sex/contractions (ungrateful husband)

Okay. Today has been great. Last night hubby and I had some great sex, today I found out I am 2 cm dilated and was contracting still am and the doctor did a membrane sweep. That part I hated. But anything to possibly help labor. Well I still feel sore from the sweep so sex isn't an option tonight and I let him know. Well he was still sweet and rubbed my back, did the dishes and then wanted to watch tv. I didn't complain. Well now were about to go to sleep because he claims to be super tired. Then gets upset because he was wanting some head. Wtf thought we were going to bed. Apparently I.am suppose to know.

Thing is I know sex hasn't happened much this pregnancy and I try so hard to please him and to explain it to him and he acts like he understands. Which makes me feel good. So when I try to step it and finally have a sex drive I let him know and it turns out great. But if I don't have it the next day or night he is pissed. Goes to bed grumpy or angry.
I should of known tonight was going to be like this. He isn't ever doing dishes and giving me random hugs and kisses back rubs anything sweet like that. Even when I am having a bad day I am expected to be a perfect wife and sahm.


I just don't know what to do. I want to feel special and loved without sex. But he says he feels like showing it when his needs are met basically. I take a step forward to get back to what we had ti being pushed back down and just don't want to try.

Sorry long needed to get it out. I maybe having my son soon and I can't even look at my husband or sleep in the same room with him because he has made me feel worthless if I am not giving it to him. How am I suppose to be all happy with him if I go into full labor.

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  • Is he gonna act crabby for the 6 wks after birth that you 2 can't have sex too? Talk to him & tell him he's acting silly over this.
  • I have talked to him abs tonight I told him I am not expecting him to completely understand how I feel, but needed him to know how I feel and be understanding. It takes both us working together to solve problems not just one. His response was" I wish you would stop making me feel bad, goodnight." Now he is asleep and the next time we talk will be thru text at 8 am telling me what he wants for dinner or to make sure something is done. Then he'll come at 5 and I act like nothing happrned. Till we go to bed.
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  • I have never been given an apology. I will give him one and he says thank you that's what I like to hear. We have argued about this for months now, happens once a week usually. I honestly don't know what ti say anymore.
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  • That's the thing I nit pick with out letting know and honestly my husband hasn't been the same since he came back from basic and AIt. I am thankful and angry though. I feel like the military has taken the guy I married away and turned him into some cocky guy at least to me has.
  • edited September 2011
    I have always been up for sex anytime anywhere. Probably how we ended up pregnant so soon after our first. But he has been gone more than half this pregnancy. I lost my sex drive my last pregnancy in the 3rd trimester. And this one too. Last pregnancy he ended up cheating. So I have been trying to solve my no sex drive this time because I feel like it will happen again but he says it wont. I just don't know. We seemed to work that problem out and fall right back into it. I didn't find out he cheated last pregnancy till I was 3 months pregnant this time btw so its been a rocky few months mostly for me because I just act like it never happened and have give a second chance to prove to me he and I deserve this relationship. But he has to understand me just a little too. I don't think that its much to ask for.
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