venting hubby grr

dec10dec10
edited January 2012 in Pregnant
Ok idk wats his problem but he keeps telling me that his phone is messed up n that he doesn't received my calls or text. So I asked him today let me see ur phone. He flipped out n said oh y u want my phone u keep thinking am doin wrong. So I said I just asked for it to upgrade ur phone. But no one said u r doin wrong. I had it I want to cry am so sick of this. Its been months he puts his phone on silent m he is always on it. Supposedly playing gamess n that he says that I always think wrong n all he does is work n work n comes home. Yes I have trust issues wit him BC he had messed up in the past n sometimes I do think he is doin wrong. N am stupid enough to stay wit him. One min everything is great n the next shit is goin all over the place. Idk if he is doin wrong or not idk wat to think. Am so mad at myself

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  • julesjules
    Please don't be mad at yourself I find myself I those shoes all the time and ask myself the same questions. Try taking to him about it. Tell him how u feel and how things need to change and what u may want to work on bc every relationship takes work and if he flips out and its not willing to hear u out and work on the things you want to work on then u need to sit down and have these thoughts that you are having now. But hopefully thats not the case. Good luck on whatever happens and whatever you decide to do bc I only have an outside opinion only you know whats best for you guys.
  • My2BoysMy2Boys
    you can go online and look at your billing statements, it will show you the numbers he is texting to and when he is recieving texts... so at like 10 at night if he says he is playing games remember that and then go look online and look for that day and time and see if he was texting. Plus it will show that his phone got a text from you when you sent it, so if it shows on the statement he obviously got it. I know verizons website is very up to date, it is only a day or two behind. So you could go on and see probably until tuesday or wednesday on it, it also shows you if picture messages are being sent and recieved.
  • dec10dec10
    @Jules we had talked n things gets better n than everything is the same old thing. We go back n forward n now its getting him to the point he don't want to hear it anymore due to me always accusing him.
    @my2boys good idea do u think I can receive his text being sent n receive
  • My2BoysMy2Boys
    Hmm I don't know about that one. You can call the phone company and ask though but I think there might be privacy laws against that.
  • Mieshasmith35Mieshasmith35
    Me and my bf was in the same situation when I was pregnant. Guys tend to think they can do whatever they want once they get their girls pregnant cuz they feel like you're not gonna leave. I did the same thing My2Boys suggested, I went online viewed his call and text history. I couldn't view the actual messages just the number he was texting, the date and the time. And the calls I could view the number and how long they stayed on the phone. And just as I suspected he was doing wrong...
  • julesjules
    Ya we got to that point so the only thing I had left was to say what do you think I should do I told him all the differrent approaches I have tried like being super nice, being mean, ignoring him, tryin to talk things out calmly, being really upset and tryin to talk things out, I've been super sad while still trying to talk it out, I even try praying with him. So I sad all of that and made a point that nothing is working so now I'm asking you what do u think I should do bc I'm running out of options and things can't continue being like this. Try that maybe that will work if he still ignores u then he leaves you with no choice bc then his showing that he doesnt care about the relationship bc they all require work for the rest of our lives.
  • dec10dec10
    @my2boys @mieshasmith35 @Jules
    Yesterday I left to dry the baby's clothes n I texted him how I felt that I have no more time to deal wit this n y he is always hiding his phone n all I got was nothing not a word back. N when I got home I didn't say much n he asked me if I was goin to eat dinner BC he waited for me. I have tried to pick him out but since I need him to our the kids in the bus BC I work early is hard. Its like he thinks everything is fine
  • dec10dec10
    Kick not pick
  • My2BoysMy2Boys
    @dec10 maybe just tell him face to face that you are upset and things are not okay. Let him know that you want to talk about things calmy in an adult manner, or try counseling, and if he does not want to then it is over. If he is not willing to try then I would think it is not worth your time because he does not feel the same way. I'm sorry he is putting you through this, hopefully he will sit down and talk with you.
  • dec10dec10
    @my2boys I didn't think of counseling I should try it thanks for the advice
  • My2BoysMy2Boys
    @dec10 anytime, I hope it all works out for you
  • julesjules
    That is so weird bc my bf would have at least said what was that text about ya know. Or maybe if it finally clicks why would he has said I got your text and I get the point meaning he will try from now on. I'm so sorry his just blowing this off. So now I would make sure he got the text just ask him and I'm sure he did so then you say well y didn't u reply? Or do u have anything to say about it bc it looks like ur just brushin it off and thats not how its going to work we either fix this or there is no point bc brushing it off tells me u don't care about us. Thats just what I would do just tell him how it makes u feel and wait and see what he has to say if anything at all.
  • dec10dec10
    @Jules he said to hire a investigater so I could waste money n look like a stupid asshole BC he got nothing to hide
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