pp..... nervous

lovemylife11lovemylife11
edited October 2011 in Postpartum Health
ok ladies i want to know who else felt this way and how did u get past it... i had my son 4 weeks ago.. me and my hunny havent had sex yet im still bleeding a tad but im nervous for when we do have sex.. i feel really loose down there tmi and im afraid it wont be the same... how did yall get past these feelings and was there a big difference in before pragnacy sex and after????

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  • Misty2011Misty2011
    I was scared it was never going to be the same.
    My husband never complained though. It feels tighter than before!
  • lovemylife11lovemylife11
    @Misty2011 really idk i hate i feel this way but i do
  • Misty2011Misty2011
    edited October 2011
    I felt the same way. Just try not to stress out over it. I'm sure its back to normal, or even better!
  • KingsmamaKingsmama
    Honestly I had a few glasses of wine and a few muscle relaxers. I got in the shower and shaved to make myself feel better. Then came into the bedroom super horny and I jumped his bones! I waited til 6 weeks pp tho. It didn't hurt except the 1st few deep thrusts stung a lil where my stitches were. After a few mins tho it felt amazing! And he said I still feel the same just a lot tighter :)
  • KingsmamaKingsmama
    Oh and I'm more sensitive so I get off a lot easier than before!
  • lovemylife11lovemylife11
    @Kingsmama that makes me feel better but i was planning on waitn the 6 weeks but i feel like im still loose and it makes me sad i fear hell leave me bc it wont feel the same :(
  • kritten_octoberbbykritten_octoberbby
    Dont have sex until you stop bleeding.. you can tighten everything down there by doing kegals too.. it helps your muscles come back... Im nervous too i have a tear that wasnt stitched.. im pertrified lol
  • kritten_octoberbbykritten_octoberbby
    @lovemylife11 do you honestly believe he would leave you for that? He doesbt sound like a man if thats the case. He just had a child with you.. i dont think he would leave you. The worst he would do it say you dont feel the same. If he is a guy to leave you then he doesnt sound like someone you should be with..
  • lovemylife11lovemylife11
    @kritten_octoberbby no he loves me very much weve been together 3 years its just my insecurities but I also had a tear that wasnt stiched up they said it was a small one but im still nervous
  • kritten_octoberbbykritten_octoberbby
    @lovemylife11 nah he wont leave you then. I am superrr petrified of the pain.. how long did you hurt? Im a little over a week out with a really bad burning sensation..
  • lovemylife11lovemylife11
    @kritten_octoberbby It burned when I peed for about 2 an a half or 3 weeks I cramped for about 2weeks
  • mommy2b1111mommy2b1111
    Ive heard it gets tighter after birth..
  • kritten_octoberbbykritten_octoberbby
    @lovemylife11 where was your tear at? Mine wasnt towards the rectum it was the other way.. side ways.. how did it heal?
  • lovemylife11lovemylife11
    @kritten_octoberbby they didnt tell me they just told me i tore a little not enough for stiches
  • KingsmamaKingsmama
    Just do kegals hun. Everything down there is like a rubber band and is supposed to stretch and go back. Ur prolly even tighter than before especially if ur still a bit swollen. My hubby said I feel the same inside just tighter now and it felt the same to me except he felt a bit longer lol. But I think that was due from not having sex for over 2 months. I tore also and had 10-12 stitches on the inside and another 10-12 on the outside. Mine wasn't a rectal tear or a clitoral tear, I tore kinda sideways on my outter lip on my right side. It tore from my hole toward my leg. Like I said I waited til all my stitches were out and I had no pain there anymore, and til i stopped bleeding. I waited the full 6 weeks :) and it wasn't hard cuz I've been tired getting up every 2hrs to feed my son. Plus I didn't feel sexy cuz of my belly that's all stretch marked up and saggy now. But my hubs still loves me and finds me very sexy! He even got a bit rough after he broke me back in lol :) if ur super scared maybe try fingering urself or have him do it gently, or bust out a small vibrator/dildo and take it slow. Sry this was so damn long lol.
  • kritten_octoberbbykritten_octoberbby
    @lovemylife11 oh ok.. i hope this pain doesnt last for long...:( ill have to go back to work
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