Is the feeling of resentment normal pp?

Kimberly4411Kimberly4411
edited November 2011 in Postpartum Health
I resent my husband, he isn't the father I expected him to be, I find him unattractive, not just the fact the he gained way more weight than I did, but that he puts himself first, it's not even 9 and he went to bed, I wanted to take a nap earlier, he was eating dinner and said "i'm eating" well no shit, how do you think I eat? I get 2 meals a day because lo keeps me busy, he gets home from work and doesn't do a damn thing, ughh i'm just frustrated, I dont even want his help if he ever were to offer it. I hope this is semi normal or we're going to have bigger problems

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  • momofSOONtobe7momofSOONtobe7
    Its norms hun! I have been there done it. Eventually ended up on my own BC they were adding more stress then help! Just be there for your kiddo and dont worry about him. If you ignore him and don't ask him for anything maybe he will get the hint!!! Keep your head up!
  • 1stWoodsBaby1stWoodsBaby
    Its normal, I think. I went through the same thing. If I wanted my husband to acknowledge our daughter I had to mention it to him. But in my case he didn't know how to help. He needed me to show him what to do. Your case is different. I'd feel like that towards your husband too.
  • Kimberly4411Kimberly4411
    Thanks ya'll, I think he just doesn't know what to do with her being this little, i'm hoping once she starts interacting he'll get more involved, if I can last that long
  • lilpeapod913lilpeapod913
    Ahhh I feel this way too!! He's so selfish and completely leaves it all to me and only gets involved with his son if I force the issue. He is definitely not the father I thought he would be (even tho I kinda had a heads up since He has a daughter already, I just thought things would be different)..I even feel like he cares more for his daughter than our son..I know that sounds terrible. Im at my breaking point. My son is my world and I want to try to make it work but how do u go on in a one sided relationship?!
  • usplus2usplus2
    My husband is the EXACT same way. We have two kiddos. With our first he was just like you described, as she got older he does A LOT more. I have come to realize that he Had no clue whatsoever how to handle or deal with a newborn, he was scared he would hurt her or do something wrong. Now with our son he kinda knows what to do but its stil 90% my job lol. I told him I'll deal with them as newborns, you are on full daddy duty beginning at 1 haha
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