My fiancé's 5 (almost 6) year old daughter.. ugh!
So, yesterday was my baby shower. I'd been dreading the day for 7 months, but instead of avoiding it, I figured as long as my fiancé was there with me, I'd be able to bear it. Well, my in-laws (who were going to pick up his daughter & bring her to the shower) called us Thursday, and said they weren't coming because his dad is sick. Which is no big deal, at all. So, we decided to go pick up his daughter, since it had been awhile since he saw her with us moving and all. But, she aggravates me to no end! And, when she's around, my fiancé is 100% different. First off, she HAS to sleep in our bed. We have a freakin full size bed that we can barely get comfortable in. So, I told him I'd go sleep on the sofa so everyone can have room, he wouldn't let me, so I ended up sleeping on the absolute edge of the bed with my belly hanging off, and woke up with the WORST back ache ever for my shower. Then, she WILL NOT get rid of the damn binky!! It's embarassing to go somewhere with her, because she will not take it out and my fiancé will not make her. Of course when people see all of us in public, they assume she's my daughter, so I get the dirty looks. We've had her since about 8pm Friday night, and my fiancé has already spent almost $100 on toys that she played with all of 5 minutes. She didn't even want the toy, she just HAD to get something at the store. So, I had to wear a damn dress that has stains on it to my shower because I couldn't afford to go buy me a damn $10 shirt since EVERY penny we have has to go to gas (back to having no food for the 3rd damn time). HE CAN NOT TELL HER NO! She knows it, and takes advantage of it. Anyway, while I was helping my mom tie up the lose ends for the baby shower yesterday, my fiancé and his daughter were locked up in the bedroom because SHE wanted him to play the PS3 so she can watch. I wasn't really aggravated by that, but I told him that once the shower started, I really didn't want him in the room, because I REALLY needed his support. What happens? He comes out for 10 minutes, and then disappered for 4 hours while I was stuck alone with all my damn family. Then, after the shower, they leave to go to walmart, and he buys her MORE toys, and says we can use the money from the shower for gas.. uh NO that money is being saved for diapers and shit for OUR daughter. Ughh!!! How does a 33 year old man let a 6 year old make decisions that effect not only him, but myself and our unborn child. I'm sorry, but I CAN NOT wait for her to go home today!!
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@mommyo3soon2b4 She started school last year, but her mom allowed her to put the binky in her bookbag, and take it to school. My fiance' definately wants to put a stop to the binky, but there's not much we can do about anything that takes long-term work since we only have her maybe one weekend out of the month. @liloneontheway @mrs_shu I do agree with both of you. My fiance' nor his ex-wife are innocent. and, when we dropped his daughter off, on the way home, i brought it up to him about the money situation. don't get me wrong, i can't blame him for feeling bad/guilty about not being there for his daughter, but blowing all of our money isn't the way to go about making things right. i HAVE to put my foot down there, because if i don't, every penny would be gone. i think my problem is, i DON'T want to step up and have to be a part of setting rules, because i don't want to deal with my fiance's ex-wife. she'll really start a WHOLE scene over someone correcting HER daughter (she says that to my fiance' as well); It's something that needs to be worked on, but i REALLY don't want to deal with this kind of behavior while i'm pregnant, nor do i want to argue with his ex. but, once the baby's born, and i have a little more fight in me, we WILL start setting rules here. if he doesn't like it, then we're not going to work, and that'll be the end of it. i wouldn't let my child ruin his day, or act the way his child acts around me, so why should i have to go through it? i'm MORE than willing to work with him, but i REFUSE to put months and months of effort forward, and him not change. if we can get her in the different houses have different rules mindset, we'd be doing good.
@simplyraven22406 I hate to say it, but she's a spoiled brat. SHE runs the roost, and I CAN NOT stand it. She talks to people like SHE wants to, and they let her get away with it. I know if my daughter started acting like she does, I'd be putting a stop to it ASAP. I mean, seriously. A few months back we needed to go to walmart to pick up a few things we needed to move. She had been pretty good that day, so I told her once we got done getting what we needed to get, we'd go get her a new colorwonder set. That wasn't good enough. Now, I'm 20 something weeks pregnant at this time, mind you. He decides to let ME go get everything while he brought her to get her toy. I couldn't do that, I needed his help for the heavy stuff, so I just went with him. Then, she wants paints. There was NO way in hell I'm buying a 5 year old paint. She starts crying and carrying on, and he's gonna sit there and nogotiate (sp) with her for 10 damn minutes. I got pissed, pushed the basket aside, and left. F*CK THAT! Then she pulls the whole, I want to go back to my mom's b.s. Just THINKING about it gets me pissed. UGH!
@HappyWifeyMommy How do I make my fiancee understand where I'm coming from, and that things need to change? Any suggestions?
@Mommy2b1111 It's not a daily thing, thank God, but it's very difficult to deal with.