Just Need To Vent; Crying At Work...
So this is my first child, I'm 20 years old, living at home. My parents have been incredibly supportive of me, both emotionally and financially, both of which have been appreciated. My sister however, also lives at home, is 25, works a minimum wage job, quit school for no (explained) reason, and now just smokes pot every day (not just every day, but all day. She smokes at work, she smokes before going to watch my mothers soccer games, she smokes around me, even though I hate it. She smokes cigarettes too, and everytime she goes out for one, every 2 hours or so, she takes a few hits of pot). Since starting smoking, she's become a different person. Now she parties every night, and anytime I see her, she's either burnt out, or high. & finally got sick of it this am, when she was too burnt out to get up to move her car, (which blocks mine on the driveway) so I could get to work. I was late to my job, and not impressed. So I finally got pushed over the edge, blew up at her, and told her (via text; not the best way I realize...) that I don't want to hang out with her, I don't want to be her friend, & I'm considering telling our father about her drug addiction (yes, i do believe it's now at the point where it's an addiction). She was so mean back to me, called me names, told me just because I got "knocked up" doesn't mean everyone has to "bow down to me" , that my boyfriend should of left me a long time ago and that I'm selfish. I ask nothing from her, and almost nothing of my parents. My parents help me out, but it's NEVER because I ask them to...
Now I'm at the point where I'm considering moving out. I don't have a ton of money, nor does my BD/BF, but I'm almost considering putting up with the financial struggle, rather than put up with the emotional one.
I would try talking to my parents, but I know that they won't really put their foot down either way, cause I'm pregnant, & she's been suicidal in the past (has even been admitted to a psych ward in a hospital)
I'm sorry this is so long, I really just needed to be able to get it out.
Any encouragement is welcome, and I guess my general question is:
Which is more important; financial security or emotional security?
Now I'm at the point where I'm considering moving out. I don't have a ton of money, nor does my BD/BF, but I'm almost considering putting up with the financial struggle, rather than put up with the emotional one.
I would try talking to my parents, but I know that they won't really put their foot down either way, cause I'm pregnant, & she's been suicidal in the past (has even been admitted to a psych ward in a hospital)
I'm sorry this is so long, I really just needed to be able to get it out.
Any encouragement is welcome, and I guess my general question is:
Which is more important; financial security or emotional security?
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I know my parents will want to have a "family" talk, but my sister is a great cryer. As soon as anyone gets upset with her, she starts shedding the tears, and everyone remembers how much she's gone thru. shes never held accountable for her actions, & it drives me crazy.
I have my bfs parents I can move into for a bit, & then a few friends of ours were talking about us all living together. So there is kind of a back up plan, but I'm just so stressed out about it all.
& I'm far enough along that if something were to go wrong, especially due to stress, it would be earth shattering.
theres part of me that just wants to cut out my family..