I am so sick of the drama....NPR
So I have this friend..let's call her sally. LOOOOONG story short: we met last year about this time of year. after knowing sally a few months i learn her bd beats her. she saw a lawyer to make sure no legal complications of moving from ohio back to her home in florida. her bd finds out a couple days later and he calls the cops on sally saying she tried to kill him bla bla bla. she goes to jail. all charges dropped, etc. she needed a place to stay while this drama was going on so hubs and i decide she can stay with us for a short stay while she gets on her feet. she had no job (was a SAHM of her 6 month old) and no license. well 3 1/2 months come and go and hubs and i told her we needed our space back- we are not only needing our time back, but we need the bedroom we made just for her because we are now expecting #3. the entire time sally lived with us she decided to make friends with my bar hopping, irresponsible cousin. we set rules for sally so she knew what to expect. we set these rules on the way home from picking her up from jail so no confusion.....no alcohol, if she goes out for the night, she stays out til morning- my kids need their sleep, respect our family time. above all that she was to get her license reinstated, get a job and move out. we thought no more than 6 wks of staying with us so she could get on her feet. again, 3 1/2 months later she hadn't done one thing. we were at our end of frustration leading to anger so we tell her we just need our space, she needed to get out (we originally told her 4 wks...then she did nothing, so it turned into 2 wks.) next thing we know we TELL HER to get a place of her by the weekend. we had done all we could to get this girl to grow her own wings, but she was doing nothing other than interrupting my kids, disrespecting our home life, bar hopping, in and out at all hours, interrupting the kids' sleep over and over again and making fun of the kids! we had enough!
she moved out.... it is now almost 6 months past her moving out finally. she does finally have 2 part time jobs, and got an apt on her own. her parents have taken out loan after loan to help her, while they are in florida.
here's the issues: she is so dramatic. i truly feel she is a hypochondriac. she blows up about everything. she still OBSESSES over her bd. she had a boyfriend that they were on and off for the past 8 months. he couldn't take the drama (and had much of his own) and of course tried to let me in on all of that drama. she is still dealing with custody of her baby so that drama is in the air, and now that her and her boyfriend have split (For good- so they say, for the 3rd time) she is up my butt. not just everyday, but all day. she messages me about the dumbest things. i let them go or just ignore them. she calls all the time during dinner and working with the kids on their homework, or putting them to bed. i have to go as far to silence my phone because she calls all the time. i used to dance around things and say "it's not a good time, ill call later" or "is it an emergency? we are busy" now it's ignoring her msg's, calls, and i have flat out told her from 320-845p i WILL NOT msg back or answer a call.
she calls me saturday to say she has hurt her back and is in a lot of pain. she has no insurance, therefore no doctor, so she goes to the hospital. not that i KNOW any of what happened, but i said it sounded like she pulled a muscle in her back and it's taking a few days to heal (which can often take months to heal) or it sounded like a kidney stone or something. she has uti's literally every 5-6 weeks and i told her i don't think it sounded normal, to ask the doc about it when she goes in. so she calls me FREAKING OUT!!! hysterical. of course i think something is terribly wrong. she says that her 2 uncles died from some "mysterious kidney issue" and the doc wanted to do a cat scan on her. she said the doctor strongly advised her to get a support person in to be with her while she is in the ER. so i am naturally concerned that if the doc told her this, something is wrong, and as her friend, best friend, whatever, i should be there for support. this was just after dinner time. but it's the weekend so no biggie. hubs stays home with the kids. iget to the hospital to be with her. the doc comes in minutes later and says "well, the ct scan MIGHT show a kidney stone, but it sounds like it's just a back spasm and nothing extreme.".... WTF- she called me going on and on how the doc was concerned bla bla bla bla. so then doc says her amount of uti's she gets is very unusual and they CAN do an ultra sound to see if anything is going on there. she opts to have one. ok..... while there she tells me how she messaged her ex boyfriend telling him what was going on. he was at a wedding- totally smashed- so she tells him that the doc says she can be alone for the next 48-72 hrs because she needs to be monitored.....by this time i am PISSED!!! I am past my due date, i am miserable, it's past the kids' bed time (it's always rough being alone with more than one kid at bed time). iam thinking *wait.....i bet the doc didn't tell her SQUAT that anyone needed to be here....they keep brushing this off* I am so pissed.
then she calls me about how her ex said he was going to come comfort her and care for her. but he was too drunk. so she said to stay away from her. and so he did. well she went to the bar tuesday night and he was at the same bar and she was pissed because he ignored her. on and on with that drama.
today: i am at the doctor with my oldest and can't take calls (naturally). so she freaks out in messages telling me she had to get her eye xrayed and she needs to get her eyes dilated because there is a chance she has retinal detachment disorder....... ok? seriously? then she says "i have no insurance of course. if it goes left untreated then i will lose my eye sight within this year and ill be blind."
