teen pregnancy *our stories & outcomes are NOT all the same!
a girl i know on fb posted
"This is crzy everyone I knew from like way back when is about to have a baby. Do ya'll really think a baby is gonna make your life better I mean some of you are lik 16 17 years old this is not the way to go. I really wish you young ladies had waited I really do this is really nuts and I am so disapointed in ya'll fah real.#Last of a dying breed!! And das my good word!! }=<"
& that really got to me because most of us dont sit around & just say "hey i think i want to have a baby & put my life on hold." things do happen & despite what people want to believe when they happen is completely out of our control weather precautions are taken or not. God determines when & to whom a life will be brought into this world. instead of being disappointed in us i wish people would try to being encouraging & uplifting to us to be the best mothers we can be because after a deed is done its done & thats all there is to it.
even though im 17 & will be 18 when my daughter gets here & im still more established & well off than some of these older married women thats including financially. unlike actual reckless females I KNOW who my childs father is. i WONT be living off my mother OR government assistance. she'll NEVER have to go without having & she WONT have to experience what it means to struggle. being a teen mother doesnt mean your life is over or youll fail. it simply means things wont come as easy but you know what the same person that blessed me with her is going to be the same person getting me through.
i hate narrow minded people & i swear itll be a cold day in hell before i let someone put me in such a category & give me a label.
i had stated to her during our conversation:
"you cant just come off the back & say that. what about the girls that get raped & get pregnant? & the ones who really are just going on a downward spiral & just cant seem to get themselves on the right path? you cant judge every teen pregnancy on the same reason when we dont all have the same story & safe sex doesnt ensure a thing, condoms break and birth control can fail once again its not up to us, God decides when things happen.
& she said
" I really understand what those girls that get raped and get pregnan go through no one can say I can't be cause I have been through a situation like that and I dont jugde the girls like that cause its not their fault no one in this world can say that i jugde the girls like that. I honestly jugde the ones who chose to open there legs with out protection or with out being on birth control cause condom cost nothin but five dollars and birth control is free so to tell me I don't have the whole story is bullshit ppl should get offened when they know their not the product of a recless situation and if you know that condoms break and birth control fail then dont do anything cause thats a sure fire way."
right before this she had the nerve to "brag" about how she has protected sex & nothing has happend to her but yet contradicted herself by saying "if you know that condoms break and birth control fail then dont do anything cause thats a sure fire way." without her practicing abstinence herself she could EASILY be in the same boat.
ughh gosh she pissed me off for the night!
"This is crzy everyone I knew from like way back when is about to have a baby. Do ya'll really think a baby is gonna make your life better I mean some of you are lik 16 17 years old this is not the way to go. I really wish you young ladies had waited I really do this is really nuts and I am so disapointed in ya'll fah real.#Last of a dying breed!! And das my good word!! }=<"
& that really got to me because most of us dont sit around & just say "hey i think i want to have a baby & put my life on hold." things do happen & despite what people want to believe when they happen is completely out of our control weather precautions are taken or not. God determines when & to whom a life will be brought into this world. instead of being disappointed in us i wish people would try to being encouraging & uplifting to us to be the best mothers we can be because after a deed is done its done & thats all there is to it.
even though im 17 & will be 18 when my daughter gets here & im still more established & well off than some of these older married women thats including financially. unlike actual reckless females I KNOW who my childs father is. i WONT be living off my mother OR government assistance. she'll NEVER have to go without having & she WONT have to experience what it means to struggle. being a teen mother doesnt mean your life is over or youll fail. it simply means things wont come as easy but you know what the same person that blessed me with her is going to be the same person getting me through.
i hate narrow minded people & i swear itll be a cold day in hell before i let someone put me in such a category & give me a label.
i had stated to her during our conversation:
"you cant just come off the back & say that. what about the girls that get raped & get pregnant? & the ones who really are just going on a downward spiral & just cant seem to get themselves on the right path? you cant judge every teen pregnancy on the same reason when we dont all have the same story & safe sex doesnt ensure a thing, condoms break and birth control can fail once again its not up to us, God decides when things happen.
& she said
" I really understand what those girls that get raped and get pregnan go through no one can say I can't be cause I have been through a situation like that and I dont jugde the girls like that cause its not their fault no one in this world can say that i jugde the girls like that. I honestly jugde the ones who chose to open there legs with out protection or with out being on birth control cause condom cost nothin but five dollars and birth control is free so to tell me I don't have the whole story is bullshit ppl should get offened when they know their not the product of a recless situation and if you know that condoms break and birth control fail then dont do anything cause thats a sure fire way."
right before this she had the nerve to "brag" about how she has protected sex & nothing has happend to her but yet contradicted herself by saying "if you know that condoms break and birth control fail then dont do anything cause thats a sure fire way." without her practicing abstinence herself she could EASILY be in the same boat.
ughh gosh she pissed me off for the night!
Comments
Tell this woman to go F@%K herself. That a sure way to prevent against 'unwanted' pregnancy.
the other one has always been a brilliant mum always looked after her baby her self her own mum use to be like look let me have him for a few hours cos everyone deserves a break! very rarely she left him with any one, she now has a brilliant Job her own house
just goes to show that every case is different