please help

misspregger6989misspregger6989
edited June 2012 in Parenting
Im having a really hard time now decoding what to do. Im thinking about leaving my Babys daddy. I have no where to go and no family here that can help. We have a lease on a house and he pays for most of the bills. I don't want to break his heart or mess up my 9 month olds life. But im just not happy. Haven't been for a while. I just wish I knew what to do.

Comments

  • Mrz_JacksonMrz_Jackson
    Is there anyway to try to spice things up again like date nights or sumthn like that ?
  • ashley_smashleyashley_smashley
    You need to talk to him about how your feeling. Communication is key!
  • My2BoysMy2Boys
    Have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe he can try and make you happy again or bring that spark back?
  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    I would try communicating first. Whether it be talking or writing him a letter expressing how you feel.(I like letters cause they give me a chance to think over what I say, how I word it, and sometimes when I write, I find myself writing something that I hadn't consciously known was a problem)
    Talk about what the problem is and set clear expectations for each other that could help fix the problems.
    If that does not help, consider having a third party talk with you both, whether it be a councillor, or a trusted mutual unbiased friend.

    I Think before leaving someone, especially someone you have a lot invested in, ie a kid, you should leave when you can say I've tried every single thing to fix this, I've done all that I can. I can close this chapter of my life with no regrets and no 'what ifs?'

    I would also like to add that I was still hormonal and tempermental after I gave birth, up to six months quite bad, and now at a year, I still have days where I feel a little out of sorts. I'm not saying that that is what is going on with you, just giving you some food for thought.

    Also, as a disclaimer, if he's abusive, and that's why you want to leave, leave!! There are tons of social programs that are designed to help people in these kind of situations.

    Sorry for the novel! Hugs to you!!
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