OMG... I AM SO SICK OF HER STUPID DUMB ASS DRAMA.. I DON'T CARE~!!!!!!
so vent over....thanks for reading if you took the time! anyone else want to vent their frustrations or friend issues?!
she moved out.... it is now almost 6 months past her moving out finally. she does finally have 2 part time jobs, and got an apt on her own. her parents have taken out loan after loan to help her, while they are in florida.
here's the issues: she is so dramatic. i truly feel she is a hypochondriac. she blows up about everything. she still OBSESSES over her bd. she had a boyfriend that they were on and off for the past 8 months. he couldn't take the drama (and had much of his own) and of course tried to let me in on all of that drama. she is still dealing with custody of her baby so that drama is in the air, and now that her and her boyfriend have split (For good- so they say, for the 3rd time) she is up my butt. not just everyday, but all day. she messages me about the dumbest things. i let them go or just ignore them. she calls all the time during dinner and working with the kids on their homework, or putting them to bed. i have to go as far to silence my phone because she calls all the time. i used to dance around things and say "it's not a good time, ill call later" or "is it an emergency? we are busy" now it's ignoring her msg's, calls, and i have flat out told her from 320-845p i WILL NOT msg back or answer a call.
she calls me saturday to say she has hurt her back and is in a lot of pain. she has no insurance, therefore no doctor, so she goes to the hospital. not that i KNOW any of what happened, but i said it sounded like she pulled a muscle in her back and it's taking a few days to heal (which can often take months to heal) or it sounded like a kidney stone or something. she has uti's literally every 5-6 weeks and i told her i don't think it sounded normal, to ask the doc about it when she goes in. so she calls me FREAKING OUT!!! hysterical. of course i think something is terribly wrong. she says that her 2 uncles died from some "mysterious kidney issue" and the doc wanted to do a cat scan on her. she said the doctor strongly advised her to get a support person in to be with her while she is in the ER. so i am naturally concerned that if the doc told her this, something is wrong, and as her friend, best friend, whatever, i should be there for support. this was just after dinner time. but it's the weekend so no biggie. hubs stays home with the kids. iget to the hospital to be with her. the doc comes in minutes later and says "well, the ct scan MIGHT show a kidney stone, but it sounds like it's just a back spasm and nothing extreme.".... WTF- she called me going on and on how the doc was concerned bla bla bla bla. so then doc says her amount of uti's she gets is very unusual and they CAN do an ultra sound to see if anything is going on there. she opts to have one. ok..... while there she tells me how she messaged her ex boyfriend telling him what was going on. he was at a wedding- totally smashed- so she tells him that the doc says she can be alone for the next 48-72 hrs because she needs to be monitored.....by this time i am PISSED!!! I am past my due date, i am miserable, it's past the kids' bed time (it's always rough being alone with more than one kid at bed time). iam thinking *wait.....i bet the doc didn't tell her SQUAT that anyone needed to be here....they keep brushing this off* I am so pissed.
then she calls me about how her ex said he was going to come comfort her and care for her. but he was too drunk. so she said to stay away from her. and so he did. well she went to the bar tuesday night and he was at the same bar and she was pissed because he ignored her. on and on with that drama.
today: i am at the doctor with my oldest and can't take calls (naturally). so she freaks out in messages telling me she had to get her eye xrayed and she needs to get her eyes dilated because there is a chance she has retinal detachment disorder....... ok? seriously? then she says "i have no insurance of course. if it goes left untreated then i will lose my eye sight within this year and ill be blind."
OMG... I AM SO SICK OF HER STUPID DUMB ASS DRAMA.. I DON'T CARE~!!!!!!
so vent over....thanks for reading if you took the time! anyone else want to vent their frustrations or friend issues?!
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Block her from everything, change your number if you have to. She is fricken psycho... she is a future Debra Start! (not that you would know who that is lol but trust me you don't want too)
I would delete her from any social network you might share with her like FB, or Myspace, what ever. Block numbers, change numbers and never talk to her again.
I know it seems like I am spazzing out but trust me on this... you do not want to continue the friendship.
And @lae3 she is a leach, but a crazy leach with all of the medical drama bs.
And @lae3 is right she is a leach, but a crazy leach with all of the medical drama bs.
@starrxoxo9 my dad was a very sarcastic person (well, still is) so as a kid, and now to the grandkids if the kids are being way over dramatic then he would tease them- if my daughter gets in trouble for something then he will say "hahahhahaha- you got in trouble!!" but it's very sarcastic and usually gets the kids to stop acting out and then turns more playful. so she was around me and my dad and we were talking about doing that one time and sally picks it up. so whenever the kids would get in trouble (i mean ANY time) she would say "HAHAHA YOU GOT IN TROUBLE!" but it wasn't really a sarcastic manner- it was mean. and you can only do it so often to kids to understand. if my son would be crying about his skin (he has health issues) hurting/itching him then she would say "ohhhhh, poor baby- too bad." i mean things that got way out of control and we had it. we told her "hey, they don't like that and it's just irritating the situation." then it was "you need to stop it really upsets them." i got sick of it once and for all and told her she has taken it too far- they are young kids and regardless of OCCASIONAL teasing it truly hurts their feelings. she would insult them and would act like she's teasing. it was just too much.
@brendalou HAHAHAHAH this is true. i told my husband what you said and he just laughed and laughed.
she's rather- messed up?