i'm about to get the crap judged out of me...involves drug use.

mikeysgirlmikeysgirl
edited August 2011 in Pregnant
Just to preface this: I KNOW what I'm about to 'fess up to is a horrible thing. Believe me, I live with it every day and I do not sleep often. The only reason why I'm reaching out on here is because the clinic I go to is very ambiguous and I am looking for mothers who have been in a similar situation as me. With that being said...
I sporadically used opiates for most of my pregnancy. I am 32 weeks now, and from about week 28-30 my addiction was really getting the better of me. I weened myself off using suboxone and have been clean for 2 weeks. My question is, will my baby still be born addicted? I was clean for a year and a half before my boyfriend got put in jail 2 weeks after I found out I was pregnant and I just snapped. I hate myself for being weak; I hate myself for being an addict. I can't believe I slipped up the way I did. I talked to my doctor about it and everything is fine in my pregnancy, but when I ask questions like the one I just asked, he offers little or no insight. Are there any of you who have gone through this? PLEASE don't leave judgemental comments. I am well aware that I'm a POS. Trust me, I don't need to be bashed. Please help me.
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  • juliek77juliek77
    I don't have any advice but just wanted to say good luck to you. Try to be positive about where you are now being clean for 2 weeks and go from there. You are not a POS, you are trying to do better and get clean and that really matters.
  • ourbaby3ourbaby3
    You are not a pos. You know the harmful effects it could have, I think you are brave to reach out for support to help beat your addiction and disease. It is a disease . I don't have much insight to offer on the effects but I wanted to show support. You can message me any time if you are feeling weak and I won't bash. I hope you get the support you and your baby needs.
  • breewashington08breewashington08
    First off. I dnt thnk ur a pos, an u shldnt feel that way either.. I dnt know much about these kina situations but I felt I had to comment. I wantd to let u knw that I am more than happy to b here to lend some encouraging words an listen if u needa talk.. sometimes its easier to talk to strangers than ur best friend. Plz dnt hesitate :) I wish u all the luck sweetie
  • breewashington08breewashington08
    First off. I dnt thnk ur a pos, an u shldnt feel that way either.. I dnt know much about these kina situations but I felt I had to comment. I wantd to let u knw that I am more than happy to b here to lend some encouraging words an listen if u needa talk.. sometimes its easier to talk to strangers than ur best friend. Plz dnt hesitate :) I wish u all the luck sweetie
  • mikeysgirlmikeysgirl
    thank you, thank you, and thank you. i really appreciate the kind words. i am so jealous of people who aren't addicts. i have a bachelor's degree and a wonderful family, and a couple of years ago i almost lost everything due to my addiction. i'm ashamed at myself for slipping up, but i really do love my son more than anything and i want him to have a wonderful life. thanks again.
  • Alwayzbeenurz2008Alwayzbeenurz2008
    With the use of substances there is not garentee that he or she will be 100% healthy or not. Its 50/50. I myself don't know anything but it first hand. I hope the best for a healthy baby and for you to stay sober. :)
  • blueberrysmomblueberrysmom
    You're moving in the right direction. Good for you, hun! :ar!
  • juliek77juliek77
    Oh, you might also want to ask your doctor about getting a referral to see a neonatalogist. They can give you more information on the effects that the drugs have had on your baby or might have after birth. They will probably be your best source for getting that kind of advice. @mikeysgirl
  • SjmomSjmom
    I think the best thing to do is prepare for him to be addicted. I have also heard 50/50 chances, but even if he is the nurses and doctors will do everything to make sure he can comfortably get better. My husbands sister is adopted and her mother used while pregnant. She didnt go throuh withdraws but did suffer a few effects of the drug use for the first year. Her temperment was sensitive and she would scream awake often, she had digestive issues as well. She is now an extremely smart and witty 7 yr old. Have faith and God bless you and your baby boy.
  • pinkbaby0930pinkbaby0930
    U definitely are taking a huge step reaching out. U have alot of support here. Keep up the good work at staying clean. When u have a craving think baby! Good luck.
  • mom2be_oct_babymom2be_oct_baby
    Ur going in the right direction, and u know what u did was wrong. Try to stay positive. It's a good chance that babies born to mothers who are opiate addicted go through withdrawl after birth. A friend of the family is an opiate addict and just had her baby girl. She used opiates her whole pregnancy without trying to stop (smh). Her baby was born addicted to opiate and has to be held at the hospital becuz she will not eat on her own and is in withdrawl. The hospital has to contact cps and right now there is a good chance they will take her baby. She is an unfit mother though. Sorry if I scared you, ur doing the right thing and by being clean 2 weeks ur giving ur baby a better chance. Try to stay positive and keep doing the right thing for your little one...good luck!
  • black_butterflyblack_butterfly
    This is the first step in the right direction for you and your family good luck with your son and uout journey ahead
  • KingsmamaKingsmama
    I have personal experience with opiate addiction in pregnancy. Mine is from a car accident and was on high doses of oxy for yrs before concieving. I was still on my meds for a bit before finding out I was pregnant. I made a thread about it a long time ago. Since then I've had much lower doses of meds for my back throughout my pregnancy for breakthroughs pain. My high risk Dr said as long as I'm off of it for a month before baby comes he will be weened to where he's not addicted. My son is perfectly healthy and I'm being induced on the 23rd.
  • myowndisaster23myowndisaster23
    Stay positive and put it in Gods hands. Good luck, sweetie.
  • ChevygirlChevygirl
    I dont have any advice to give you other than my support! I wish I knew the chances... My motto prepare for the worst pray for the best! You're doing great. Do what's best for you and baby :)
