can someone answer me this....
I was just thinking..
Why do some women think its okay to keep their child away from its father when the father is completely able to care for the baby just as much as they are our vice versa??
I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT THE ONES WHO DON'T MAKE AN EFFORT OR AREN'T CAPABLE TO CARE FOR A CHILD. THOSE ARE UNDERSTANDABLE.
I'm talking about the women/men who purposely keep the child away from the other parent out of spite JUST to hurt the other parent....
I honestly do not get it....no matter how much I would hate my bd if he cheated on me, left me for another woman, or just broke up with me for the hell of it..I would never keep his child away from him. Nothing he could do to our relationship (unless I were affraid for my life, etc) would ever effect the relationship between him and his daughter..everrrrr. HIM messing his relationship up with her is his problem. But I wouldn't be the cause of it.
OF COURSE THERE ARE ALWAYS ACCEPTIONS. BUT I'M ONLY TALKING ABOUT THE ONES WHO DO IT TO HURT THE OTHER PARENT/THE GET BACK AT THEM/ETC. SO IF YOU'RE GOING TO POST SAYING SOMETHING OTHERWISE TO TRY TO DEFEND YOURSELF, DON'T. CAUSE CHANCES ARE I'M NOT EVEN REFERING TO YOU, OR YOUR SITUATION. And honestly, you don't have to defend yourself to a stranger. I'm just trying to figure out the logic behind keeping the baby away to mess with the other emotions.
Why do some women think its okay to keep their child away from its father when the father is completely able to care for the baby just as much as they are our vice versa??
I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT THE ONES WHO DON'T MAKE AN EFFORT OR AREN'T CAPABLE TO CARE FOR A CHILD. THOSE ARE UNDERSTANDABLE.
I'm talking about the women/men who purposely keep the child away from the other parent out of spite JUST to hurt the other parent....
I honestly do not get it....no matter how much I would hate my bd if he cheated on me, left me for another woman, or just broke up with me for the hell of it..I would never keep his child away from him. Nothing he could do to our relationship (unless I were affraid for my life, etc) would ever effect the relationship between him and his daughter..everrrrr. HIM messing his relationship up with her is his problem. But I wouldn't be the cause of it.
OF COURSE THERE ARE ALWAYS ACCEPTIONS. BUT I'M ONLY TALKING ABOUT THE ONES WHO DO IT TO HURT THE OTHER PARENT/THE GET BACK AT THEM/ETC. SO IF YOU'RE GOING TO POST SAYING SOMETHING OTHERWISE TO TRY TO DEFEND YOURSELF, DON'T. CAUSE CHANCES ARE I'M NOT EVEN REFERING TO YOU, OR YOUR SITUATION. And honestly, you don't have to defend yourself to a stranger. I'm just trying to figure out the logic behind keeping the baby away to mess with the other emotions.
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I guess its just the ones who do it cause they are mad at the bd that I don't understand.
It's due to a lack of emotional maturity, in my opinion.
I hate it. We're working on getting court ordered visitation so she can't do this anymore.
But just to do it out of spite is ridiculous. I feel bad for the baby.
I know a girl..not woman..GIRL. who does this. Her daughter is one. She will sit there and tell her daughter that she hates her and she disguted by her cause she looks just like her father. Calls her a bitch and a nigger(the baby is part black the mom is pure white) and hits her in the head. She gets 500$ from welfare and 300$ in foodstamps and wastes it all on her self getting her nails done, buying herself stuff and buying alcohol and weed. Then calls her friends 2 weeks into the month for money to buy diapers and formula cause she can't afford it...mind you she lives with her parents and has ZERO bills. And when the bd tries to see her she says no cause she does everything for her child and he doesn't do a damn thing..WELL NO SHIT! You don't let him do a damn thing! People like HER piss me off!
And I think he has a couple but guess what I'm mom a dad 24/7 he don't care if the kids need stuff or wanna see him he'll not come to pick them up be don't give me a penny since I'm not whit him everytime I ask for money he stop talking for months (yeah he text me to tell me how much he miss me but nothing about his daughter) he's been a pain in my butt and make ours life hard plus he's been getting drunk everynight since I left he has no responsibilities and over my dead body I'll let him take my daughters
@2girls_1boy see that's understandable..you're not playing get back games with him. You're trying to keep your kids safe. And he isn't showing any desire to want to be there.
But I am mom and dad. I'm sorry but when you do nothing you get nothing kids need more than an adult to come over and play when it only fits your schedule. I GO TO ALL DOCTORS APPOINTMENTS I GO ON LATE NIGHT WALGREENS RUNS I MAKE BREAKFAST LUNCH AND DINNER .where is this so called dad one is in prison and the other smoking up his paycheck. A DAD is there equally and doesn't bitch about having to help.
I don't know about this other girl but there is always more to the stories than have been told by these poor daddies and mommies that supposedly love these kids so much.
@mrsg I understand what you're saying. But I find it wrong for someone to keep a child away from their parent when the other parent is CAPABLE and WILLING to take care of their child. Imo. Nothing that my bd can do to our relationship will cause me to be so hurt that I will let it effect the relationship he has with his daughter. If he chooses to fuck it up, that's on him. But i wont come between then if he its capable and wiling to be in her life.
Like it was said some reasons are very valid. Mine is difficult but my little girl has known my ex husband as her dad but he is not sperm donor (he knows) I choose the lesser of two evils on that one. Sperm donor is not allowed to see her because he tried to kill me and I fear what he would do to her. My ex husband we didn't work out for multiple reasons but she see's him as Dad and I won't stop that. She says she is lucky she has two daddy's my husband now and my ex husband. I pray she never meets sperm donor because he is very violent and dangerous.
Not trying to be a bitch I just all to well how gossip goes. But I'm not oblivious either to those that do play those games. Just be sure she is really doing what you accuse her of because you see. It not because someone told you.
. And I wouldn't say that she does those thing unless I have seen them myself. She told me herself she didn't want him in her daughters life cause he did her wrong and he fucked her over by leaving her. Bitch is crazy, I'm surprised he didn't leave her sooner! But I have seen her do all of those things to her baby, I've even reported it to cps because if that were my child and someone was treating her that way id want someone to report it too, even if it were me doing it. But like I said, I've seen her do these things. And I wouldn't say it if I didn't. Cause unlike a lot of people, I don't listen to the gossip or say something unless I know its a fact. And if I'm not sure then I ask that person about it.
. And I wouldn't say that she does those thing unless I have seen them myself. She told me herself she didn't want him in her daughters life cause he did her wrong and he fucked her over by leaving her. Bitch is crazy, I'm surprised he didn't leave her sooner! But I have seen her do all of those things to her baby, I've even reported it to cps because if that were my child and someone was treating her that way id want someone to report it too, even if it were me doing it. But like I said, I've seen her do these things. And I wouldn't say it if I didn't. Cause unlike a lot of people, I don't listen to the gossip or say something unless I know its a fact. And if I'm not sure then I ask that person about it.