I'm a lil confused, sorry ladies

mummylady83mummylady83
edited July 2011 in Getting pregnant
So I just had a job interview where they asked me if I could commit to them for 12 months.. Having been put on the spot I said yes. Like I said, a lil confused now, does this mean if post mortem results are on the "good way" we can no longer ttc in august?? :-\ I want another baby :'( I'm confused beyond belief xx

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  • podgemarinepodgemarine
    I'm slightly confused by your question because I don't know if someone died ? Post mortem means after death... So what results could be good way?
    What kind of job is it?
  • jalemjalem
    I dont see why u would be un able to ttc next month pregnancies happen all the time and ur employer cant let you go for being pregnant...


    @podgemarine she lost her baby not too long ago
  • lyndsay1983lyndsay1983
    Its hard to say anyone can commit to 12months as we dont know whats round the corner... If you get pregnant again then theyve gotta allow for that, if your stating the job soon and get pregnant in aug then youll have been there long enough and youll have rights anyway. Thats presuming your in uk?!?
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    I would just say u got pregnant by accident when u do, I can't see how that would be a problem because it does happen! They can't discriminate against u! U could always try speaking to hmrevenue as they can put u through to speak to people who can advise u further! X
  • podgemarinepodgemarine
    I'm so sorry to hear that.. I just read ur other discussions and I hope you are doin alright,
    As for the job, there is nothing stopping u from Ttc in August, I use to hire people and they cannot stop u from it.. u can still commit for 12 months and just take maternity leave when necessary..
    If it were me I wouldnt tell them u r going to.. none their beeswax.. :)
  • SamiUKSamiUK
    They can't discriminate against it if you fall pregnant again that's why we have laws nowadays, they can't ask any one to 100%commit for 12 months who knows what's round corner just don't let them know that your ttc, if they say anything when you do actually fall pregnant just sue there a$$ then you can prob get some kinda money compo haha x x
  • mummylady83mummylady83
    I had Benjamin 7 weeks ago, he was 22+4 and didn't make it thru the birth alive. We're awaiting the results of his post-mortem to see if we can try again.

    If it does happen, I don't want the whole thing to be lies.. I had to tell my current boss we hadn't been trying, even tho we had.. as she discriminates against pregnant women.. I am in the uk, the direct gov website was really useful whilst planning for Benjamin's arrival..

    We're not even sure if we'll be able to try or that it'll even happen again. I want a baby so bad, I know nothing can replace Benjamin and I don't want to. All I want is the chance to have another baby and push a pram, give cuddles and love and midnight feeds ALL the things I've wanted for so long already..

    Thanks ladies xx

    @lyndsay1983 @pretty_princess01 @podgemarine @jalem @samiUK
  • survivormommie3survivormommie3
    i would go ahead with ttc if the results come back for you to continue. the least that will happen is that you'll get so far in the pregnancy and need another job. idk how it is in the uk, but here in the usa you cannot be discriminate towards pregnant women.
  • mummylady83mummylady83
    @survivormommie3 they can't discriminate against pregnant women because they're pregnant, that doesn't however mean they can't discriminate "for other reasons" its a difficult situation.. It may take years to get pregnant again or we may not be able to try again.. x
  • mam082711mam082711
    Well I assume it might be a little different in the UK but if I had any type of job interview and needed the job, I'd tell them sure I can give you 12 months...I'd tell them nearly anything they want to hear cuz like @samiuk said who knows what's in store even a month from now, and you need/want the job now. And here in the US they can't discriminate against you bc you get pregnant while you're working...and it's none of their business anyway until it's time for maternity leave. They also can't even ask if you have kids in the interview, but sometimes it's done anyway.
  • potatopotato
    I live in an employment at will state in the US, which makes it hard to prove there was discrimination in the workplace. It's rather annoying.
  • lyndsay1983lyndsay1983
    Aww im prayin for you hunny, my sis in law lost our nephew at 38 weeks, that was 2 years ago on the 12th of aug and shes still in a really bad place. Im so so sorry your going through this hurt. My heart goes out to you xx
  • mummylady83mummylady83
    edited July 2011
    @podgemarine Good results I guess would be just a thing that happened and we were unlucky. Bad results would be a genetic disorder meaning everytime we get pregnant it may end the same way as Benjamin.

    Its a job as a mortgage sales co-ordinater with a £3.5k pay increase on what I earn now. Better shift patterns 8:00-20:00 mon-fri & 1 sat in 3 where as current job is any hours in the day, yesterday and monday I was on a 06:30-12:30 18:00-23:00 and tonight I'm on a 23:00-07:00 and my day(s) off could be any day of the week! Sometimes 13 days between rest days!

    Now you can all see why I want out. Plus there's a llil niggle in my head saying it was the stress, hours & pressure that may have contributed to Benji's problems then eventually his death. :-( xx

    @mam082711 @kristaf22 @lyndsay1983 @potato
  • potatopotato
    Those shifts suck and sound stressful. That little bit of money extra each year wouldn't be worth all the stress, especially if you're going to be trying again. With everything you've been through lately, I would suggest taking a break from work if possible. I had to take a break from work and school recently because I keep getting sick randomly for no reason. Hopefully dropping to half-time in school, taking the classes online, and not working right now will help.
  • laura536laura536
    I think it depends on whether you want to keep the job after you have another baby. If the job is one you really want and it's a better situation for you, in th grand scheme of things, is another 3 to 4 months before you can ttc that long? (This is coming from my perspective, my hubby lost his job and we had to wait 3 years to be in a position to ttc #2.) Also, back to back pregnancies can be harder on your body, so waiting a few extra months could be better in the long run. Good luck!
  • mam082711mam082711
    Wow 8-8 five to six days a week? That sounds like a lot. Good luck with whatever you choose though :-)
  • mummylady83mummylady83
    edited July 2011
    Sorry I didn't make that very clear.. Did I? Lol. The earliest I would start would be 08:00 and the latest I would finish would be 20:00 the shifts would be 8 hours a day. And the 1 saturday in 3 would be 9-2.. Does that sound better? :D

    @potato @laura536 @mam082711
  • SamiUKSamiUK
    Sorry you can't have the job I'm comin to take it haha!!

    I'm on maternity leave but the shifts i was on before were similar to one's you have now and use to sleep over to! what job do you do now? x
  • mummylady83mummylady83
    @samiuk I work in a hotel. And as I'm multi-talented I get shoved on all shifts.. earlies/lates/nights/splits. I love the job but I don't feel I'm appreciated by anyone.

    My boss has her favourites and they can do no wrong while I do everything I'm asked to and more off my own back because I'd rather be kept busy and I get told off for something they've not done or done wrong..

    This makes me a real stress head and I hate it. I come home from work and ALL I do is vent at my hubby because of sh*t at work and I vent on pregly when all you did was ask what I do! :-\ sorry x
  • SamiUKSamiUK
    Haha its ok vent away!! sounds like will be better for you then hun, i know how you feel i got shifted house cos a new womanwho's team leaders mate called me a bitch and lots of other nasty words threatening to smack me and being nasty to service users we worked with, i put a complaint in and i got shifted after i trained 3 new starters and was doing 60 hour weeks not including my sleep time which was 9 hours a night x
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