Men SUCK!
So yesterday baby daddy and I were talking finally and he tells me he isn't happy. Then today we talked some more and he says he wants a break.
Ya well where are you going to go d bag? (he said he doesnt know) then I told him well you better find someone with a car so you can get to work. (Both cars are mine and in my name)
You know what he says to that? "Never mind I said anything We dont need a break"
I went back at him oh no you said you wanted a break if you didn't mean it you wouldn't have said it. So you need to figure out what you want to do.
Grr men piss me off!
Ya well where are you going to go d bag? (he said he doesnt know) then I told him well you better find someone with a car so you can get to work. (Both cars are mine and in my name)
You know what he says to that? "Never mind I said anything We dont need a break"
I went back at him oh no you said you wanted a break if you didn't mean it you wouldn't have said it. So you need to figure out what you want to do.
Grr men piss me off!
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I would try to talk to him more and let him know just talking one day is not going to magically make things better right away. It seems like a lot of guys, and maybe some girls, think that everything will change for the better overnight which is SO not the case. Any relationship takes constant communication, consideration, and comprising; even the happy ones.
I think you were right to give him time to decide what he wants but it is up to you as well. If he wants to be with you one day but needs a break the next then you'll have to be the one to decide if that is what you want. I've been in a relationship where the guy only wants to be around when things were going well and honestly it killed me inside for years until I said enough and left. I don't know if that is how it is for you but I figured I'd mention it.
I talked to a good friend of mine (male) and he said it sounds like he just wants to go screw around with other girls and have a home here but not like be with me so he wants to be on a break but live here... Sad to say but I think he is right.
My baby daddys words exactly " I guess I thought this family stuff would be easier"
I don't know how to make it any easier.. I take care of Makenzie (he doesn't because she cries every time he touches her) I cook I clean I pay the bills I shop I work (he does too) I DO EVERYTHING! What the hell does he want easier? All he does is work come home sleep eat and text on his phone 24/7
I know I need to have him leave for a break but he can't loose his job which is 20 mins from here. So he needs to find somewhere to stay with someone who can take him to work. I just dont want him to have my car if he doesnt end up coming back. Then if he doesnt come back I have to move back home with my parents because I can't afford this apartment alone :-( He is really fucking things up (parden my french)
Save some money honey. That is ALWAYS a good idea ( Been divorced and learned).
He is going to his moms this weekend which is an hour away I guess. Well he says he doesn't know still because he doesn't know how he would get there. I WANT him to go. I am so over all of it I have no feelings what so ever about it. i think I was done a while ago when he cheated. I wanted it to work for her but she is scared of him anyway and doesnt do anything so whats the point if im not happy why try anymore.
He is trying to act like nothing is wrong and that he didn't say he wanted a break he tried to take it back and I said oh no you didn't just say it for the hell of it thats not something u throw around u said it u ment it. I am going to lay out all my bills and see if my mom would give me an extra 100 a month if I could finish the lease I have here at this apartment ( we just moved in in Feb! UGH!) but it is all for the best
Plus I have already been doing it alone so nothing will change I just wont have to clean up after him anymore ;-)
Now he is telling me he wants me to pack all his stuff and bring it to him along with all his money. NEWS FLASH I am not doing that you should have thought of that before. You wanted the break not me so you should have thought all this crap through before hand. Plus he need to help pay rent this month. He is being a dbag about that too so I am going to get child support ( I wasn't going to because I just wanted to be done with him and I know if he stayed out there he would lose his job) But now that he is being like this I don't care anymore.
I am going to sell my other car and hopfully be able to finish out my lease here (Until next feb :-( ) and then I want to get a place that I can afford myself (i am hoping I don't have to move back home I dont want to do that to my parents)
At least I got one great thing out of this relationship. My beautiful daughter and strengh :-)
I'm a stay at how mom.. with no job and no savings OF MY OWN.. I was so fustrated with my honey one day I told him I wanted him to move out... we dont even argue that often and when we do... over the little dumb stuff its traumatic to me.
NEWSFLASH
I don't have a job!
I don't have a saving!
I don't have a pot to piss in... or a window to throw it out.
I have a car... but I wont be able to put gas in it if he left.
So lets just say I was soooooo... relieved that he decided to get rid of the attitute and said he wanted to make it work... (wipe'n the sweat off my head) THANK GOD!
Sometime this week I am going to bring all this stuff out to him and then I think I will feel even more releave :-)