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I'm just sick and tired and really depressed. Ever since I've been pregnant everyone thinks its ok to say how ugly and darker I became. Comments like most pregnant women glow and look so cute, Wats wrong with u and why is your neck so black? Wft!! I've never had self esteem issues, I knew I was all that. Now everyday its a new different comment that's eating away at me. Today i was told damn u got blacker. That shit is starting to hurt. I try taking more showers scrubbing so hard that I get bruises. I even changed my soap nd lotion to something to help my complexion bt nothing is working. I refuse to bleach my skin tho. I dnt know wat to do. Old classmates nd coworkers say oh u looked so good back then now.....my bf is no differ either. He tells me u jus gotta try harder to look good as if I'm trying to look fat and black. I'm 37 weeks I'm trying the best I can. Funny thing is my body is fine, same sillouette I had jus with a big belly nd thicker thighs (which is a plus fr me). I'm feeling like I can't put up anymore all I do is cry
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  • Hang in there hun! Only a few weeks left and you get your body back. It is going to take a little bit to get in completely back and somethings may change permently though.
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  • It's normal girl..I had self esteem issues in the beginning of my pregnancy which was new to me but the way I see it as being pregnant is a blessing and its only temporary..then you be back to normal with your beautiful little blessing..just don't bite your tounge make shure hubby knows how u feel
  • @lilbabythree
    I know, I'm trying but its kinda hard Wen u hear the same garbage everyday. Nd it would be nice if my bf was like its ok Bae ur still beautiful. Bt nope I get a try harder then.
  • @mshahir
    I guess ppl don't realize that every pregnancy is different. I'm not they're homegirl that glowed throughout her pregnancy. i don't remember the last time my bf said babe you look beautiful, or anything within those lines. It just really sucks, making me feel all vulnerable and sh!t, a feeling a never felt before.
  • Girl you don't have to change your appearance for a muthafucka. Fuck them. They can kiss your ass. I'm most certain you are beautiful! Don't worry about a damn thing nobody got to say!
  • @mommy2b1111
    I sure hope things or at least my complexion goes back to normal. I understand the weight gain. Bt this ugly ass skin nd racoon like eyes are not the business.
  • These people are assholes!! Black is beautiful!! People have stigmas when it comes to black/dark skin. Hows your completion? If its acne talk to dr. If its simply darker skin tell others to f**k off & mind they own. I think @blueberrysmom says it best THROAT PUNCH these loud mouths who's opinions don't matter. You are beautiful no matter how dark or light you are. Mind you you can't scrub your color off. You'll just hurt yourself. So why hurt yourself to please people who don't matter?
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    @excitedforbaby
    :) that actually made me smile, even comin from a stranger. Thanks! I promise though one more fu$#in comment on my looks ima have to stab a bi$ch!
  • Just hang in there its almost over. I couldn't imagine not having my fiancees support or have him criticise me. Just hang in there, scrubbing won't help you aren't dirty. But once your baby is here your hormones will still take a while to adjust back and you will be fine. My belly hair got longer and I hope it goes away, it has taken a lot of me to not shave it
  • Black is truly beautiful and so is being pregnant. Stay centered and true to yourself and don't let anyone or their inconsiderate comments bring you down. You're better than that.

    Then...if you have some energy left over...DEFINITELY THROAT PUNCH THOSE FOOLS! X(
  • Well dont change for them or anyone. Dont switch what you are doing. Keep being you. I dont want to make it sound harsh but as soon as that baby comes all eyes are on the baby and they wont have anything to say to you except congrats.
  • It's true...and your welcome :) don't worry about a thing girl. Just say"fuck you" with a damn smile!
  • @one5one
    Thanks :) and my complexion used to be medium. I'm not light bt I wasn't really too dark. I liked where I was at, kinda like Gabrielle Unions skin tone. Now I'm as black as wesly snipes. Lol I don't mind it bt the freakin comments are annoying.
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  • @mscheyla
    I know where ur coming from about the hair, even that doesn't bother me cuz I can shave it plus being a little hairy doesn't bug me. Bt girl I'm really jus ready to go off in my bf for not even attempting to help me feel better knowing I feel like crap. Thanks a ton for ur kind words tho. Trust me it really does help.
  • @blueberrysmom
    Lmao thanks! And yup I'm bout to take ur advice and throat punch a couple if ppl including my bf. Then jus blame it in temporary insanity.
  • @lilbabythree
    I hope so cause if I still hear more crap about my looks after lil monkey gets here then I really will go off. I'm pretty sure one a-hole will try me tho. Then it will be on!!! Thanks:)
  • Just remember any shade of black is beautiful!!! You don't need anyone to tell you your beautiful look in the mirror and tell yourself!!! Your beautiful I'm sure!!!
  • @Exciteforbaby
    Rotf!! U most def will start doing that! Thanks girl u really helped me from this depression I thought I was having.
  • @mshahir
    Oh lord lol! My bf is the same way too. Looked me dead in the eyes just to say well try a lil harder to look good, u dnt gotta act and look pregnant nd BTW babe ur ass is lookin flat too. Wtf right? I'm just gonna be a bi*?h now.
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  • @mybabe
    Thanks. I never used to be the type to need to hear it, to the point where I was told I'm conceited lol. I knew I was the sh!t, bt now after even my bf saying hurtful things, I began feeling really...Idk. bt thanks fr ur kind words it really puts my m mind at ease.
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    @roseisamommynow people will always attack you while your down... not saying there is even a reason for you to be down but I have come to realize that people always point out my flaws when I'm pregnant because they have nothing to point out when I'm not. You said you've always had high self esteem, people are just jealous and hold it all in and now that you are vulnerable they will use it against you! Screw everyone of course they gonna point out your flaws (while they can) I just laugh at people like that... they have 9 months to feel better about themselves! Don't take that away from them girl!!!!
  • @mshahir
    I know right? Way to kick me when I'm down. I can't stand him sometimes. I'm going to jus tell him how he looked better before bt now he's starting to resemble his fat a$$ dad.
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  • @second_time_mommy7
    I never thought about it like that. It sounds so true. They know the crap will get to me because, well, I'm pregnant and really vulnerable. Another point of view to see it in. Thanks :) my response back to them will now be well I've got nine months to look like crap bt unfortunatly ur stuck like that forever. Lol
  • @Mshahir
    Let's hope so :) thanks fr the convo lady, if only I can explain how much better I feel. Thanks again.
  • @roseisamommynow I kno grl I'm starting to get the same things
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