should i stay or go?

Carsons_mommyCarsons_mommy
edited February 2012 in Relationships
So I really need advice asap! I love my husband so much! But here lately he has been so mean to me. He will yell at me, call me a dumbass, and then when I tell him I can't handle him talking to me like that he says well there's the door leave! (Keep in mind I have a 4 month old son) im really thinking about renting a local hotel room to prove to him I wont put up with it. Do you thinking leaving will benefit me or make things worse?

Comments

  • augustbabyaugustbaby
    I dont know if it would help....but I know I would do it!
  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    I think it might not be a bad idea to get some space from him at very least you'll have some alone time to really think about how you feel.
  • debsdebs
    You need to prepare your self if you do leave for a bad result it might not be what you want but I would leave to see if he cares how he acts my hubby and I fight but he never had threaten to leave or for me to leave some guys after having a baby gets them confused and need some time. And children realize fighting at any age my dad use to call my mom names and yell at her I wish they would have got a divorce then have my brother and I watch it all. Good luck wishing you and your baby the best.
  • heyitsmeheyitsme
    If you have a place to go for a few days like your parents place then go! next time he says it just pack up a bag for you and the baby and go. don't tell him where you're going either. he needs to learn to respect you
  • newmommyFeb2012newmommyFeb2012
    I agree with getting out. Not necessarily leaving him and make sure if you aren't you tell him you aren't leaving him or taking a break from the relationship. Just take a break by visiting family or staying with some friends for a day or two. Maybe he's just stressed out and having his on ppd.
  • Carsons_mommyCarsons_mommy
    Well he works 2nd shift in the coal mines so he wont be home til after midnight. If I do leave tonight, should I leave him a message telling him how I feel or not leave anything? I don't want to divorce him I just want him to know im serious when I say I wont put up with him talking to me like that
  • newmommyFeb2012newmommyFeb2012
    I think you should talk to him about it first. Like face to face that you want to go visit someone for a few days to get away and that he isn't treating you right. If you haven't already told him he may not realize what he's doing.
  • tinka1326tinka1326
    Maybe a sit down talk and tell him what you want to do and why will get your point across better...
  • moodymommiemoodymommie
    he may be stressed out me & bd had a rough patch but it got better it was just him being stressed
  • second_time_mommy7second_time_mommy7
    I think you should discuss it with him first. I tried that once and my husband told me if I leave don't plan on coming back. I would talk to him and find out what's going on. Ask him if he is happy with you and if you do take a break will it benefit the relationship or ruin it. Try to talk to him without conviction and while everything is fine (not after or during a fight).
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