you did the right thing he needs to think about his mistakes and being away is the only way he will truly come to reality with it all! so sorry you had to do it its hard I know but its for the better
Thank you @mommyofsoon2be3 and @TheTrondsons1st. I need a little support right now. The confrontation was awful and I can't believe he really tried to lie first and then blame me for looking through his stuff. He tried to make it better by saying she is crazy. Right that's why he chooses to be her friend and chooses to call her and respond to her emails. Chooses to not email her to stop asking him to go away with her and leave me.
I think u did the right thing! I know its hard but life will get better. I'm here to talk to anytime and if u want my number so we can text just let me know. Your not alone.
That doesnt even make sense. The part about him saying shes crazy but talks to her. He should listen to himself, cuz he doesnt make sense. I would kick out my husband too if he did that.. And be very hurt..
My heart is so broken for you. I had this issue with an ex for 5 years. He would not stop talking to his ex when ever he got the chance. The "You are crazy" is the most classic red flag there is. I heard it for years and beleived it. That I was being crazy for being mad that he stayed the night over there to see her brother and so on. I am so glad you stood your ground. He needs to do some serious something before you can forgive him. Honestly I still have nightmares about my ex that I still have to be with him, and be so miserable. You and your baby deserve so much better. Its shocking how men can act. I doubt its an ego thing only because hes always had this girl in the bag, its not news to him. He strung it along to see what he could get away with and risked everything for it. Good luck. I will be thinking about you and your baby.
I appreciate what you say @II10 and @wallieheadbaby3. I know I'm not crazy. I found all this out on Wednesday and waited until today to confront him to be sure. I even helped throw him a birthday party yesterday. It's his birthday today. I couldn't keep up the charade anymore. After he left he had the audacity to call me and ask if I could go with him to a cookout today to keep up appearances. Didn't call to say sorry or anything, just to go with him and he would wait until my eyes were not swollen anymore (since I've been crying most of the day) and make an appearance. It's like he doesn't care.
Im sorry youre going through this honey. I am.. I know the feeling but i wasnt married to my ex.. but he did the same thing cheated on me and then we got back together and he kept in contact with her and yelled at me for going through his things.. honey you shouldnt feel bad for anything you did.. you two are married.. you should have no secrets from each other and his stuff is your stuff when you live together.. when i left him he said he was sorry and he made a mistake and all that and i never went back (but we werent married) but he never went to her.. i guess the game was better than being with just one of us.
I'm so sorry! You are in no way crazy, and none of this is your fault. He owes you an apology, fidelity, and loyalty. He needs to NEVER have contact with this woman again. If he wants a future with you, then she needs to have no place in it. You know that we are all here for you and please let us support you.
thats so crazy. I told my ex we would break up on friday since his bday was wednesday. I bought him a bed since he was not sleeping with me anymore. Hes an ass. You deserve so much better.
also he needs to admit what hes done to family, so that they can understand whats happening and he needs to tell them its all his fault. He shouldn't get to keep it all secrets for his appearance to others. He should look as bad as he is.
O hell nah girl that is wrong !!!!!!!! Men are such a aholes ....I been with my man for 7 yrs everytime we break up he talks to the same whore he was with b4 me but they were friends b4 they dated but still it pisses me off cuz she trys n be my friend ....they dnt do nothing but go to partys n bars as friends she picks up dudes n stuff so I knew they aint n a relationship but I hate her...but he hasn't talked to her n 2yrs now cuz I put my foot down n told him ....leave n dnt come bk if u want ur ex as a friend. When we break up it just aint rite ....onces he lost me for a wk he realized I dnt play my way or the highway
Girl we can't tell you to stay with him or leave him but we can tell you to watch your back. If your man is lying to you just so you won't get mad then what else is going on?? And he hide her number in his phone. Oh hell no. My husband would have been single. But I'm a bitch like that. I left my husband for lying to me about smoking. Lol. We worked things out BUT lying is one thing I do not tolerate. And my husband knows that if he ever cheated on me. He would be dickless cause I would cut it off while he sleeps. Then he would not only be dickless but wifeless and childless too. I don't play. I would make him choose between you 2 and if he chooses you I would make him call her and put it on speaker and he needs to tell her that he will never be with her and that they need to cut off all contact. Sorry this is so long but I hate to hear about things like this. Good luck.
Thanks ladies, I had to take a little break and take a hot shower. I was getting all worked up again and I doubt it is doing my baby any good. We just turned 31 weeks today. yay. @trying4first I also thought this going through his stuff is a cop out for getting caught. @TishJ330 I appreciate your support. I'm not crazy. I'm analytical and methodical, but not crazy. That's why I took the time to go through all the scenarios that this shit could happen @OregonMama. I wanted to be sure that I'm not just being emotional. I'm not. He is wrong and I gave him a chance to come clean and apologize, but instead he chose the "you're crazy" and she's "just a friend" route. So now he's gone. At least this girl doesn't try to pretend to be my friend @Babyluv_4- she would have gotten to know the barrio side of me. Now this does make me wonder what else I missed, like you said @momof5. I've put up with a few white lies- like if he did what I asked him to stuff. But who knows now.
I also think you're right @II10. He doesn't deserve to save face with me being quiet about this. I'm a very private person, but my parents are coming this Friday to be with us for the 4th of July and I just don't see how he will be back by then. I'll have to tell my mom and let the chips fall where they lay.
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