Torn

_Kaykes_Kaykes
edited September 2011 in Pregnant
Before I start, even if you don't agree, thats fine, I just need advice and support not judgement.

For those who are familiar with my story, my mom accepted a job in kuwait and has recently received her work visa, and is due to leave any day now. I'm 36.5 and I'm measuring a week ahead. My baby is healthy, and I'm healthy. I dont want my mom to miss me giving birth. She's all I have besides my bf. I'm all for letting my baby come when he's ready, and im trying so hard not to be selfish but I'm so torn. I don't kno how im going yo feel when she leaves but I know it won't be pleasant. I have no idea what to do.

Comments

  • Sean_and_MindySean_and_Mindy
    Thats a tough situation for sure :-( i would be really sad if any of my family missed the birth, especially my own mother! I'm a big beliver in "everything happens for a reason." So if he doesnt come in time b4 your mom leaves, maybe its because she needed just a little more time inside of you? Then again, if you can get a doctor to sign off on him coming early, its all in your hands. Good luck mama!
  • Sean_and_MindySean_and_Mindy
    *he needed. Lol, sorry
  • _Kaykes_Kaykes
    I keep trying to think that everything happens for a reason, but its so frustrating and I hate not knowing what to do
  • Sean_and_MindySean_and_Mindy
    I know, its not always easy to live by that, especially when its something that's causing you to have a serious internal debate. Eventually, if you can't decide, what is meant to happen, happens on its own and saves you the trouble of dealing with it anyways, lol! :-)
  • Mama_luvs_her_girlsMama_luvs_her_girls
    I'm confused hun. Why are you torn? Are you wanting to induce labor?
  • _Kaykes_Kaykes
    True. I hope something happens soon
  • _Kaykes_Kaykes
    Yes unfortunately
  • Mama_luvs_her_girlsMama_luvs_her_girls
    So you do want to induce labor?
  • _Kaykes_Kaykes
    I do but I don't want to. I do because I dont want my mom to miss it since she wil be leaving this week. I don't wasn't to do it because I don't want to rush my baby out and I understand he needs to come when he is ready
  • Mama_luvs_her_girlsMama_luvs_her_girls
    Well I don't feel that inducing at 36 weeks is safe. I had a c section then and had an amneocentices (sp?) To make sure the lungs were developed. She did know she may.miss the birth if she took the job. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. If it were me, I would let my body do what it needs to naturally, but that is what I would do.
  • Mama_luvs_her_girlsMama_luvs_her_girls
    Also, is putting the baby at risk worth your mom not missing out on an experience? The birth is important but she will get lots of firsts with her grandbaby later down the road
  • smcoxsmcox
    well since you are almost 37weeks maybe just do simple stuff that won't induce labor but help out if he is ready in the next week...like some walking and the birthing ball and whatnot. I wouldn't suggest doing other stuff like castor oil...though I wouldn't do that no matter what! lol good luck and I'm sorry!
  • _Kaykes_Kaykes
    I'm bouncing on the ball and I intend on walking when its not so painful for me. I'm against putting my son health at risk, its just painful to kno that the only person I've ever had can't be there
  • Mama_luvs_her_girlsMama_luvs_her_girls
    You poor thing :,(
  • _Kaykes_Kaykes
    This sucks so bad
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