cheating-do you consider sexting cheating? please help me-kinda long
So last week i went up to south Dakota for a week to visit my dad. Well during that week my hubby tells me that on Saturday night he is going to met up with some old friend from high school over 10 years since he has seen her. And i trust my hubby told him to have a good time. But also told him i wish that he didn't wait till the week i leave to start meeting up with old female friends. So he didn't go since his parents called Friday night asking him to go see them. Well come back and everything between me and my hubby are great. Well most this week i have been over tried being 6months pregnant, 2 kids and packing to move in 2weeks. Well my daughter woke up this morning at 3 so got up with her cause i knew my hubby was up late past 2 working. Or so i thought. Well i grab my phone and there is a text from one of my old high school friends who lives in Tennessee. We live in Neb. And there is an out going text from my Google account saying what he wants to do to her. Well it turns out he was checking my email which he does all the time cause i hardly use that account other then texting on my phone.and he forgot to sign back into his account and set it to my friend instead. So is it me or is sexting still cheating? I am so hurt cause i thought everything between us was great and then find that this morning. Please help!
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i did once i cooled down a little i went and woke him at 4. And he says he's sorry and will cut off all ties with her. But that trust and respect are now missing.
oh i didn't. He knows i saw it and he asked if i would stay with him and right now the only reason im staying in the house is because of the kids but he is on the couch and not a loud to touch me. Still figuring out if i can stay period.
i was thinking the same thing. I told him if we didn't already have 2 kids and i was only pregnant i would have left in the middle of the night. Just trying to also do what's best for my kids. Hope i can figure that out and soon.
I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. From the posts I've seen on here it seems to be common.
@janellesmommie
that is what i told him. I said i would give it time. But how much is to much and its just time to move on with my life as a single mom?
@mommy_of_2 he says he did it cause both him and her are missing sex in there marriages.
@ittyag
@all thanks for all your help.
There is currently no trust, respect, and a lot of love now missing. So not sure if it will ever come back. He has a lot to prove.
@vette_devil yea he doesn't see it that way he sees it as words on a page no different then porn. I told him there is a difference.
i really hope he changes completely for you and your kids .. [-O<
yea thats how i feel. So he sent her a text this morning cutting off all ties and she keeps texting him. And to make things worse we cant go to a family event this weekend because she is friends with his aunt and she might be there and i will hit her in front of his family and then I will look like the crazy wife but at the point his family will know what he did and i would hope take my side. Either way cant go this year for sure cause i know thats what i will do pregnant or not.
but maybe next year i will have cooled down enough. But thats if we are even still together. Its just a waiting game right now.
@Oregonmama thanks i was glad i woke him up too. Thought about letting him sleep but after about 10seconds that was gone.he just used my Google account which happens to also be on my phone so what ever is sent online is also on my phone.
Yea he said he wasn't about her but more about him. Whatever i see it as cheating