Feeling really guilty
So my son is almost 6 weeks old. He was born premature and has congentitial heart disease. He got heart surgery at age 2 weeks. He's what they call a "blue baby" meaning his oxygen saturation is in the 80s rather than 100. The side effects of this are him wearing out easier than other babies... So for this reason I pump exclusively. We only did the SNS (a gravity powered wasy to feed babies on the breast) a few times. But we've been bottle feeding him because its important that he doesn't burn to many calories working to eat. Well, my milk supply has been awful the since his surgery about 4 weeks ago... For the past four weeks I pumped 8-10 times a day for 30 minutes. I took fenugreek, REglan, and mothers milk... My milk supply was still poor..
So yesterday I decided to give up... I really wanted to get my milk supply up and start to breastfeed him... but I can't... I felel so bad about it.. With all of his problems I want him to have my immunity, but its really discouraging to try so hard for something, only to come up short time after time... Does anyone have words of encouragment or a similar experience? I know that I'm a great mom, but this makes me feel like a failure
So yesterday I decided to give up... I really wanted to get my milk supply up and start to breastfeed him... but I can't... I felel so bad about it.. With all of his problems I want him to have my immunity, but its really discouraging to try so hard for something, only to come up short time after time... Does anyone have words of encouragment or a similar experience? I know that I'm a great mom, but this makes me feel like a failure
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@benteleysmommy716 thank you! I'm really proud I did make it through everything and he's atleast had a good start. I'm just depressed cause I was looking forward to it so much, but his situation is different than a regular babies so I'm trying to just accept it!
@mattandmallory27 thank you very much. I feel better knowing you and other moms understand.. my husband and mother have been giving me a hard time about it but its hard to understand
@momtob if you dont mind me asking how premie was your baby? I'm glad she spend such a short time there! the NICU nurses and other families definitely became my family during the stay! You did AMAZING at pumping for so long!!! You have patiences of steel! I'm glad you can relate I feel better knowing I'm not alone in this
thank you so much everyone, its really helped me alot opening up to other mothers about this problems and all these feelings