DNC I need help and advise, so lost, depressed, and crying non stop !
So I went in today for my 12 week ultrasound scan for the first trimester screening. This is the test where they do the finger prick and ultrasound to check for the d.s., and the 2 other things that cause birth defects. Well, I had a feeling that this wasn't going to be good. As soon as she put the ultrasound thing on my belly there wasn't a heart beat ;( . OMG this has to be the hardest thing EVER in my life!!!! I had a scan done at 6 weeks and there was a heart beat and today there wasn't. I now have to have a DNC done tomorrow and I am freaking out!! I've never had this done before. I am looking for advise as to what to do. Be put completely under or just be knocked out to where I don't know what's happening but be awake. If this makes any since to you all. I am so lost, confused, empty, and feel like I am the one to blame.. The doctors said it wasn't my fault but I know differently. I was under SO much stress I just feel like that's what caused me to miscarry. I watched you tube videos as to what they do and it looks very painful. I have already had around 22 surgeries and really don't want to have another surgery, but I know I have to. These surgeries were all due to a car accident I was in. They say it only takes around 15 to 20 mins to have this done but I also don't know if I can take the pain of hearing them suck my "dead" baby out of me. God this sucks so bad saying that. I feel honestly like I'm having an abortion with a DNC. Seriously this really kills me. I am sorry I am repeting myself but I am crying and lost. Just looking for people to tell me there input if you have ever had a DNC before and how it feels and what to expect, and if your pregnant how long after you had the DNC did you get pregnant again. I'm fearing that I won't get pregnant again and that scares me. Why does this have to happen seriously. Women already go through enough as it is but loosing a baby you were carrying isn't any better. Thanks ladies... This has to be one of the hardest days of my life!!!! They also gave me the option of taking a pill or to have the DNC. I said whatever way is least painful. The doc said the DNC. I don't understand how that is least painful besides probably seeing the baby come out of you when you pass the baby. Is that the only reason though??? Please give me your thoughts. Again thans ladies.
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It is very painful no matter how many weeks along you. I was 8 weeks and I too went in for a normal check up to find out the same thing you did...no heart beat and we had seen it at a 6 week appt. It was pretty devastating. I only had a couple days from when I found out until I had the DNC so I didn't get much time to process it either. I'm so sorry for your loss, I understand how you feel completely. I hope everything goes as good as it can for you and wish you luck in trying for another baby in the future!!
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@jadynbabygirl I am sorry for your loss as well. I wish you the best of luck!! You made me a bit more comfortable with this. This is the reason why I posted this was to get answers as to how people did with them after and during. I had heavy periods as it was so I am hoping maybe the DNC will help the periods as well. I hope I don't bleed to much. I am not planning on having another one for a bit of time and until my divorce is final as well. That's another thing that's been hard for me though out all of this. I had the extra stress of being pregnant and going through a divorce. It all sucks!!! But I will eventually move on and the pain will go away some what. I wqas told by my mom to have the DNC because she had like 3 miscarriages and didn't have one and never could get pregnant again. That is her though. I don't want to chance not being able to get pregnant again. I have 4 already and the guy I am seeing has 2. I mean we have enough and I wouldn't have to have any more but we want at least one together. If I have another I do if not it's ok to. But again it still doesn't take the pain away from loosing our baby we had together. I haven't been with my husband for almost 8 months going on 9. It has been a rough road though out all of this!! I know God has plans and he won't give us more then we can handle but at times I some times want to question him as to why we have to go though this all you know. Well, to all of you thanks again!!!!!