Does this sound rude to you?

EricaK22EricaK22
edited June 2012 in Not Pregnancy Related - NPR
Since my sons 1st birthday is coming up on July 9th, I'm trying to cram everything together for his party. I'm not too sure how many people are going to attend, but I want to keep it to 20 ppl or less. I know that my mom, her bf, my sister, her bf (maybe if he doesn't have work) will be attending. My bf has a huge family, and I really don't want to invite all of the mainly because their super rude, and will complain that they don't want to eat any of the foods we're making. So I'm going to ONLY invite like 4-6 max of them. Does that sound rude? I don't know how their going to feel, but I really can't afford to feed a damn army of people, let alone people who are going to come and complain! I'm just hoping that there isn't going to be a problem, and someone will drop by unexpected. I'm so stressed out over this, and haven't let my bf know how I feel yet. He knows that we can't feed an army of people, and I don't want my mom(I'm hoping she's going to help me cook stuff) having to make massive qualities of food and no one eats it or they all of a sudden ”can't come” to the party.

Now I'm just rambling....

Comments

  • lyndsay1983lyndsay1983
    Don't stress! Its about your baby no one else and people should respect that x
  • SalasMommySalasMommy
    Talk to him about it maybe there really isn't any need to invite everyone just the ones thY matter its a celebration not a place you invite people who are just going to criticize and make uguly faces. Just saying
  • EricaK22EricaK22
    @salasmommy very true..I just worry a lot, plus to top it off we live with his family...I know that his grandpa will want to be there since he's the only one that really seems to really care. , And I don't want to come back to others in the house here saying ”why wasn't I invited?” ”when did Aidens party happen?”
  • SalasMommySalasMommy
    Oh I think if they live there with you they should be invited hun bc ur right u don't want to come home to why wasn't I invited for petes sake I live with you. Lol. Just try to male the best of it hun its for your babyboy (:
  • EricaK22EricaK22
    @salasmommy I kinda feel half compelled to just tell them we're going to just go out to dinner, and just do a small get together,.and they can celebrate with him when we get back home. Because I'm starting to feel like they won't want to come anyways since it's going to be at a park, and it's going to be super hot out..so I shouldn't waste my time.
  • SalasMommySalasMommy
    If you want you can invite them once you do that its like you have done your part if they don't want to come that's on them. Talk to your hubby I'm just afraid it will bring problems since yoh live with them. It's always complicated when you live with family members
  • NylasMommyNylasMommy
    I dont think its rude at all. What would b rude if u invite the whole army lol n have no Food haha. But since its his Family that is huge y dont u have ur bf ask his Mom for sum money so u can invite everyone & just hope they dont all show up lol
  • EricaK22EricaK22
    @nylasmommy his mom is not invited period. She called cps and said we we're abusing our son, which is complete bullshit..so she's a no no for the party!!! Maybe if his whole family wants to come they can pitch in like $30 for the extra food..I never thought of that..so thanks for the idea :)
  • SalasMommySalasMommy
    Omg are you serious what a bishhh I can't believe she would do that
  • Janet_2011Janet_2011
    edited June 2012
    Girl it isn't rude is your kid's party, you invite who you feel like inviting.. why would anyone want rude people ruining the day.
  • NylasMommyNylasMommy
    Ohhh i remember reading about that but forgot who post It. Wow she's evil. And no problem. Dont ask for 30 ask for 100 lol.
  • EricaK22EricaK22
    @salasmommy I couldn't believe she did either, until she flipped out, and started talking shit, and made it way apparent that she was the one that called!!! It still pisses me off, and I think she tried to make a call again since the cps lady came back to our house the other day, but I didn't hear the door, just seen her card wedged in the window. Crazy mother in law! Lol
  • SalasMommySalasMommy
    @EricaK22 cps will see if you are taking food care.of your baby and they will close the case but Omg that is one crazy bishhh. I would've dropped kicked her
  • EricaK22EricaK22
    @Janet_2011 I don't even want to deal with them...I see enough of them already lol if worst comes to worst they can eat whatever left over cake we bring back. :p
  • EricaK22EricaK22
    @salasmommy I hope that's all she was coming back for. She didn't even find anything when she came..so I don't know what she wants, unless she wants to talk to my bf since he was working at the time she came and didn't get to talk to him.
  • SalasMommySalasMommy
    Don't worry hun it will all work out when your hubs is there call her so she can see him and get it over with
  • ashley_smashleyashley_smashley
    Ok, I know you hate them BUT i don't think you can get away with just inviting a few. If it were me and I couldn't afford to feed them all, I would invite them and make it a pot luck. Then they can bring food they like, and no one gets their panties in a twist because they weren't invited. Plus they are your LOs family. Now if they have done awful things to you/ your husband I wouldn't invite any of them abd just make it a your side of the family party.
  • SalasMommySalasMommy
    I like @ashley_smashley idea about pot luck everyone can bring an appetizer or something (:
  • ashley_smashleyashley_smashley
    Then they can't complain that they don't like any of the food....Although from the sound of it they might complain anyway! 8-|
  • candy101candy101
    On the b-day if u are doing it at a park u could just do hot dogs and tell them upfront. If they don't like it then they don't need to come. But he more people the more gifts for your lo.
  • starrxoxo9starrxoxo9
    I agree with @Ashley_smashley inviting some over others is just gonna cause bigger problems for you. Just tell everyone to bring something, even if its a bag of chips or a 2 liter of pop. Every little bit will help and no one can call you out!! :)
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  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    I had a similar problem for McKinley..her birthday is in less than two weeks! We don't live with my family as of last week, but my mom was putting pressure on me to invite her brother and his wife (who've seen McKinley once!!) And my dads brother and his wife (who are just rude!!) But I think I'm going to keep it small. I can't afford to feed people who I don't even want there. I kinda feel bad about not inviting my dads brother, since I'm inviting his son (tho they've been estranged till a year ago) and my uncles twin sister. But honestly, I just want a chill relaxed day without stressing about stupid family politics.
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