HE MOVED OUT & LEFT ME WHILE IM IN LABOR!!

M0MMY2BEM0MMY2BE
edited September 2011 in VENT (keep it peaceful!)
My bf of almost 5 years packed his bags & left me 2day! I'm dialated to 4cm & I've been home labor for as long as I can b4 I got to be admitted. He said I'm always a bitch & just left! We live with my parents & he NEVER had to pay rent or a bill, only my car insurence & gas bt he drove my car & did whatever he wanted to do! I'm so hurt! He's my first long term bf & bd! My parents say I shouldn't give the baby his last name or let him come to the hospital because I told him if he left me I wouldn't ever have contact with him cuz it is the worse time he could ever leave US. I mean I'm having his 1st child! Idk what to do. I wanted a baby so bad af I had a miscarriage a year ago & I thought he would be there 4 me. I'm so heartbroken :(

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  • blueberrysmomblueberrysmom
    Sorry, hun. Give the baby your last name then change all of the locks. He's an ass.
  • garagebandfangaragebandfan
    i wouldnt give the baby his last name!! I am so sorry that happened to you! screw him!
  • brttnywstn14brttnywstn14
    Wow...what a jerk! I agree don't give the baby his last name! I'm sorry ur having to go through this :(
  • stellastella
    So sorry hun would give baby ur last name wish you luck
  • MybabeMybabe
    I agree give baby your last name but DONT block him out your childs life let him do it on his own keep all communication open telephone fb whatever just in case he tries and takes you to court some guys will do that... Anywho skip him go have your baby and give your child the best life you possibly can!!!
  • MiracleM2BMiracleM2B
    edited September 2011
    Awe honey /: I'm so sorry you have to deal with this at such a painful time. I personally would allow him to be there if he made the effort to show up. But I wouldnt beg him to be there, as much as it hurts. Because you shouldn't have to ask him to be there for his child, he should want to be there. However I wouldn't give the baby his last name. If you guys work out in the future that's great! The baby's last name will chance once yours does. Meaning when you guys get married.
  • FateFate
    Guess what? You're a lot stronger than he gives you credit for. :) Best of luck to you!
  • ArmyMommyArmyMommy
    Wow! He's a real loser!
  • usafwife_21usafwife_21
    edited September 2011
    Dont give him your exes last name. He abandoned you. I know its hard but thats life.... I wouldnt let him be at the hospital or anything. Hell, I wouldnt even let him see the baby. Whatever happens, I hope its for the best and everything works out for you! Good luck
  • mummy_to_bemummy_to_be
    What a prick!!!!!!!
  • ceegsmommy75ceegsmommy75
    My heart goes out to you. :( I wouldnt let that selfish jerk anywhere NEAR you or that baby until you are ready. He's obviously making very impulsive decisions and can't be trusted. So sorry, smh
  • emyemy
    Im sorry that happened to u. If he's gonna act like that then u an ur baby is better off without him.
  • MommytoJulianWMommytoJulianW
    Mama your in my prayers just have.faith
  • KrazymomofAdrianKrazymomofAdrian
    Oh hun I am sorry. I agree with what all these ladies said and good luck if you need anything, since pregly is going down the shitter my fb is Kelsea Kline.
  • Mama_luvs_her_girlsMama_luvs_her_girls
    Omg!! What a heartless Bastard to leave you while you are in labor!!! Maybe he is a pussy, got cold feet and ran away. Don't give your baby his lastname.
  • beaded_bunnybeaded_bunny
    I'm so sorry hes not the man you thought he was. Keep a log of every phone call, text, email, between you two just invade there is any legal issues in the future. . .better safe then sorry
  • JsMyOnlyLoveJsMyOnlyLove
    That's really heartless. Dont give the baby his name rite now. It can always b changed later. However if he comes around I would him b there for the birth but only if ur comfortable an it would b drama free.
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  • M0MMY2BEM0MMY2BE
    I just wanna say thank you @everyone ! Its been a hard day! I want him there because I feel guilty & idk why. He can't even contact me cuz he wouldn't pay my cell phone bill & my parent won't accept his phone calls cuz he not only disrespected me but he disrespected them. Idk what will happen! I really needed the support!! But I am putting my child first cuz I would never walk out on her & she will have my name cuz he don't deserve it cuz no matter what he could of handle it differently then just leaving knowing I would have our baby either toda!y or 2morrow
  • brendaloubrendalou
    I def agree with @mybabe. Giving your baby his last name is an honor he doesn't deserve, but I wouldn't deny him his rights as a father if he has a change of heart. One thing to consider though, if you choose to persue child support, youay need a paternity test if the child has your last name, I'm not sure if it's any easier though if your baby has his name I've never had that issue, but would be something to think about. Just cause he left, doesn't mean he's off the hook, he did help you make your baby. Stay strong mama, either way you'll be ok.
  • happymommyof2happymommyof2
    I'm sorry I hope things get better. You must be so heartbroken.
  • Proudmommy8789Proudmommy8789
    Im soo sorry or going through this!! He needs to grow up! And glad your giving her your last name!!

    @Fate I love you girl! How have you been! And your little one?
  • FateFate
    @Proudmommy8789 Love you! I've been ok, the ex has me really messed up. Gonna update my divorce thread about it. Corri is sick, and her doc thinks she has umbilical hernia. I'm on the brink, girl. Almost at my breaking point. I've been trying to keep positive, but sometimes it doesn't do any good, honestly. How's business? And baby? I see you're thinking about breastfeeding for 2 years!! Such a selfless decision! :D
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