Upset with lack of help from the BF!
I'm so done! I'm 40 weeks and not a single sign of progression. I've been 1cm dilated for over a month now. Its seriously making me depressed. I have no energy or ambition. I don't want to nest and I no longer feel enjoyment from this pregnancy.
I want to be able to do things on my own. I'm so sick of my house being a complete mess because I can't get my boyfriend to lift a single finger. I feel so useless. I stay in bed all day. I'm not on bedrest but I just don't have the enegry to do things. I just lay in bed and think about all the things he does that pisses me off.
I don't know. I don't even know if you would say I'm depressed... but the excitement is gone and ambition is 100% depleted.
I want to be able to do things on my own. I'm so sick of my house being a complete mess because I can't get my boyfriend to lift a single finger. I feel so useless. I stay in bed all day. I'm not on bedrest but I just don't have the enegry to do things. I just lay in bed and think about all the things he does that pisses me off.
I don't know. I don't even know if you would say I'm depressed... but the excitement is gone and ambition is 100% depleted.
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If only I the root of the problem could be fixed, then I probably wouldn't be so upset being pregnant this long or just upset in general cause I can guarantee that when she gets here, nothing is going to be different. Don't get me wrong, I love him but he's been like this since I started dating him. We've been together for almost 4 years now. He procrastinates with everything that he does. Even with turning in his FASFA for school!
He'll help around the house BUT only when I have already started cleaning or ask him to specifically do something. I have to plan out every step for him too otherwise he'll completely half ass it or fuck it up! He WILL NOT initiate ANY kind of cleaning without someone telling him to do so. I've done little tests on him and left something a complete mess or left a huge pile of clothes on the floor that he obviously would trip over and he'll just leave it there and continue to trip over it! Simple little things like filling up the automatic pet water bowl so it'll stop making noises and he'll let it screech until I put a cup in front of his face and say "fill it". I just don't know what to do. It stresses me out thinking that that's the way he's going to be with our daughter. Wondering how long he'll let her lay and cry before he decides to put his cell phone away and pay attention to her while I'm away from home. : /
Lol, yeah I guess. I have sat down and talked with him about it before. I can't tell you how many times I've cried because I'm so overwhelmed. He usually understands and most of the time he will start helping out but it usually only lasts for a day. If I'm lucky, 2. Maybe I just make it a huge deal because I get very very upset and depressed when I think about how my baby girl won't have the Grandpa in her life she deserves. My Dad passed away in 2009 of pancreatic cancer. He was such a smart ambitious man. Very strong, wise and outgoing. He was such a good Grandpa to my both my sisters little ones. Maybe I'm just filling myself with false hope when I wish I could see some of my Dads attitude in my boyfriend. I've said to him before that the one thing I wish from him is that he be the best god damned Dad as he possibly can be to make up for the Grandpa she will never know.
@clope18 Goodluck! I hope I don't have to get induced.
I believe so. His Dad retired in '93 and became INCREDIBLY lazy and he's also the youngest of 3 boys. I was told that most of the time his older brothers would complete his chores because they weren't allowed to go out unless all 3 boys chores were done.
I don't know if you really know much about Detroit, Michigan but that's where his family is from. Not saying that everyone from that area is bad but they came from one of the bad low poverty areas. They brought a little bit of Detroit with them when they moved here. His parents house is and has always been a complete mess as he has explained to me. His parents are essentially hoarders. They will not get rid of anything. I don't even know how to explain how nasty their house is. I bought a Pack'N'Play just for their house in case there's some kind of emergency where the baby needs to go over there because their carpet is SO nasty. They have 4 dogs and they pee and poop all over the floor and they do the bare minimum to clean it up.
@mybabyuno
You're right. I am very passionate about it and I really hope he can man up and be the Dad I want him to be. I hope talking to him one of these times will finally make him really realize how much it means to me.
Although she will have 1 Grandfather, I'm so passionate about him being such a good Dad because his father is nothing in comparison to what my Dad was. His Dad hides in his room all day from sun up to sun down. When he comes out, all he does is scream and make everyone feel like a piece of shit. He never has one nice thing to say. He has spent the last 8 years of his life in that damn bedroom and actually just had a hip replacement due to corrosion from spending so much time sitting down in bed. His house is falling down and they have rooms blocked off because the floors fell through. He blames it on his sons for not helping him when they still lived at home. I'm sorry but do you honestly expect young teenagers to fix your house for you? No way. My Dad never placed the home repairs on me and my sisters. If there was something wrong, he'd fucking fix it as fast as he could - THE RIGHT WAY. Maybe if he wasn't such a prick his sons would like him!