@augustbaby yea once she's born I'm not gonna deny that he lives here because I don't want him dealing with child support crap.
I just told him he should just marry me already and then we wouldn't have to worry I mean its been 7 yrs already! Too bad ny doesn't recognize common law marriage lol
Getting married doesn't help unless he has health ins. We are married and get no assistance...my husbands company will put me and our son on his plan...but we will have to pay 100%.... its cheaper for me to have insurance on my own since my work doesn't offer it...and for me and my son it is 550 month....we gave had to cut back on alot to afford it...but there are no other options
Even if he lives with u he will have to pay childsupport. Atleast that's how it is here. We have a house and everything and he's till going to have to pay until I go to court or we figure out a way around it. Pretty ure with ayva being on his insurance he might not have to deal with childsupport.
@jazzi89 Hm well my sil told me that when they tried to get child support from her bf, all she had to do was tell them they worked out they're own system and he was paying her. So they didn't have to go through court. I plan on just letting my Medicaid ride til they take it away and then go back to planned parenthood like I've always done. They only charge a little based on income and its all I can afford.
I am on medicaid (in washington) but since I am not married even though I live with my bf I am considered single. and he doesn't have to pay back the hospital bills unless I go after him for child support, I would call and ask, just hypothetical questions. That's what I did because I kept getting so many different stories and people telling my bf he was going to have to pay child support and all that and they told me no that it was a free program for pregnant women who needed it. If their job didnt offer insurance, or they didn't make enough or didnt have a job. They even cover as a secondary so people aren't stuck with expensive bills. I would just call and good luck lady
@Samantha thank you, and yea I will probably call just to know for sure, and figure out what, if any, my options are. It's just annoying, because I pay taxes and so does he, can't we get a little help for 10 months? I'm not one of those deadbeats abusing the system lol
Lol ya. people were telling my bf that if he didnt pay child support they were going to take his license and he is a truck driver so there goes his means of bringing in money blah blah blah so I just called. Most states (not all and Idk bout ny) its a free service unless the bd is paying child support then they ask for a partial payment and will even do a sliding scale where they cover x amount then you cover x amount, will even do it with medical for your baby if medical that is provided is not that great. I agree I have been paying my taxes since 15 and the state didnt wanna help at first. Its stupid. Its not like I am popping out kids left and right just to get state assistance. I am 23 pregnant with my first and was trying to go back to school, but since I dont get good medical I went to planned parenthood for bc and somehow got pregnant and they always wanna make a big deal like "why weren't you being safe, can you get medical else where. Um no thats why I am calling A-hole!" lol
in california you have to be merried for them to count his income.. where do you live.. i tell them he lives with me but since were not merried his income doesnt mater
In TX a friend of mine got on medicaid just a couple months ago because she was in desperate need of healthcare and could not afford it. They went after her husband for child support automatically. There is nothing she can do to stop it... I think all states are moving in that direction.
I'm in Ohio, and my situation was the same with my first, they didnt go after ny babys dad when he signed the birth cert. The other option is to not have him sign birth cert until a few months after birth, then you still don't have to claim him because they won't know about any of they..again its in Ohio tho.. you could also call job & fam services anonomously and ask if "I were to be preg and didn't claim my babys father cuz we don't live together , but he signed bc how would child support or med bills work if I am on assistance"
@angieahrens ugh I know its so screwed up. If you have Medicaid why does he have to pay for anything?? I understand child support if you're not together, but if you live together it doesn't make sense lol
Well the positive thing if you live together and they take child support is that its coming right back into the house. And @angieahrens no if you have private insurance you're fine. Since Medicaid is state/federally funded not paid for by each person being covered they try to get money some way.
@caroline8_p his child support goes to the state mostly because his ex is on so much assistance. They're not going to raise his cs if he were to be on fs. My husband's ex wife bitches she doesn't/didn't get the full amount but its because she is/was on foodstamps/wic etc.
@Caroline8_p so I still haven't called lol but my bf found out from a guy he works with that his insurance will pay for it. So he has to call his insurance and figure out the details. Does ur bf have insurance??
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@augustbaby yea once she's born I'm not gonna deny that he lives here because I don't want him dealing with child support crap.
I just told him he should just marry me already and then we wouldn't have to worry
@jazzi89 Hm well my sil told me that when they tried to get child support from her bf, all she had to do was tell them they worked out they're own system and he was paying her. So they didn't have to go through court. I plan on just letting my Medicaid ride til they take it away and then go back to planned parenthood like I've always done. They only charge a little based on income and its all I can afford.
I agree I have been paying my taxes since 15 and the state didnt wanna help at first. Its stupid. Its not like I am popping out kids left and right just to get state assistance. I am 23 pregnant with my first and was trying to go back to school, but since I dont get good medical I went to planned parenthood for bc and somehow got pregnant and they always wanna make a big deal like "why weren't you being safe, can you get medical else where. Um no thats why I am calling A-hole!" lol
@excitedforbaby they count your whole household no matter what the relation
@lae3 ^^
@mommaof2_bbylove yea I'm gonna call.
@amab13 I'm not sure but you're not on Medicaid so it might be different
@fate not yet, just woke up lol
@angieahrens ugh I know its so screwed up. If you have Medicaid why does he have to pay for anything?? I understand child support if you're not together, but if you live together it doesn't make sense lol