Stopped Breastfeeding.......dont juge me!

mrsSilvermrsSilver
edited September 2011 in Pregnant
So my little girl was born a week and a half ago and from the beginning I wasn't sure whether or not I wanted to breastfeed nut my doctor and the nurses at the hospital were so adamant about I kind felt bad for not really wanting to. But after trying it for this long I definitely don't think its for me. Not only is feeding her formula eaiser and more convient for me when I feed her from a bottle I am confident that she is getting enough to eat not to mention the headachs i've been getting layely during her feedings. I know this is my decision and I should not let others influence it but why do I feel so bad about it. Anyone else in my situation?

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  • laura536laura536
    I had that happen. I was pretty sure I didn't want to BF but I gave into peer pressure and tried it. It was a horrible experience for me and for my baby. I felt like a terrible person for quitting that first week. But after that, I kind of got over it. My daughter is 5 now, she's rarely sick, always been a healthy weight (she's usually 50th percentile for weight and 70th for height). She's smart and I felt like we actually bonded better after I quit resenting breastfeeding.

    I think people need to realize there is no "best" choice for everyone. It's whatever works best for you!
  • JuliansMommyJuliansMommy
    edited September 2011
    I really don't want to either, I'm willing to try it but if I'm not comfortable with it or if I'm having a hard time I'm switching to formula. My sis never bf my nieces and they're perfectly healthy.
    I agree with @laura536
  • littlenat86littlenat86
    Just think of it as giving her a great start, even doing it for 2 or 3 days is so worth it. Don't let people bash you, its your choice and I'm sure your little one will be just fine!
  • Mama_luvs_her_girlsMama_luvs_her_girls
    I am a HUGE breast feeding advocate. I think breathing feeding is a wonderful thing to do for your baby. However, I also believe in personal choice and doing what you feel comfortable with. Absolutely nothing wrong with not being comfortable the breast feeding. You did try and you know you dont like it. Lots of benefits with bottle feeding too. Others can feed and bond with your baby. You won't be the only one responsible with night time feedings. It's okay that its not for you and no one should judge you
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  • gsmommygsmommy
    I know exactly how you feel. I'm still mostly bf my 3 week old daughter but I say I'm quitting like every day. The only think keeping me going is guilt and not wanting to explain to people why I quit. But honestly it's not the "bonding" experience that everyone says it is for them. It takes me over an hour to bf her but only 20min from a bottle. I'm always feeding her and can't get anything done for my two year old son. I hate pumping cuz it makes my boobs/nipples hurt for hours after. it's nice when hubby can also help feed her, and I am super uncomfortable bf her in public so I feel like I can't go anywhere! Bottom line...I feel you and I don't judge you and will soon join the formula feeding club :)
  • mrsSilvermrsSilver
    Thanks ladies!
  • myressa2011myressa2011
    Same here. Was open to it and the nurses at the hospital do make you feel kind of guilty for it. I had complications after birth and the baby was bottle fed right away so i had a hard time gettimg her to latch on. I tried pumping for two weeks but wasnt producing a lot so i stopped.
  • mrsSilvermrsSilver
    edited September 2011
    I've tried pumping to but I just feel like pumping and breastfeeding consumes my whole day and I never really have time for anything else. And that whole bonding thing isn't really happening for me it takes about an hour to feed her and most of that time is spent latching and relatching. Nights are the worst because after spending an hr feeding and another 10-15 trying to get her back to sleep i only get about 30 min of sleep between feedings. My breast are so sore and the end the thought of pumping after brings tears!
  • kcike812kcike812
    edited September 2011
    I completely understand how you feel. Everyone pressured me to doing it and I said I would try it out. I was actually excited and bought a medela pump. Well there were complications at birth and she was fed a bottle, then became very stubborn and wouldn't take breast. Then I decided I would exclusively pump. Well I spent a couple of days attatched to that pump. I finally gave up. Aliva is formula fed now. I think I would have stuck to it if she would latch and then I could pump too. Oh well... my siblings and I were formula fed and we're just fine. I'm definitely trying again on my next one though. I bought a $300 pump that needs to get put to good use.
