So overwhelmed

dadof2n1togodadof2n1togo
edited August 2011 in VENT (keep it peaceful!)
I dont really know if this goes here or not but I am so overwhelmed and feel like I'm about to fall apart.

My wife is due in 3 months and it has been a hard pregnancy which has seen no intimacy since about 5 weeks. This I can handle sort of lol. However we have basically just found out that it looks like she isn't entitled to maternity leave. This has caused huge stress on me since I finish up on my job in 2 weeks. She has basically left me every thing to chase up and I feel like I have let her and our kids down. Guess I'm feeling depressed and so stressed out.

Sorry just needed to get it out, as I can't say it around her cos then she ends up crying and I feel worse.

Comments

  • PrayingForMiraclesPrayingForMiracles
    I don't have maternity leave per se, but I do have short term disability and fmla. Check into that...
  • happymommyof2happymommyof2
    That is horrible, What kind of company doesnt give maternity leave??? I am sorry for what you are going through and I really hope you can come up with a solution
  • mrs_shumrs_shu
    Is it possible for her to quit and then look for something else a month or two after baby? You haven't let them down, leaving your job was talked about and planned for so now that her job is being buttheads is neither of your fault!
    You are always welcome to unload here:)
  • dadof2n1togodadof2n1togo
    Sorry I missed out a bit. Her boss is looking into what he can offer her. But in australia there is 18 weeks maternity leave offered by the government. This only pays about 1/5th of what she currently earns. Leaving me to pay all but maybe a weeks rent.
  • caroline8_pcaroline8_p
    Australia, interesting :)

    Don't stress, DO vent, it helps.
  • ethansmommy122ethansmommy122
    I've been stressing about my financial aspect as well b/c im due in 6 weeks and will not get paid for anytime off either, just FMLA. He will have to pay all of our bills while im off and im not sure if that's going to work. Everytime i stress and cry he calms me down and reassures me that it'll be fine. Thank u for sharing your thoughts b/c now i see what he's probably going through too but doesn't wanna upset me. It helps to get things off your chest, so vent away! That's what we're here for! :)
  • dadof2n1togodadof2n1togo
    Thanks @all
    I am just so worried as we have only just really got everything sorted from when we had our son who is 4 now. Everytime I think about it I am basically in tears. I second guess whether I should have stayed on the police force etc but then I remember why I'm leaving on the first place. I'm scared of failing my wife and our 3 lkids and it hurts.
  • dadof2n1togodadof2n1togo
    Ok things are a bit better today but probably only because I have slept lol. I have 12 hours tonight at work and then tomorrow I have an appointment to find out better info on our options for her leave entitlements. If not I may just pull my resignation letter from work for now as they want me to stay on. In which case I can cash in my leave probably.

    My god its so frustrating and I am so stressed. Time for the firing range before work I think.
  • Babynewyear2012Babynewyear2012
    @dadof2n1togo I feel your frustration. My maternity leave had to start at 13 weeks. I have short term disability with my company that only last 6 months after that nothing. To top it off I have been there 17 years and may not have a job to return to. I truly hope everything works out for you guys. Just pray about it and hopefully god will put your mind at ease. Venting here is always good to, it does make it easier to get your mind off of it.
  • dadof2n1togodadof2n1togo
    Thanx am sure it will work out soon
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    Why doesnt she get maternity leave? Does she have short term disability at her work?
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