does your SO continue to drink?

ashesashes
edited February 2011 in Pregnant
I'm getting offended with my bf right now, I've asked him to stop drinking, even if its just around me, and the jerk is sitting here downing beer after beer.
Am I wrong to think he should stop drinking more than the occasional beer with dinner or whatever? It's unfair, I love beer and can't have any, he should take that into account and stop. Ughh am I selfish? He can't be pregnant, he could at least do SOMETHING... he always gets after me, yelled at me for wanting sushi, told me I'm not allowed to have green tea anymore, and tries to regulate everything I put in my body, then basically shoves this is my face. It seems rude.

Sorry had to rant

Comments

  • coolbabybeanscoolbabybeans
    You should rinse out a beer can and fill it with juice he would freak the f out.....but ya its not fair to you he could at least narrow it down to once a month or a week at least....sorry He's bein an a right now
  • EdubsbabyEdubsbaby
    Wow. I have the exact same problem with my hubby. We used to rink together all the time and now nothing for me. Ever since I told him I'm pregnant he has gone crazy in drinking and smoking. I think he is being such an ass.
  • Rissalee7Rissalee7
    Mine only drinks when I buy its for him he lets me smell its lol
  • ashesashes
    Yeah we used to drink a lot...its just so rude. Really. If the tables were turned they would feel the same.
  • heatherlynnheatherlynn
    Mine drinks, but not badly. I dont mind. I know im hard to deal with sometimes.
  • babylyon11babylyon11
    Me and my husband would have drinks together before I got prego, now its a rare occasion that he has one, I just don't think he thinks about it :)
  • pretty_princess_1pretty_princess_1
    I don't mind as my fiance isn't a big drinker so when he wants a drink its ok. Were even stil going clubbing on Monday just I'm designated driver an thats fine with me!
  • bwhite55019bwhite55019
    I don't think its right to tell them that they can't drink but yet expect them to do extra house work and do the things we can't. I absolutely love beer but it was my choice to have a baby to I made the sacrifice.
  • j_martel14j_martel14
    I know how u feel me n my hubby use to drink all the time n yet he still does it everyday I don't think its right let alone fair. I wouldn't mind it as much if he maybe drank on the weekends or occasionally but its not that way. I hope he does something about the drinking cuz I really don't want him drinking everyday like this then trying to take care of baby
  • 2girls1boy2girls1boy
    My hubby still drinks. He takes care of me and out two daughters...poor guy needs a break!
  • finallyamommafinallyamomma
    My boyfriend still drinks and I really don't mind. The only time I get upset is when he gets drunk, because its too much for me to deal with. We used to smoke together and he has stoped that which was nice and a huge help in helping me stop too!
  • shanIamshanIam
    I don't mind either. My husband still drinks when he wants a beer. If I asked him to stop, he would. Actually, he asked me if I minded. Since he was considerate enough to ask, I don't mind.
  • ashesashes
    @pretty_princess_1 see something like that wouldn't bother me as much, if we went out to a club, or something. But he won't "let" me go to a club or anything similar because it's too "dangerous" even if I'm not drinking. Its frustrating and just rude to me when he regulates every little thing I do but still does whatever he wants.

    @bwhite55019 also in that situation maybe I would feel different. But I didn't exactly choose to have a baby right now, I was on birth control, and we don't live together and he doesn't do any housework in his house...he doesn't even keep his room clean for me to come over. I ask extremely little of him. I didn't even ask for him to stop drinking, just not heavily and not around me. And on top of that he kept "accidentally" opening my dads/mine blue moons instead of his miller lites. Ugh. I just ignored him so he went home, after rudely chugging 3 beers and saying how great they tasted after EACH beer.

    Maybe I'm so pissed because a few nights ago he got drunk and came over and tried too hard to sleep with me. I just want him to grow up before this baby comes.

    Thank you everyone for your input :)
  • shanIamshanIam
    I totally understand your side. If I was in your situation, I would feel the way you do.
  • missthiggymissthiggy
    Have u tried having an n/a beer?? Their not as good but help me when i am hanging out or around other people drinking :) busch n/a is terrible tho!
  • bwhite55019bwhite55019
    Yea in that situation I would be pissed too.
  • MCurry_20MCurry_20
    My husband agreed to stop drinking while im pregnant which is great but he still has the occasional beer at a gathering but i do think that its inconsiderate of your man not to slow down ateast
  • pretty_princess_1pretty_princess_1
    @ashes that is pretty unfair- as your body will tell u when uve had enough an when to rest etc! Just because ur pregnant life doesn't stop lol. Good luck!
  • andrews_mommy_2011andrews_mommy_2011
    Mine agreed to stop drinking period cus he gets to crazy and I wnt deal wit dat shit.took sme convincing but momma get her way:)
  • ViviyaViviya
    My husband has been drinking every night. Last night he was so sick that his violent vomiting woke up our one year old son and scared him.
  • EdubsbabyEdubsbaby
    I'm really sorry to hear that @viviya! That would really get me angry. @ashes I do understand what you are going through. My hubby doesn't really clean any more than he used to and has his bf come over most weekends. His bf used to come over every single weekend and stay over so they both would get wasted, that's why I call his buddy his bf. I work full time, pay the bills, clean the house, and would just like a little consideration. We had a huge argument 2 days ago about his drinking and smoking every day and he tried to play the "oh, that's what bothering" card. I think he now understands why it bothers me, but I'm not sure if it will change anything. He says its because he is super stressed over his job not paying enough and wanting to take care of us. It makes sense, but I'm freaking out too!
  • EdubsbabyEdubsbaby
    By the way he just crawled into bed an hour ago, drunk again and his bf is in the guest room again, drunk as well.
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