just another vent
If I had a job, I would pack my bags right this second, go straight to where ever you file for child support, file, and never come back to this house. Thats all my daughter gets from my husband anyways.. and I get zero support other than financially. So there'd be NO difference.
This is whats happened today: I am 37+4 weeks pregnant with our son.. I have an 11 month old. I tossed and turned all night last night. Couldn't get comfortable.. then had to get up and give my daughter a bottle in the middle of the night and get her back to sleep. My husband was up late WAITING FOR ME TO GO TO SLEEP SO HE COULD SCREW ME! (His words not mine!). He had to get up at 6:30 and work from 7a-11a. His alarm clock woke our daughter up so I had to fet up with her. She went back to sleep around 7:45 but I had to start getting ready to take her to a doctors appt. So Ive been up since 6:30 after having a crappy night. So we get home and Keegan lays down fpr a nap, so does husband, and he says 'get me up when she gets up'.. well 25 mins later she wakes up. So i wake him too.. des he get up? Nope Just says Oh Keegan Im so tired I need to sleep. Uh hello, I havent slept, I didn't get a nap! So what makes him think he's so special and gets to sleep? Im freaking pregnant, exhausted, hurting, chasing after a baby.. yet his ass is in bed sleeping. I get zero help. And he wonders why I don't like him? He eats, sleeps, shits, and works. THATS IT! Ive tried to talk to him numerous times, it never works, maybe for 3-4 days.
Ugh. Vent over.
This is whats happened today: I am 37+4 weeks pregnant with our son.. I have an 11 month old. I tossed and turned all night last night. Couldn't get comfortable.. then had to get up and give my daughter a bottle in the middle of the night and get her back to sleep. My husband was up late WAITING FOR ME TO GO TO SLEEP SO HE COULD SCREW ME! (His words not mine!). He had to get up at 6:30 and work from 7a-11a. His alarm clock woke our daughter up so I had to fet up with her. She went back to sleep around 7:45 but I had to start getting ready to take her to a doctors appt. So Ive been up since 6:30 after having a crappy night. So we get home and Keegan lays down fpr a nap, so does husband, and he says 'get me up when she gets up'.. well 25 mins later she wakes up. So i wake him too.. des he get up? Nope Just says Oh Keegan Im so tired I need to sleep. Uh hello, I havent slept, I didn't get a nap! So what makes him think he's so special and gets to sleep? Im freaking pregnant, exhausted, hurting, chasing after a baby.. yet his ass is in bed sleeping. I get zero help. And he wonders why I don't like him? He eats, sleeps, shits, and works. THATS IT! Ive tried to talk to him numerous times, it never works, maybe for 3-4 days.
Ugh. Vent over.
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@gatorbob LOL!
@mrsstanley_X2 haha! I bet that gets his butt in gear! Mine would just lay and cry then act like I should take care of him.
And I hate him all the time too
@baileygoose I'd have no idea what to do with myself if I had a superdad around. I wasnt sure those even existed. He's good with our daughter the 30 minutes he gives her attention. He keeps saying "you do realize I'll have to help more when #2 gets here, right?" But that will never happen. I don't expect one single thing to change. And yep, just 4 hours. And its not even physical labor. He is a 911 dispatcher, so he sits in an air conditioned room, in a padded seat, with internet and tv! Nothing that could tire him out!!!
@usplus2 sometimes I do think that is the oroblem.. he sees my title as "SAHM" so I should have to do it all. But what I dont understand is, does he not want the quality, bonding time with her? She's learning and growing and changing so quickly and he's missing out. Ive got such sweet memories and bonding times I'll always remember when she gets bigger... he doesn't.
@sands3 I kick and push and yell and when I wake up he seriousky says "Lanette, whats wrong with you? Why are you hitting me?" Like he pretends he wasnt bother me or doing anything at all.
I hope it gets better but if he's not willing to change then he never will and that makes him not worth your time of effort
I know how frustrating it gets when you don't get sex ever but still it's called respect.
Your hubby should help more especially during pregnancy...that's alot of work...plus no sleep at night is harder.
Thanks for thinking of me lol. My marriage is still roughly the same but we haven't been arguing as much lately. Intimacy etc is still non existent but I think it's going to take some time while my health returns fully.
ive almost accomplished my first goal (purchased a car cuz asshole took over mine,its junk anyways lol) next step a job & im not gonna tell him how much i make so i could put security money aside.your situation is all to familiar so if u need to talk im here hun