  • GregorysMommyGregorysMommy
    Im With Yu! Wen i Was Preqnant i Was All For Breastfeedinq. Now My Son Is Here i Doubt It. I Dnt Think He Is Gettinq Alot Of Milk, So i Give Him Formula Too ! I Also Get Frustrated With Pumpinq, i Barely Get Any Milk Out. So i Feel Formula Is Best For My Son Cuz i Know He Is Gettinq Enouqh To Eat, But i Will Breastfeed Till My Milk Stops Cominq In. (Im Not Tryinq To Stop It Either, i Just Feel Like My Stress Is Affectinq My Milk).
  • PumpkinCupcake0307PumpkinCupcake0307
    The same thing happened to me as it did @kcike812 when I tried to breast feed after they gave him a bottle, he wouldnt latch. The nurse tried to help and was moblving his head and my boob alot. I didnt like that nurse. She was pretty rough trying to get him to latch.. But he didnt and when people asked me why o wasnt breastfeeding theyd ask why and didnt really understand. Also it felt like my mom looked down on me for formula feeding. She didnt understand that he was bottle fed first and wouldnt latch. :( try not to let It bother you.
  • grissy_barriagrissy_barria
    I was kinda in the same situation I gave her boob till about 3 months and I tried to continue but I couldn't it wasn't ment for me I am more comfy giving her bottles
  • ceegsmommy75ceegsmommy75
    That ticks me off that nurses are making new moms feel guilty for not bf. They are there to help, NOT judge. I had only one rude one when i had ceegan. She said i was "starving" him because i wasn't breast feeding him everytime he put his hand in his mouth. Good to hear you're doing what makes you happy! B-)
  • allyssasmommyallyssasmommy
    My sister couldn't and at least u tried :) I'm doing it cause I can't aford formula and we make to much for wic
  • kcike812kcike812
    @MrsMitchell03 it was very frustrating and she would get so upset trying to latch. The lactation consultant tried helping every day I was in the hospital. She had to be fed formula because her blood sugars were low. I continued trying at home for about a week and then threw in the towel. She did get a couple of days of breastmilk once my milk came in. Oh that was another thing it took 5 days for my milk. I had a csection.
  • eskarne_339eskarne_339
    I'm having my baby tomorrow and I'm really hoping that breastfeeding works for me. I do not want to give her formula as I know breastfeeding is better for her. The only thing I'm extremely worried about if it does work out for me is feeding in public. I will not breastfeed in public or during family conventions. I don't feel comfortable whipping out my lady parts in front of people I do or don't know, specially in public where there's children. Good thing alot of stores around here have family bathrooms. Some specifically made for breast feeding mothers.
  • caroline8_pcaroline8_p
    I feel like giving up at her last night feeding. I just get frustrated, in turn making her fussy.
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  • CarleyCarley
    edited September 2011
    Im going to breast feed just because I know it's the healthiest option. That doesn't mean a bottle feed child is unhealthy. I BF my 1st for almost 3 months. As soon as I stopped she developed eczema, allergies, and reflux. I felt guilty and tried to start back but milk supply didn't agree. What you feel is best for your child is what matters. Oh, I also like the fact that my milk is free. We wouldn't come close to being eligible for assistance so BF helps a lot. Good luck and don't let anyone make you feel guilty. My mom raised 6 kids on formula and we are all bright and healthy.
  • PumpkinCupcake0307PumpkinCupcake0307
    @kcike812 ya I also had a c section :( I had pre e and was put on magnesuim during labor and so when my son was born they wanted to moniyor his breathing till it was above 90% no one told me that was going to happen and that I vouldnt try to breastfeed him till the next night. I didnt get to hold my son till about 22 hours after delivery. I was so mad. Its not like I could get up and go to the.nursery. Since I had pre e I had to stay on magnesuim for 24 hours and didnt get to walk till the 3rd day. So I never got to go to the nursery at all. :( they brought him to me.i pumped for a few weeks after but he would not latch at all.
  • valentinasmommyvalentinasmommy
    I was all for it, until it started hurting. Now I'm pumping breastmilk.
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