i feel like giving up ..

mommyof1mommyof1
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
I'm 18 years old, I'll be 19 march 18th and I have my own place, and in school. And 15 wks and 5 days pregnant! The father of my child is in jail for almost 20 years, his family nor mines really help and I'm at the point where I want to break down and cry. I think about abortion a lot now as I'm getting further along because I can't do this on my own. I just wish I had some support and help :'(

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  • may1mommatobemay1mommatobe
    Were you are mistaken is you can do this on your OWN. Evidentally you are a very strong individual to have maintained your own place and continued with schooling for so long. I am a first time mom 24yrs I live with my bd family (&him) but I am so used to having my own place its making me crazy this is the first time since I was 17 that I have lived with someone. I work and ride the bus 2hrs home so he can keep my car to work nights and there are so many days I feel like giving up but then I think I can do this and just look forward to the day I get to meet my lil prince <):). I know its hard but you can do it and once you see your baby you will know there is nothing thats going to stop me from providing for him/her. Keep your head up
  • mommyof1mommyof1
    Thank you, it's just so hard. Especially when my own mother turns her back on me, I can't call her and ask for nothing. Shes always putting her bf before her kids. I love my baby more than anything but sometimes I feel like why should I bring a baby into this world if I'm not financially stable.
  • may1mommatobemay1mommatobe
    I went through those thoughts of not being financially stable but there are alot of government agencies out there that will assist you and I feel why not use them our tax dollars pay for them. What state do you live in .... (my mom is a dopehead she called me yesterday asking me for money because she knows I am saving for when I move next month)
  • mommyof1mommyof1
    edited March 2011
    I live in West Virginia, they'll give u a check until ur baby is one which is all I need until then because I don't want to keep depending on others so I need to step up. It just sucks my mom isn't there, she doesn't ask and doesn't care.
  • mommyof1mommyof1
    * keep, not Jesus lol
  • may1mommatobemay1mommatobe
    I agree I am in the process of looking for an apartment right now it just seems like its to much I think about thingd like what if baby comes early where am I going to put him. I am 32+2
  • MamaBear315MamaBear315
    First of all, I think your thoughts of abortion may be rooted in feelings of sefdoubt . You may think you can't do it... but you can! Single mothers can do it- my mother raised me as a single momma! She did wonderfully!
    Just remember that once you look at that child.... you'll know. You'll MAKE ends meet...... you can do this....
    Of course, it is your choice, but abortion isn't just a quick fix. Its a very serious decision. My friend was pressured by her parents to do so, and ended up hospitalized for a SERIOUS suicide attempt. She has horribl visible scars, and night terrors where she dreams of sleeping next to her baby.... its a Very serious decision.Nuff said..
    But my personal opinion in your situation is that you can raise Your child
    Please remember, abortion is a permanent solution to temporary situations.... in most cases at least.

    That's my two cents.
    stay strong, lovey. We women can withstand a lot of pressure. You can do this.
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