monster mother in law (kinda long) need advice
I swear im probably going to kill her at some point, shes lucky she lives 9 hours away or i would have already. starting from the beginning, i never really liked her parenting style and really disagree with the choices she made in her life, like putting herself before her kids and quitting her job for no reason knowing she had no money and kids to support. I was willing to look past all of that and just try to get along with her because she is the grandmother of my child, however, she is making that impossible. First, told me she hated the name I picked out for my baby and gave me a list of other names she liked for the baby, the name didn't change. Then, she decided to pick out things for my baby in a certain theme, jungle, for a girl, I told her no. Then she tells my bf that its my fault shes never going to see the baby because he moved out here for me. Also, told him that I should pay for her to come out here when the baby is born, pay for her hotel and everything so she can see the baby. Yeah Right. Then she got mad about how I didn't answer her facebook message right away and posted a long paragraph about how terrible i am on facebook. So when things started to get really tense between the two of us he finally stepped in to talk to her and tell her she needed to apologize for the things she has said and done. She refused saying that shes the only one who tried to get to know me and how I should be trying to impress her and that I should be bending over for her to like me! On top of calling me a little princess bitch numerous times amongst other names. BF says hes done being in the middle and we need to sort it out ourselves. I'm at the point of banning her from seeing my child. Not just for the things shes said because that plays a big part but because shes also a very heavy smoker and I disagree with how she acts/talks and she keeps trying to tell me how to take care of my baby. UGH. what do you guys think? ban her from visiting? or at least ban her from visiting until i get an apology? any advice?
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If she cant respect you and you marriage then I see no point in having her involved with your life.
I have a hard time allowing my daughter around my inlaws and really they're not bad people. We just don't see eye to eye. I feel as long as they don't step on my guidelines there's no problem. BF needs to back you up on this. It's a crappy position for him to have to be in but it is the way it is.
Good luck