I don't know if this is working :'(

pawgiopawgio
edited September 2011 in Relationships
I don't know how many of you know my bd cheated on me and I've been trying to work things out with him, it's been about a month since I found out. Most of the time I'm happy when I'm spending time with him, but every now and then I get really sad. We were cuddling on the couch watching a movie last night and a scene in the movie made me think about him cheating on me.. I couldn't get it out of my head and I got really upset and didn't even want to touch him anymore, I was so disgusted.. I said I was tired and turned off the movie and went to bed I didn't tell him what I was thinking. This morning we had sex for the first time in a few days and I wasn't even into it or anything which is weird because I ALWAYS want to have sex, I just waited for him to be done.. I don't know if it's just because I'm in my third trimester now and I'm not enjoying sex anymore or if things just aren't working with us.. I'm so confused and I don't know what to do :'( I think about talking to him about it, but I just don't know what to say..

Comments

  • jcmommyjcmommy
    I think the problem is if you can truly forgive and trust him again. If not, then you won't get far and won't believe what he has to say.
  • Carsons_mommyCarsons_mommy
    I don't know if you believe in prayer or not but if you don't mind I will say a prayer for you tonight. My husband has never cheated on me but I know how it feels to be stressed out and confused over your relationship especially while pregnant. I hope everything works out for you
  • pawgiopawgio
    @jcmommy he's trying to make it up to me still and he knows he still has a long way to go, but he has helped me through this a lot already. I'm trying to trust him, but I still have thoughts in the back of my head he could be talking to someone else still.. it takes all of my willpower to not go through his phone when he leaves it in the room..
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  • jellybeaning11jellybeaning11
    Agree with 1st comment .. its natural to feel this way when the one you love betrays you. ts still new for you and will get better over time. I still feel the same way after he cheated 3 years ago it does get better ma! Wish yous the best and get through this. And def let him know how you feel as he doesn't know what your feeling and will get confused and angry. Communication is most def a must in every relationship
  • garagebandfangaragebandfan
    Ask him for permission to go through his phone..he shoudlnt have anything to hide. Tell him you just need to be reassured and seeing it with your own eyes will help you get that way more then just hearing him say it.
    Im very sorry your going through this. Im glad to hear that he is helping work through it. Just remember trust is one of those things that takes a long time to rebuild, just because it was broken in an instant doesn't mean it can be fixed in an instant.
    I know what you are going through (from the other side..I didn't cheat but I did break my husbands heart and trust) so if you want someone to talk to about it I can try my best to help you out.
  • shimattsbabyshimattsbaby
    I was kind of in your shoes at one time and believe me it is so hard especially when I moved out I could not trust him even when I moved back in it is really hard. I was working at the time and it wad hard for me to focus and not think bad things it did take me a good year to finally trust him but he did show me a lot and he did change so that made it easier. I finally let everything go when we got engaged and now I'm 38w and we couldn't be happier. If you honestly truly love him things will get better it might take some time but believe me it will get better. Keep you head up :)
  • JesseDenverJesseDenver
    I am sad for you. I have been cheated on by my ex bfs and tried to forgive them but was just pissed off and sad the whole time. That is normal to feel that way. Some women can move on after being cheated on and have healthy, happy relationships but I am not one of them. Throwing a baby in mix makes it so much more complicated. I wish you luck and strength to work thru this.
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