he said y should his whole life change jus cuz im pregnant..wtf??

sweetness06sweetness06
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
He said y should his life change jus cuz I'm pregnant?? Some support huh?? I thought I knew him.. were both 23 kwn each other since we were 12 been dating for a yr..ever since I found I was pregnant he hasn't been supportive said he would be but he hasn't..he doesn't answer his phone when he thinks I'm being too whining he asks how in feeling after I complains that he doesn't..we dnt live together but ever since we found out he hasn't stayed the night wit me & this is not this is not the time when I wanna b alone...some support..& he's pushing for this abortion Saturday ....which is also his bday weekend so he made plans..he jus plan on taking me to the clinic & bringing me back hm not even staying wit me afterwards to make sure I'm ok..he made his hair appt the same day as my appt he's excuse "its the only day she's available plus its his bday so he wants to get it done"...i was crying my eyes out last night & he knew this but after I called him a million times he still didn't answer his phone...yea some support huh?? Now I'm like eff him I dnt need him..he texted this morning but I didn't respond...got his calls goin straight to voicemail..I'm done..I feel pushed into this abortion cuz I dnt wanna raise a child w/o a father

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  • briffyg89briffyg89
    edited March 2011
    U dnt have to do nun u dnt wanna do if he dnt want to man up fuck him cuz one day he will regret it I promise u huni dnt cry be strong fa yo baby.... dats yo blessing cherish it darling its a beautiful thing.... things will get better cuz trouble dnt last always.... I hope it get better fa u keep yo head up.. if u want to keep yo baby keep he or she follow your heart.......
  • lilpeapod913lilpeapod913
    No no no! Aww I'm so sorry you are going thru this! Don't go thru w it Saturday just to pls him. You will still have time after Saturday. He is being a jerk. I had an ab in 2006..it was the toughest thing ever and I found myself constantly wanting to get pregnant again. I always thought "what if". I am not w him anymore, we split up in 2009. We went thru it together but I do think it was always in the back of my mind that he wasn't supportive of it and didn't step up to the plate as a man to allow us to have that child. I have forgiven myself, but it is still a hard thought. I was only 5 weeks when I had it done. It was a scary time. I'm not trying to found preachy, just think about you and your wishes! This will change you forever, whatever you decide!
  • FirstTymeMom2BFirstTymeMom2B
    Wow thats horrible. i am so sorry you are having to go through this. I guess all I have to say is if you want to keep this.baby, keep it... With or without him in your life... If not, and you have an abortion..... Atleast you not having a baby with an asshole like that. Good luck.
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    Thank u so much...I told his ass he needs to man up & accept the consequences for his action...he's really jus a child & I'm done! I felt embarrassed for crying to him cuz im not a cryer I usually suck it up & handle my situations but this something I would have NVR seen comin...& for him to b so insensitive & jus not care I dnt c how u could ever treat me this way...
  • Tanners_MommyTanners_Mommy
    My best friend went through the same thing last year and she went through with the abortion do her bf would stay with her and she tells me their isn't a day that goes by she don't regret it if that's what you really wanna do in your heart I'm not here to judge but whatever you do decide make sure its for you not him. You don't need him there are plenty of wonderful women who raise babies by themselves all the time. Best wishes and stay strong honey
  • xHayleyx22xHayleyx22
    My ex went horrible when he found out. Nearly the same situation. Told me to get rid. And I thought stuff you. I want this baby whether you do or not. I'm 35 weeks now and can't wait to meet my lil boy. Best choice I've ever made!
  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    You gotta do what you want. Justknow there are much much worse things in the world then being raised just by a mom.
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    My thing I dnt want anything to do wit him anymore & after Saturday I'm NVR speaking to him again..I see his true colors now & wat type of person he really is..& its not the person I thought I knew.. I jus want us to go our separate ways for good..I didn't regret my 1st abortion back in 2008 naturally I wasn't happy about it but I knw it was the right choice @ the time..but I feel like I will regret this 1..& Idk y I was engaged the 1st time & had so much support frm my ex..but this time its a total opposite but I still feel like I will regret this if I go thru wit it...