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    i cant give you advice about the later affects of drug use, but i was using in early pregnancy, i smoked weed, was taking pain killers orally, and i was snorting opanas quite often. i found out i was pregnant at around 3 months and didnt stop until almost 5 months because it was just to hard. i was extremely worried about my llittle girl having problems, but my pregnancy is completely healthy from what the doctors can see. shes a very healthy weight and the only issue ive had is pre eclampsia. dont think your a pos, its not good for you. i went through extreme depression fits because i felt like i was killing my daughter, but you are starting to make the change which is awesome! good luck, if you need anyone to talk to, just message me, im open to talk :)
  • TishJ330TishJ330
    Stay strong! I'll be praying for you and your son. Do you have help and support for when he gets here? Please find some support so that you'll stay clean & sober after he arrives. You have my support on Pregly, but you need someone there with you as well. I wish you the best of luck on this journey.
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  • lae3lae3
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    Just have to hang in there girl.. for you lil man.. You cant dwell on days past bit you can continue to take it one day at a time.. And you baby has less of a xhamce of having withraw cause you quite.. So keep in mind your doing your best... Good luck
  • MyBamBina28MyBamBina28
    Rooting for ya! Good luck girl!
  • brodysmammabrodysmamma
    I dont have any personal experience in this, (with myself being pregnant) but your dr should be able to refer you to someone that can give you more answers. I do know its a waiting game, there is no knowing for sure or what the chances are before the baby is born. You might even be able to call your local WIC (women infant an children) or DSHS office and they often have resources, as well as calling a local in patient or out patient treatment center. They should be able to direct you in the right direction. And I believe you can remain anonymous or just ask vague questions and you don't have to leave your name if you are worried about anything. Good luck to you and your baby. Good luck on your journey to sobriety as well.
  • MommysierraMommysierra
    i must say first you are a very strong person for reaching out for help and i hope things turn out great for you and your son. i dont have personal experiences in this situation but i would think that once you have weaned yourself off and no longer feel withdrawels from the lack of the drugs your baby would follow your same pattern you still have approximately 8 weeks untill your baby is due i think that is plenty of time for your body and his to wean off and be fine but like i said i dont know for sure just my thoughts
  • Hot2Cold87Hot2Cold87
    edited August 2011
    I just want to say its good u trying to do better n idk where u from but here (texas) they have clinics for mothers who are addicts n they help u try to stay clean so your baby isn't born addicted to drugs n they even help u take care of your baby while u recover so you not overwhelmed maybe you can look into a program like that maybe look on the internet...I can't say I knw what u going through but I wish u the best!
  • baby2dec14yayybaby2dec14yayy
    me and my two brothers were all druggie babies and none of us were born addicted to anything! her thing was meth.. and none of us ever had problems either and still us two that are older both graduated and never had problems in school at all. im glad you have been clean for a few weeks!! keep up the good work for that little one of yours!! s/he needs you to have a good head on your shoulders the they too can have a good head on theirs :) best of luck to you!!!
  • nicoleok87nicoleok87
    At least ur trying....that's more than some kids get!!!
  • preggointxpreggointx
    Your doing the right thing stopping...increase your water intake and clear out your system so your baby will get used to it not being there the most that will probably happen is increased fussiness if that good
  • ProudmommaProudmomma
    Good job on getting help :) you're strong! Now if you have been clean for 2 weeks I do believe your baby will not be addicted. I was on Vicodin during my pregnancy due to my back bur stopped at 32 weeks and she is completely healthy with no addiction. Just stay away from it even after your baby is born if u breast feed. I wont cast judgment cause everyone is addicted to something period. Even if its not drugs.
  • SamiUKSamiUK
    Can i first of all say how wonderful it is for all pregly ladies to show support and no judging! When i saw title i thought uh oh drama.. and wasn't going to open it

    secondly well done on 2 weeks clean! That truly is amazing you ain't a pos hun you made the wrong decisions that's all, now your trying to put it right, good luck and all the best to you and your son make sure you keep us updated :) xox
  • Math_MommyMath_Mommy
    I know two different women who were on methadone maintenance during pregnancy. One on a very low dose 14mg, the other was on a higher dose (42, I think). They stayed in the program right up through delivery. Neither baby had withdrawal symptoms (they were lucky, from what ive read its a matter of chance, not dosage). Suboxone has a shorter half-life than methadone, but longer than other opiates. The biggest danger to your baby is during the weaning process in utero, when doctors cant control symptoms (like they can with meds after baby is born). if you are completely detoxed, your baby should be as well.

    I just realized how disconnected my information is comming out (getting kinda tired). But I still talk ti the girl who was on 14 mg. Her daughter is six, and mom is just over 5 years clean (from methadone and everything else), both are wonderful in every way. I have lots more info, so feel free to inbox me.
  • proud2bmommyagainproud2bmommyagain
    Its takes a strong person to reach out the way you did. Addiction is a disease and I don't view you as a POS. Just try to be strong for ur unborn chid. I don't know to much about ur drug use but I hope everything turn out well for you good luck
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