we are officially on a "break." But I want to consider breaking it off completely. I'm not going to relive the last relationship I had.
I've told him how much it hurts when he hurts me like that but he doesn't care. My last resort to get him to realize that he is no different from my ex at this point is to collect my things com his house and tell him flatly that he reminds me of my ex, and that I won't tolerate it.

My question is, basically.....those will be very harsh words spoken and will either make him more angry and pissed off, or make him do a 180° and realize who/what he has turned into since we found out I was pregnant. I'm prepared for either, but is it ammo I should use? I swear there is no other way...does anyone haves any input on what else to say or do?

Comments

  • Well ill ask u what Id ask myself. Do I truely love this man, can I live a happy full life without him, and what do the next few years look like if I stay with him?
    If it were me I'd take a couple days of time (no calls texts) nothing. Just U time. And then try to have a rational conversation with him. Tell him that u feel he's acting like ur ex and that u can't and wont live ur life like that. But try not to rush in hot headed. It will only make things worse.
  • It doesn't matter that he will be upset if he is treating u like this. Its not right nor fair. Maybe if y'all do take a break he will realize that u are serious. Maybe he thinks he has u "in the bag". Like that u won't leave cause ur prego so ur stuck. There are certain rules and standards in every relationship and if he crosses them he has to understand the issue and stop acting like a child. When my dh starts the joking that is hurtful I say something. He doesn't mean for it to be hurtful so I let him know because its usually just the manor in which he says it.

  • I love him, I want to be with him, but not at this expense. I want him to be like how he was in the beginning and before our relationship. But in 6 months he's changed so much, and I'm falling out of love with this person so quickly. With the baby coming soon I don't want to have to deal with this on top of everything, I would rather do it alone.
  • @rckprincess2 it would be different if the jokes he made weren't meant the way they were.... but he clearly meant them to be hurtful. Like after I asked to take me home 3 times, right before we got to the houses (we live down the street from each other) he said "so my house right?" I said no, I want to go home. He goes "yeah, I was joking, I don't want you over anyway." Then jerks the car to turn really fast.

    It doesn't look so bad now reading it but trust me if you were there in my shoes....well. yeah. I'm crying right now just thinking about everything he said. He called me a b!tch so many times, and tried to drag me out of the car. Then had the nerve to ask for a kiss at the end.
  • I say give him some cold shoulder girl. Make him feel that ice! There is no reason to be an a##hole like that.
  • Gurl men know when ur prego u feel down on urself and they play on it hard,u let him know u won't be this way for longg and then u give him some time to think about how he treatedd u,ur baby don't need to hear him talking to u like that....
  • edited June 2011
    You dnt have to say anything....actions speaks volumes.

    Gather your things and be a lady and just leave. And you are 100% right if you know this is the point of no return dnt continue chasing him trying to make it work.

    Leave while you still have your dignity. If he changes then great, if not you are gorgeous and cam find one that will.
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