  • squrit299squrit299
    Can I tell u something? I had an abortion and it killed me!! I never and still haven't let my self for get it I hate my self for doing it girl think about k just really think please I don't want u or anyone else to go throw what I had to I'm now 9 weeks pregnant and I'm So happy but did u no that There is a 15% chance u Can never have kid again if u do this please think about it please
  • squrit299squrit299
    I'm So Sorry that u have to go throw this I really am I wish no one had to go throw that and make that choice, I don't no What I can tell u to no do it but I been throw it and take it form someone who's been throw it and ill tell u I regret it EVERY day,
  • averysmom2011averysmom2011
    @sweetness06 Thank about it this way if u go an have an abortion do u honestly an truely think thats gonna make him change? He is tryin to control you by getting you to do something you may not wanna do! So think about this before you do something you will regret. You can b a great mother without him in your life, u dnt need or deserve to be treated that way an ur unborn baby doesnt deserve a bad like that. You can be a very loving mother to your baby.
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    I'm def gonna think this though..yea ny appt is Saturday..but I dnt knw if I'm gonna go.
  • averysmom2011averysmom2011
    Keep n mind that he may not change no matter what u decide to do! Dont do something u may regret an he still the same.
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    I dnt wanna be wit him regardless of the choice I make
  • happy2bhappy2b
    Girl I'm also 23 and so is bd...we found out we were preg and everything changed ....he yells at ne when I complain I'm sick or when I don't feel good finally he told ne he doesn't know what he wants when a week ago he told me he got me preg on purpose ... hun its no fair guys have that choice no fair at all but for some reason they do if anything this had made Me want this lil one more because this will be the one person that I can love with everything I have who won't abandon me like his/her father did...it hurts a lot but its life and it'll only make ya stronger...I'm now going thru a possible m/c I find out for sure tomorrow...so take this as a gift that u can cherish forever and know he missed out on a lil miracle called life ...keep ur head up girl u don't deserve him if he's gonna b a lil boy
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    edited March 2011
    @happy2b thank u I'm 5wks & its like b4 we knew for sure he act like he would b so happy now that its here he dnt wanna deal wit it..its like i dnt either but I cant runaway I dnt have a choice ...y should u get to deal wit it when u want.
  • gladiator007gladiator007
    Good luck on your decision as this must be very difficult for you. I hopey you consider having the baby and I hope you have a supportive family & friends that will be there for you.
  • happy2bhappy2b
    I meant to say he don't deserve u not u don't deserve him! He don't deserve u!
  • smile422smile422
    @sweetness06 I had an abortion 3years ago and regretted it that same day. A year later I ended up pregos again and went into premature labor at 24 weeks. I lost my baby girl and now I'm having issues with my pregnancy because of an abortion that happen 3years ago. Count your blessing and do what is good for you. Because trust me there is not a day that goes by that I don't think about both .my angles. Be strong and show that good for nothing sob you don't need him. And all of this happen while I was married. Some men never learn to go up and marriage do notmean you will not have issues.
  • breewashington08breewashington08
    Sweetie I'm sorry ur goin thru smthn so difficult. U knw evrybody here at pregly is here 4 u on watevr u decide. The only thng I can say is plz really really make sure a abortion is wat u want, I hav a friend who went thru it an regrets it evryday.. thers so many single moms out here doin a great job. A fatherless pregnancy isn't anybody idea of fun but plz know u can raise a child witout him. Let it b his loss.. don't go thru it only cuz u dnt want ur baby 2 not hav a father, cuz believe it or not even if u an ur baby dad don't work out I knw 4 a fact thers a man that wld b with u an treat ur child like ther own. Jus really make sure this is smthn u wana do b4 u go thru it. Here if u need 2 talk :) goodluck hun
  • eaparkereaparker
    @sweetness06 i know u had one before but if u r doubting urself then don't do it. When the baby comes terminate his rights and move on. There will be someone else that will come along and love u and ur baby. I am raising 5 that came with my husband.
  • sweetness06sweetness06
    I'm hoping if I decide to keep it I knw he's come around..if not than ill jus b another STRONG single mother who can say I didn't give up!
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