Spread To Thin, Now Im called the B**** (sry kinda long & venting)
Ok, so I have 2 major stressors in my life right now....my own father and my mother in law. My father is an alcoholic and has been all my life, and sometimes he will drink himself into having a heart attack....this has happened several times over the last 13 years. My mother in law has a brain tumor, has had it since before I met my husband, and she is legally blind. Neither of them can drive. For the past 9 years the two of them have depended on me, a SAHM, to drive them to various places such as Dr appts, grocery stores or just tag along with me when I go do something. Both of them are married but their spouses usually can't seem to do for them what they need, so it has always fallen on my shoulders. Also, these two dislike each other so if one finds out that I did something for the other, then they automatically need something.
Over the last year or so I've been becoming resentful as to being a taxi. I'm never really thanked by either of them, and they both seem to expect me to drop everything and do for them when they want and need it. I'm now 11 days from my due date with baby #4, and I have a 2, 5, and 8 yr old. My husband works 3rd and sleeps most of the day. My OB was concerned about me when I went I'm one day and my bp was way low and I was pale and tired. He told me I needed to slow down. I decided that I was done being a taxi and was going to focus on my family. I told both my father and mother in law that I was just being spread to thin. At first they seemed to understand, but now that I'm about to give birth they are back to needing to go here and there. I can hardly drive as it is and I just want to stay home. My fascinating thankfully has been working a lot and gets a ride from my uncle. But my mother in law says I'm being selfish cuz she depends on me and that if I don't help her then she has no one. That her son promised to always take care of her, which is true but I didn't make that promise, he did and I'm the one stuck doing it all. She keeps calling my hubby and crying and he told her that she needs to understand I'm pregnant and chasing after the kids, but then she tells him he is an ungrateful son and a pos and I'm the worst daughter in law ever....
I just feel I'm being spread too thin between these 2 and my hubby is trying to keep a balance between his mom and me but he just tells me to suck it up cuz she has always been a drama queen and he is tired of dealing with her. Well so am I!!! I honestly don't care what she or my father think of me of say about me anymore, I'm tired of doing for everyone and getting nothing in return. I need to be a mother to my children and a wife to my husband. What more do I really need? I think it is time my sister and hubby's sister step up and do for the parents now,one is single and the other has one child. Am I being selfish, maybe but I feel that its ok considering I've been doing it for so long.....
Sorry its so long but I really just need to vent this.
Over the last year or so I've been becoming resentful as to being a taxi. I'm never really thanked by either of them, and they both seem to expect me to drop everything and do for them when they want and need it. I'm now 11 days from my due date with baby #4, and I have a 2, 5, and 8 yr old. My husband works 3rd and sleeps most of the day. My OB was concerned about me when I went I'm one day and my bp was way low and I was pale and tired. He told me I needed to slow down. I decided that I was done being a taxi and was going to focus on my family. I told both my father and mother in law that I was just being spread to thin. At first they seemed to understand, but now that I'm about to give birth they are back to needing to go here and there. I can hardly drive as it is and I just want to stay home. My fascinating thankfully has been working a lot and gets a ride from my uncle. But my mother in law says I'm being selfish cuz she depends on me and that if I don't help her then she has no one. That her son promised to always take care of her, which is true but I didn't make that promise, he did and I'm the one stuck doing it all. She keeps calling my hubby and crying and he told her that she needs to understand I'm pregnant and chasing after the kids, but then she tells him he is an ungrateful son and a pos and I'm the worst daughter in law ever....
I just feel I'm being spread too thin between these 2 and my hubby is trying to keep a balance between his mom and me but he just tells me to suck it up cuz she has always been a drama queen and he is tired of dealing with her. Well so am I!!! I honestly don't care what she or my father think of me of say about me anymore, I'm tired of doing for everyone and getting nothing in return. I need to be a mother to my children and a wife to my husband. What more do I really need? I think it is time my sister and hubby's sister step up and do for the parents now,one is single and the other has one child. Am I being selfish, maybe but I feel that its ok considering I've been doing it for so long.....
Sorry its so long but I really just need to vent this.
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,daughter and that's all u need to be. No one said u had to be a taxi to anyone.