whats the point of having a father. really...

jazzi89jazzi89
edited October 2011 in VENT (keep it peaceful!)
Ugh another lovely day in my life. Ok so ayva woke up at 9 and I got up with her. I put her down and went to go take a quick shower. I asked my bf to keep an ear on her. He said ok. Well I take a shower, 10mins max, and I get out and hear her screaming bloody murder, with the br door shut. I walk out soaking in a towel and go to our bedroom and say seriously?! No answer, dead asleep. So I go feed ayva and change her all in a towel with dripping hair. And then put her down again and try to finish getting ready. All the while his fucking beagle is barking like crazy downstairs and won't shut up. Well ayva woke up again so I put her in her bouncy seat outside the bathroom and bedroom door so I could do my makeup she started screaming after about 5 minutes so I let her so I could finish. Went and got her back her back to sleep and my bf didn't even budge the entire time! Oh and I gave him to her after I got out of the shower so I could get a bottle ready and I went to hand it to him and said she needed to b changed too and he said nope that's mommys job. And I asked why he can't ever help and said cuz he works! Wtf do u think I do?! I'm so fucking pissed! What's the point of ayva even having a dad if he doesn't take care of her?! Some father he is! I'm about ready to walk away. Oh btw its noon and he's still sleeping!

Comments

  • heyitsmeheyitsme
    I would be so pissed! Sorry u have to deal with such an ass..
  • clope18clope18
    My bf is the same way! He only takes the baby when he's calm. If he's hungry, crying, or needs a diaper change he gives me the baby. & he doesn't get up in the middle of the night to help. He hasn't fed him, or changed his diaper..not once! & our son is going on 1month on the 16th. I've been staying at my moms on the weekends bcuz she LOVES the baby & helps me out so I can atleast get a couple of nights of rest. I'm about ready to move back home, my mom has already told me to come home..its like I'm a single parent :(
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    Ya I'm on the verge of leaving. I am a single mom and its so fucking sad that ayva has a dad that doesn't take care of her at all. Only a mom
  • myHEARTZx3myHEARTZx3
    Ugh I hate when I hear stories like this! I had to do it all by myself with my daughter because I was single and it was hard...but having someone there and him not even helping would be even more frustrating! I felt bad because ima stay at home mom and my bf was working two jobs and he would wake up for my son to try too help.
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    Ya my daughter is almost 7 weeks and I've been staying at my parents on weekends as well
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    ya I'm a sahm but my bf only works 3 nights a week. And the sad thing is he stays up all night on weekdays but stays downstairs and I still am the one to wake up and feed her
  • clope18clope18
    & this past weekend he told me he doesn't want me staying weekends at my parents house anymore! Unless he starts helping me out, I'm still going. He cries soo much :'( & its frustrating I need a break sometimes. Since he works he expects me to take care of baby, do laundry, dishes, clean the house, & cook. Geez! Props to all the housewives, I couldn't do it. Being a mom is a the hardest full time job, regardless of what any man says. Just bcuz they work doesn't mean they can't help
  • potatopotato
    Sounds like he needs a dose of PunchNCrotch.
  • DreaMariaDreaMaria
    I would leave. You have to put your foot down and if walking away us what you need to do to give him a wake up call then do it!
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    @clope18 that's exactly how it is here! My bf demands the house be cleaned and doesn't want me staying at my parents cuz he doesn't get to see ayva...he hardly sees her now. And she's here...
  • bigtalkingtoribigtalkingtori
    Lol... see how he feels when he has to pay child support.
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    I don't do the whole child support thing....
  • bigtalkingtoribigtalkingtori
    I am also on the fence about it for a lot of people, for a lot of reasons. But come on. He's a perfect example of someone who needs that kind of wake up call, even if it's just mentioned.
  • myressa2011myressa2011
    I read all your threads and if you want to leave do it. My bf wanted me to go live with him but i refused. My daughter is tge same age as ayva now i do online classes now and her dad throws a fit cuz i ask him to stay and watch her while i try and do school wrk. I get so much help from my mom since she doesnt wrk, but she has my 2 younger siblings also, so she cant be with her every time. But i get your frustration, they dnt think they need to give anytging up, like working out alll the fucking time cuz it relieves stress(like i give a fuck abour your stress). Id leave it'll still be stressfull, but at least you wont see his useless face.
  • xFirstTimeMomxxFirstTimeMomx
    Ya I'm up all day and night long. My husband never gets up. And when he does let me sleep he wakes me up anyways at night or just hands our son to his mom. So he gets a break when he's not working. Ugh. Men..
  • Mom2McKennaMom2McKenna
    Wake his ass up! Lol that's what I do..when McKenna was cutting teeth and freaking out my bf didn't hear her cry so I woke his ass up and made him help..he didn't have work the next day..usually my bf wakes up on weekends so I can sleep in. He watches her while I shower n stuff
  • blueberrysmomblueberrysmom
    Leave.
  • jazzi89jazzi89
    He'd lose the house if I took child support...

    Its just pissng me off that he thinks becausehe works he doesn't need to do baby stuff. But he expects me to care for ayva, clean th house and get a job
  • Lucasmama11Lucasmama11
    I'm sorry but I would leave and go for child support give him a wake up call!
  • GregorysMommyGregorysMommy
    My Boyfriend Does The EXACT Same Thing, My Son Can Cry & It Won't Wake Him. He Will Only Do Something If I Continue To Bitch At Him !!!
  • grissy_barriagrissy_barria
    My husband can be a total asshole the majority of the times also and it sucks I was a single mom with Kimberly for 3 years and I feel like a single mom once again but of 2 kids :( I ask my husband sometimes why did he want a baby if he can't even watch her while I make a bottle ugh now he left to work in another city and will leave mondays and come back Fridays so on the weekend he better watch the baby and help me out or else I will leave back to the USA
  • myressa2011myressa2011
    Wow this thread makes me realize how immature "men" can be ugh!
  • BeAwesomeBeAwesome
    Men have an awfully disturbing picture of what life should be like. Most men are lazy, immature, and don't want to do anything but sleep and party/play video games. I have no sympathy for guys like that. Family is too important to just shrug off like it's an optional responsibility. L-)
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  • MoroccanmexicanbabyMoroccanmexicanbaby
    I feel the pain. Trust me even if your little one can speak and walk... Sorry sister, he will not have an interest to help her with her little struggles. Oh and uh... he won't b there to help out with basic education. I know those kind of men.
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