fiance wants to marry at now @ 38 weeks and 1 week after mothers death. update

mlizzy194 · July 2011

I am 38+1 weeks and my boyfriend of 7 yrs just proposed to me last night again! We have a 5 yr old daughter together and he proposed to me after our daughter was born but we never set a date or anything. So he decided to upgrade my ring a little and proposed to me again! He wants to get married on Tuesday. I'm happy and excited all over again but I'm also afraid he may not be telling me what he's really feeling. We just burried his mom last week Tuesday and have custody of his 11yr old sis. Baby is on the way and our lives changed within days. I love him but I am so scared that he feels like he has to do it rather than want to do it. I dnt know.... maybe this was all an eye opener. R my hormones in control right now? Should I be scared now?

Maggy18 · July 2011

You should tlk to him before giving him an anwser.. or take time to thnk to urself..

mommyofsoon2b3 · July 2011

maybe its truley whats in his heart if he proposed to you previously? he could also just think its time! and wana do it before babys born....cute spontanious-ness tho!

octoberonly · July 2011

Think it through first. My husband tried to get me to marry him a week after his grandma (who his parents lived with til he was 8) passed. I made him wait a month and he still wanted to so we did. I was abt 6 months pregnant with twins. So it can definitely work just make him think it through too.

KrazymomofAdrian · July 2011

I would maybe it did just open his eyes knowing that somethings.aren't gonna be there forever.

AKmommy · July 2011

I think you should do it. When my mother died it put my life into perspective and made me realize what was important. Death that close shows you how precious time is on earth and you must take advantage. He sounds like a wonderful man and you've been together so long and through so much. Honestly I think this is his way of taking control of life, and making sure he doesn't lose anything else. Only do it though if you really want to of course. I got married in my livingroom and it was more personal to me. Good luck love!

Excitedtobe · July 2011

Sounds like he had a reality check and loves you

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Mommylovesy0u · July 2011

This whole thing could be an eye opener to him. he could be feeling that life is short and theirs no need to put off u being his wife any longer.... just talk to him let him know that u love him and if its what he really truly wants at the moment then go for it...

Mylittleman2011 · July 2011

After 7 years and two kids I trully think he wants to be with u forever. Like someone said the loss of his mom made him realize how precious life really is and how you guys have been putting it off for what? You already know you love his kids (LOL) go for it being married to the love of your life is wonderful phenomenal it completes things!!

BentleysMommy · July 2011

That's so sweet. I think with his mom dying, it made him realize that things you love most could be gone in an instant.

mlizzy194 · July 2011

Thank you so much ladies

I read every single response like 4 times!! And last night we talked some more and did exactly what ya said to do... Ask him if this is what he really wants and remind him that I love him no matter what and it can wait a little longer. He said, us waiting this long was his mistake! Mom didn't get to witness him marry the love of his life and he wants to seal the deal! "We are a family... why don't we take the final step to the beginning of our new lives". (He had great answers)

so today we are gonna pick up a marriage liscence @ city hall and tie the knot tomorrow here in NY. Then straight after that we go back to our lives, home, in VA with our new addition to the fam... his little sis..... and wait for baby Emmanuel to arrive. :X