Name help and advice:/

kiwi_momkiwi_mom
edited February 2012 in Pregnant
I'm due April 14th with a baby girl. Bd and I have planned on naming her Anna Mae after his grandma. I have told everyone that's her name and now I'm not sure. I'm kinda bitter that I'm naming my daughter after his family for him and he still can't bring himself to tell ppl we are having a baby( I have eight weeks left). He has told his family but he hasnt told his friends and co workers. What should I do?

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  • Kimberly4411Kimberly4411
    You're going to be calling her that for the rest of your life. I'd pick a name i liked, then when she's born, say she doesn't look like an anna mae and tell everyone the new one. Your family wont care, and they're the only ones that matter in my opinion
  • MostephaniteMostephanite
    I love the name Anna Mae but if I was in your situation I don't know if I could name her that .. every time I heard it would remind me of the fact that he was hiding such an amazing blessing
  • kiwi_momkiwi_mom
    @Mostephanite that's how I feel. I love the name but I feel like he has ruined it.

    @Kimberly4411 that's a good idea.

    I like the names

    Clover Mae or Lorelei but I'm not sure I love them like I did Anna. I'm so lost
  • julesjules
    Ya if u don't like it change it I know people always asked me what I was going to name my daughter and although I took my bf opinion I picked the name I liked he just end up liking it too that's all. But the point is the same people that were asking me bf I had her still asked after and I asked y and they always said the same thing which was people once they have the baby can change their mind once they see the lo happens all the time :)
  • MostephaniteMostephanite
    I love the name Lorelei that was my girl name I picked out... I don't blame you for how you feel at all... but I wouldn't wait to tell.him about the change of heart because if he gets upset right after your lo is born than he ruined that too
  • whozdherwhozdher
    What if you pick a diffrent first name and Anna Mae as a second and just call her both( I have friends that do that ) but I do think its wrong for hiding her maybe he's just not sure how his friends and co workers will react and he's worried ? Have you asked him ?
  • kiwi_momkiwi_mom
    @whozdher I have asked many times. He said he hasn't had time, or he will say they don't care, or he's busy. He tells me not to worry, it has nothing to do with me and it's my fault that I stress over it. He also says he will tell them when he feels he has the opportunity. It makes me sick. I try so hard not to stress over it but it's always in the back of my mind.


    @mostephanite I have said something to him. He says I doing it just to piss him off. Hmmm maybe that's him. I think he's not telling ppl cause he knows it bothers me.
  • LeviLuv8LeviLuv8
    unless you love the name still don't do it. Because that is pretty hard not to tell everyone! Who keeps a secret like that and gets the baby named after his family!
  • kiwi_momkiwi_mom
    @bexiewexie thanks. When will you find out about your little one or two:)
  • kiwi_momkiwi_mom
    @BabyLuv8 I agree! That's why I'm questioning the name.

    Something else to mention, this is my third child and his first. Do you think maybe he's just not getting it?
  • pregoagainYAYpregoagainYAY
    I think the name is beautiful...Go with your gut instinct mama....And why in the absolute hell has he not told his friends and co workers etc? You totally don't have to tell me lol I was just wondering :)
  • kiwi_momkiwi_mom
    @pregoagainYAY thanks so much and that's the million dollar question!

    Would anyone else be upset if their so hadn't told friends and co workers?
  • kiwi_momkiwi_mom
    @mommytobe20 thank you. I'm glad to hear other mom to bes would be hurt too because he tells me I need to see a therapist and I'm being irrational about it. He says a NORMAL person would care:(
  • kiwi_momkiwi_mom
    @bexiewexie I will be watching for an update! Good luck
  • whozdherwhozdher
    Oh, then sometimes you have to leave it be or be dirty and send him flowers or something to work saying I'm excited for us to be parents your gonna be a great dad :-) and then " accidently " text one of his friends with the something similar I'm dirty though I would but then my bf would say after that he shoulda just told them. Does he know how much it hurts you ?
  • kiwi_momkiwi_mom
    @whozdher lmao. I have thought about sending balloons that say its a girl on them. Unfortunately I don't know any of his friends numbers. We have been together six and a half years and I never see his friends. He goes out every Thursday night with them and that's about it.

    this is where I have left it with him: I don't know what I want to name the baby and if he hasn't told his friends or co workers, then he better hope I don't go into labor when he's not around because I will not call him. Then he can explain to his daughter he missed her birth bc he wouldn't tell ppl.
  • MáthairMáthair
    It's a very pretty name but Anna Mea reminds me of Anime. So I picture a bunch of half dressed school girls running around fighting dragons or whatever. **sorry!!!**

    I think Clover Mae is beautiful and I LOVE the name Lorelie, I wanted to name my daughter Lorelie but hubby fell in love with the name Lilium. So we have a Lilium Méabh.
  • LeviLuv8LeviLuv8
    he sounds kinda shady. Like he is ashamed, you don't know his friends and you've been together that long! And he isnt telling ppl. somethings not right!
  • kiwi_momkiwi_mom
    @BabyLuv8 I don't get it either. It seems shady to me but I can't seem to find anything, believe me I have searched. If he's cheating on me or doing anything strange, its beyond me how he's doing it. I question him all the time these days and he says no then gets mad because I don't leave it alone.
  • LeviLuv8LeviLuv8
    Well I think you deserve a good reason as to why the hell he doesn't tell anyone about ever pregnancy!
  • armywife19armywife19
    @kiwi_mom girl you stand up for how you feel! Just say that u wanna be honest and u like another name better
  • whozdherwhozdher
    Wow that's along time not to know his friends. I know I don't know a lot of my bfs friends but I know his closest. The ones that really matter. Maybe he doesn't tell his friends cuz then they won't invite him out anymore ? Maybe hes worried about that? I wish I had better stuff to say.I agree with @armywife19 stand up for how you feel.
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