What would you do...

HALFmyHEARTisATwar · December 2011

So my 4yr olds dad n I divorce a couple yeard ago and very soon after he robbed a pawn shop leaving his id also wore no mask... Then left the state... Well cops searched for him, detectives came to my job and searched my house the whole 9 yrads... Well then about 6 months later he gets shot 5 times in his legs and is hospitalized and of course the cops found him... Well after surgerys and whatnot he is taken to thr state of the crime to the medical ward of the jail (hes in a wheelchair but not permanently) well all this I heard from his mom because he has not even tried to call his son in 7months... By now his mom n everyonr stopped calling my son no happy birthday no merry christmas...well im just wondering if im wrong to not send him pictures.or anything.... I actually had a missed call frm a jail a few weeks back but idk if it was him... And if he does call is it wrong to not let him talk to my son.. Hes 4 and jus stopped crying for his dad

HALFmyHEARTisATwar · December 2011

I kno.its wrong but I jus want him to forhet about his dad and look at my husband as his dad.... His fathet is irresponsible and dangerous! He messes with guns and drugs robs people and cant drive for shit no dl but still drives I honestly never want him to b able to see my son because I always yhink the worst will happen... And he was abusive to me I have a restraining order against him

MomOfAnAngel · December 2011

I don't think you're wrong. He left your son, you didn't taake him from him.

TheOne · December 2011

I say screw him! No pictures, no nothing he needs to get his shit together before he is involved in a childs life IMO

murphy89 · December 2011

I would be the bigger person. If he reaches out I would respond. But I wouldn't make any effort to get him to see him or speak to him. If you want to you can send pics and such. I say be the bigger person.

MorgDeeBee · December 2011

I don't think you are in the wrong. You need to do what is best for your son, is that someone you want him to look up to ya know?

I'm here ifyou need to talk.

HALFmyHEARTisATwar · December 2011

Well I refuse to take my to a jail n I dnt even wamt him to talk to him because I dont want to have to tell my 4yr old tht his dad is in jail

HALFmyHEARTisATwar · December 2011

@navybabyonway thanks

your right I dnt want him to have negative influences even if it is his father thts no exception.. If im going to protect my son I gotta make sure hes safe and also tht hes being taught how to be a responsible law abiding citizen right? Yea thts not gonna happen if hed around his dad

2ndtimearound · December 2011

I dont think being a daddy is biological...and just becuz he is the bio dad doesnt mean he just gets to be in his life. However, on another note, i would let my child know his father if he wants to when he is older. I think it could cause some issues in the future for your son. Your child must be confused & hurt that daddys not around. Maybe i would send pics to him & let him write letters to your son that you could keep for him for when he's older. Your child might resent you later if you keep him from his dad. In the end you're his mom and probably know whats best for your child.

MichelleBelle · December 2011

Id meep your son away if I were you. He's abusive, is setting a bad example, and at this point it'd be better for him to not have him as a father figure. Plus if your ex is into all that bad stuff you don't want to risk your son being kidnapped or hurt or used as a pawn to get back at his father

HALFmyHEARTisATwar · December 2011

All very true.. Thanks guys! I agree its not biological and my parents were abusive did drugs ect. And I was adopted by another family at age 13 looking back I understand y and can only blame my parents not the pple who took me away.... This makes me confident tht when my son is older he will understand why I had to protect him

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