L&D drama free plan??

sduboissdubois
edited July 2011 in Third Trimester
So this will be our last baby and our family tends to turn giving north into a circus,which really always bothered me but I refuse to have it be like that this time. When my last daughter was born I had about 10 people in my room playing pass the baby literally not even 5 minutes after I pushed her out! When I wanted to be relaxing enjoying the first moments and nursing my new baby. Anyways my husband already agreed that we will not be telling people until after he's born but Id rather just our parents and our children come the first day,everyone else has small kids and that's the last thing I want is a bunch of visitors much less a bunch of small kids! Anyways how could we nicely tell people not to bring their kids if they come visit? I myself would know better but my husband thinks his family will be offended and Im being too controlling! Ahhh.

Comments

  • brodysmammabrodysmamma
    I would just say since this is our final baby we want it to be special between immediate family and you want to remember the moment as very relaxing. You will call once you are settled in and ready for visitors. People should understand.
  • laura536laura536
    One of my friends had a baby last year and she posted on FB that they were limiting visitors for the new baby until she was bigger, due to the recent whooping cough outbreak.
  • MiracleM2BMiracleM2B
    Blame it on the hospital! :p Just say you were asked to ask your guest to leave younger children at home while they're visiting due to an excessive amount of people in the waiting area in the past couple weeks and its against hospital regulations to be that crowded. Hahaha I'm good!
  • allyssasmommyallyssasmommy
    Yea tell them.sorry hospital rules 3 people only
  • sduboissdubois
    You would think they would understand but they are already upset that we won't be telling anyone until after I have him. And the blaming it on the hospital of doctor would be a great idea if I hadn't sent all of them to my doctor lol all but one of the people we know have had theory babies at this hospital with our doctor :/ I guess for once I'm just going to have to not care if people are upset with me and do what I want. Why does everything have to be so stressful??
  • mam082711mam082711
    @sdubois most hospitals have a visitation policy but may not usually enforce it if the patient doesn't say anything. Where I used to work it was 2 per patient, but wasn't enforced unless the visitors were loud, the patient or roommate said something, or if the visitors got in the way of us trying to do our jobs.
  • mam082711mam082711
    @sdubois so when you go in just tell your nurse you don't want more than your husband and 2 others and they should mind your request.
  • camommycamommy
    At my hospital you can only have so many visitors at a time and no one under the age of 14 except brothers and sisters
  • sduboissdubois
    I wish my hospital had rules like that,it would make this easier! I think we will just send a text to everyone saying we had the baby and we will not be taking visitors with children till after we are home. And to please ask before showing up unannounced. His family also thinks breastfeeding is "weird" and that makes me not want them there even more lol
  • survivormommie3survivormommie3
    I would simply say you don't want anyone under the age of 13 to come around until you are home or the baby is 2 wks old. it helps for you to bring your blood pressure down and get back in the groove of a new routine. or you could tell them that you will call after you have the baby, however, you do not want visitors at all, unless prior plans have been made- when you are home. I put a sign on my front door saying "thank you for visiting, but please no unexpected visitors for a while...mom is resting. please call so we you can meet baby." and leave it at that. being that i am on #3 everyone pretty much gets it though. except for my in laws. they seem to be the dumbest people ever and don't get that i will NOT want them over unless forewarning.
  • misskristinmisskristin
    I personally don't feel that L&D or postpartum is any place for a child that is not immediate family. I don't understand how people can just bombard a new mom and baby like that...HELLO, just gave birth, do you mind? Thank goodness I'm 5000 miles from family and friends that I grew up with. I know people mean well, but surely there has to be a voice in the back of someones mind saying..."Maybe we should let them have some time.". The hospital staff should be able to keep away unwanted visitors. I know when I had my son, they asked if they could let anyone know that I was there should someone call, I said no. If I wanted someone to know which room I was in, I would surely let them know. Lay down the law mama, this is your baby and your birth...not a peep show.
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