considering adoption.
I want to keep my baby but the more I think about things the more real they become. Im in no way financially stable to have a baby. Nor is my bd. It makes me so depressed that I can't give my child the life I want it to have. I mentioned it to my parents and they were livid with me. My parents take care of my sister and her baby. But my parents aren't so willing to help me. I have no one to talk to this about. I don't want to depend on the government. I have applied every where for a job but we all know how that goes. I don't have anything to fall back on. I want my baby to have a great life. I know that if I had the money and stability I could be a great mother. I don't want to struggle.
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If you choose adoption, youre still a mother. You make the decision so that your child could have everything you need, and that makes you a GOOD mother.
Neither decision is easy. Both will lead to heartbreak, whether sooner or later. And either way, you will have to live with the decision you make.
But neither decision is wrong, dont let anybody hurt you for doing what you have to do.
@ahendricks09 im only 20 too. I've applied at so many places I've lost count. Im not showing or anything and I have experience it just takes forever to get a call back. I won't get very many gifts. My parent would get the crib and id get a couple things from friends but not much.I got stuck with a $4000 dollar debt right out of high school and still haven't paid it off cuz I just have other things I needed. Like a car. Which is broke!!!! Its frustrating when you have nothing but negatives. I try and be positive and I do good somedays but it creeps back up. My bd is of no help.
I dont want a pity party nor am I looking for an "easy way out". I just want advice so I don't feel alone.
@captainmorgaine I just want the best for my baby. Who knows by the time I give birth things might be great! But as of right now im just keeping an open mind. Thank you for being kind with your words. I know this is a touchy subject but this is also about my life. I do want to keep my baby and love it with everything I am. But if the situation doesn't change ill give someone else that chance as well because not everyone can have a baby. Id still love my baby forever.
@ahendricks09 I plan on doing all I can to see if I can get things in order. Im not gonna give up. Hopefully I can turn the situation around before feb. Im gonna do like you do and take everything day by day. Im really down in the dumps but im trying to be productive and get things together. Thank you that means a lot!
@bettymomma I know it would be difficult. Either way would be hard. But the economy is a joke... ughh. Im not gonna give up on myself or this baby. Adoption is my last resort if things are where they need to be in my life. Thank you so much for supporting me either way.
@preggointx either decision would be difficult. Life isn't easy lol but I hope things are stable enough before I give birth so I can keep my baby. Im gonna try my hardest!
you can make a goals list for yourself. where do you want to be in 1 yr, 5 yrs.? what do you need to do to get there? what MUST HAVE items do you need before baby gets here?
also remember that you can always try parenting for a certain period of time and if you are in over your head you can choose adoption. but in adoption and once it's final- you can't go backwards.